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Sheva Carr: Warmest, warmest welcome
Sheva Carr: as we unite
Sheva Carr: together today to empower women through mentoring and entrepreneurship.
Sheva Carr: I want to invite each of you to take a moment
Sheva Carr: to play a little game with us.
Sheva Carr: write down
Sheva Carr: the last 3 winners of the Nobel Peace Prize, go.
Sheva Carr: write down
Sheva Carr: the last 3 winners of the Pulitzer prize
Sheva Carr: go
Sheva Carr: right down
Sheva Carr: the last
Sheva Carr: 3
Sheva Carr: winners of the Oscar for best picture, not counting this year. Go
Sheva Carr: write down the last 3 winners of the super bowl in the United States for football. Go
Sheva Carr: not counting this here
Sheva Carr: I see some giggles happening.
Sheva Carr: It's a good thing we're not collecting. You will not be graded on this test.
Sheva Carr: But now I want you to write down
Sheva Carr: 3 people who meaningfully mentored you
Sheva Carr: and believed in you in your life.
Sheva Carr: Go!
Sheva Carr: How many of you were able to answer the last question
Sheva Carr: with ease.
Sheva Carr: Take a moment.
Sheva Carr: because this is mirroring.
Sheva Carr: What matters to memory?
Sheva Carr: So I invite you with us together, and you'll learn more of the neuroscience behind this little tool we're going to start with in a moment.
Sheva Carr: Tiff
Sheva Carr: focus with me.
Sheva Carr: If you'd like your attention on the area around your heart.
Sheva Carr: the chest staring.
Sheva Carr: Imagine the breath is flowing in through your heart
Sheva Carr: and out through your heart.
Sheva Carr: breathing a little slower
Sheva Carr: and deeper than usual.
Sheva Carr: If you find it helpful, you can count as you breathe in
Sheva Carr: and count as you breathe out, to invite the inhale and the exhale to be even in length. There's a secret. Ha! Bio! Hack in that we'll get to
Sheva Carr: at the end.
Sheva Carr: and as you breathe in through the heart and out through the heart. I invite you to join me in a minute of silence.
Sheva Carr: a moment of peace
Sheva Carr: and gratitude
Sheva Carr: to those people who have mentored you and believed in you.
Sheva Carr: and we'll radiate our love and gratitude to them together for 1 min.
Sheva Carr: It turns out
Sheva Carr: that this type of appreciation to those who've helped you.
Sheva Carr: changes over 1,000 things in our physiology.
Sheva Carr: and gives us access to a guide inside
Sheva Carr: a unique intelligence that's been found in the heart
Sheva Carr: that through research on the electrophysiology of intuition has been come to be known as the source of intuitive guidance.
Sheva Carr: So I invite you in this pause of appreciation for your mentors
Sheva Carr: to listen to that intuition in you, the guide inside you. Is there anything it would like you to know right now?
Sheva Carr: And if you hear something to write it down.
Sheva Carr: it is my great joy to welcome you to the 60 Eighth Commission on the Status of Women. This is a parallel event
Sheva Carr: where the priority theme is accelerating the achievement of gender equality and the empowerment of all women and girls
Sheva Carr: by addressing poverty and strengthening institutions and financing with a gender perspective.
Sheva Carr: Okay.
Sheva Carr: I am Shiva Carr.
Sheva Carr: the founder and executive director, slash president of
Sheva Carr: the Fiera Foundation.
Sheva Carr: The sponsoring organization of this event with ecostock consultative status to the UN.
Sheva Carr: I will put our website in the chat which is fiera.org.
Sheva Carr: Our mission
Sheva Carr: is to take heartbreaking global issues, and with that unique intelligence that has been discovered in the heart
Sheva Carr: accessible to us through the power of love.
Sheva Carr: to build an optimal future together with you
Sheva Carr: or our worlds.
Sheva Carr: I want to acknowledge one of my mentors
Sheva Carr: who led me on a path to
Sheva Carr: get Ecosot consultative status for my foundation.
Sheva Carr: Avon Madison.
Sheva Carr: who, with the United Nations, helped to establish that minute of silence, moment of peace that we began with, and the international Day of peace.
Sheva Carr: Avon's organization or UN. Piece. Messenger organization pathways to piece
Sheva Carr: was the organization in which I first attended the Cswr. 12 years ago.
Sheva Carr: Avon is no longer with us in the body. But I just wanted to call her name forth.
Sheva Carr: because today wouldn't have been possible without her
Sheva Carr: as my mentor.
Sheva Carr: And we are here to honor the power of mentorship
Sheva Carr: for accelerating gender equality.
Sheva Carr: and the the the priority theme of this Csw. And with that
Sheva Carr: I am going to turn it to my esteemed colleagues, and several of our delegates to the Commission on the Status of women this year, starting with
Sheva Carr: Carolyn Colleen, so
Sheva Carr: grateful to have you here.
Dr. Carolyn: Thank you so much for having us, Shiva.
Dr. Carolyn: I'm honored to be here with all of you. And today, as we come into this space. I want to first acknowledge to delegate delegates, heart ambassadors, and our esteemed guests.
Dr. Carolyn: and I want to express
Dr. Carolyn: gratitude to you, Shava and Sarah Foundation
Dr. Carolyn: for having this panel here and giving us this opportunity to share.
Dr. Carolyn: And this today, as I share welcome, I want to take space to say, welcome to all of you beautiful humans who are attending this panel today. I'm Dr. Carolyn, and I am a proud mother of 3 entrepreneur and founder of fierce foundation. And then I'm honored to also introduce the incredible women that are on the panel today.
Dr. Carolyn: So first, I'm
Dr. Carolyn: Shiva, who thank you for that heartmath exercise and that art coherence.
Dr. Carolyn: And
Dr. Carolyn: And then we have here our let. And I'm going to share my screen so that everybody can see our.
Dr. Carolyn: our, our beautiful panel of women
Dr. Carolyn: as I share my screen
Dr. Carolyn: here.
Dr. Carolyn: So here we have our Lent
Dr. Carolyn: and asthma.
Dr. Carolyn: Jessica
Dr. Carolyn: and Luda, who couldn't be here in person. But we'll have a video, for
Dr. Carolyn: I share
Dr. Carolyn: Shiva, who just I just wanted to reintroduce and just say a Shiva. Thank you as the founder of fear, foundation and heart ambassadors and all of the work that you do globally for
Dr. Carolyn: leveraging the heart's power for social benefit.
Dr. Carolyn: And then also, as the Co-vice President of UN Peace messenger organization pathways to peace
Dr. Carolyn: and
Dr. Carolyn: co-director of heart math, healthcare, and integrating heart-based practices into healthcare for holistic well-being.
Dr. Carolyn: That is our beautiful Shiva. Thank you
Dr. Carolyn: and then myself and Carolyn, which I shared. Proud mother, author, entrepreneur
Dr. Carolyn: my doctorate and background is in behavioral organizational behavior and psychology.
Dr. Carolyn: And we have
Dr. Carolyn: our amazing Esma, who will talk about women entrepreneurship.
Dr. Carolyn: and she is the executive level, trilingual, professional, with 25 years expertise in business, marketing and leadership. And she's worked in various large industries with Ceos entrepreneurs and startups from, so that technology sector, both retail biotechnology, nonprofit and government entities.
Dr. Carolyn: and Esma is also coached, has coached and mentored thousands of leaders and entrepreneurs, including her students at the University of Victoria in Royal Rose University in British Columbia, Canada. Welcome, Asma. Thank you for being here.
Dr. Carolyn: and Jessica Jessica will be talking about fire, financial empowerment.
Dr. Carolyn: Jessica will be
Dr. Carolyn: sharing her over 25 years of experience in banking and mortgage and credit, and Jessica's passionate about empowering women in the mortgage industry and credit repair and committed to breaking down barriers and creating opportunities for women and women's financial empowerment.
Dr. Carolyn: Thank you, Jessica, for being here.
Dr. Carolyn: and Arlet Arlette will share on emotional wellness.
Dr. Carolyn: Arlette is the executive director of the greater lacrosse area Diversity Council and founder and CEO of the Wellness network. She has 25 years of expertise in community engagement program, engagement, family therapy, teaching, marketing communications in English and Spanish interpretation.
Dr. Carolyn: and Arlette is passionate about empowering individuals to holistic wellbeing, purpose and fulfillment.
Dr. Carolyn: Thank you, Arlette, for being here.
Dr. Carolyn: and then also Luda Ludmila Barney, who has a video on gender equality. She's the deputy general director for international sales and marketing
Dr. Carolyn: for a global helicopter company and leading humanitarian efforts.
Dr. Carolyn: So she champions also the hungry games, which is a fun name for promoting healthy wellness alongside her corporate responsibilities. And she's also a proud mother of 2
Dr. Carolyn: nurturing children and entrepreneurial spirit.
Dr. Carolyn: and Ludo could not be here physically. But we have a video to share. For
Dr. Carolyn: so, as we talk today with our agenda, and our objectives will be also sharing tools that you can take with you. That will be walking through. So today you'll be able to download those tools here, and we will share that again.
Dr. Carolyn: And so
Dr. Carolyn: with that, I want to move into
Dr. Carolyn: a bit of
Dr. Carolyn: what we're going to go over today.
Dr. Carolyn: So our agenda today.
Dr. Carolyn: our agenda for empowering women.
Dr. Carolyn: I'm going to. We're going to talk about
Dr. Carolyn: women, entrepreneurship, women, entrepreneurship, mentorship.
Dr. Carolyn: financial empowerment, emotional wellness. Gender equality and the science and heart intelligence
Dr. Carolyn: your takeaways today from our our panel. We would like you to be able to build confidence and support for mentorship and entrepreneurship with training for women will give you tools for that, and fostering emotional wellbeing and financial literacy.
Dr. Carolyn: Also, we'd like you to be able to walk away with championing equality, the breaking down barriers and advocating for gender equality and intra and entrepreneurialism, securing access to funding for women entrepreneurs
Dr. Carolyn: and
Dr. Carolyn: being able to have holistic success, being able to have emotional wellness, being able to blend that along with evidence-based practices, into your training, being able to access and address work like balance and develop heart intelligence for strong relationships.
Dr. Carolyn: And today, before we dive into our discussion, I want to share what fierce means to me and the women on this panel.
Dr. Carolyn: So all the women on this panel. We have been impacted by the our mess. This message that we're sharing with you today.
Dr. Carolyn: So to me, fierce is about recognizing the potential within ourselves, even when life's challenges try to dim our inner light.
Dr. Carolyn: Why?
Dr. Carolyn: Because sometimes
Dr. Carolyn: we need to borrow the light that another human sees in us until our light ignites our own inner light.
Dr. Carolyn: Imagine a burning amber within you
Dr. Carolyn: waiting to blaze brightly.
Dr. Carolyn: However, life's challenges and adversities can dim that light.
Dr. Carolyn: and sometimes it's not about necessarily learning something new. It's about remembering something true.
Dr. Carolyn: What I'd invite you to do. Everyone who's in the room.
Dr. Carolyn: I'll invite you to take a moment to reflect.
Dr. Carolyn: take a moment, and think of a time when you felt
Dr. Carolyn: truly seen.
Dr. Carolyn: truly heard, and empowered.
Dr. Carolyn: Taking that moment.
Dr. Carolyn: as you reflect
Dr. Carolyn: who was there for you.
Dr. Carolyn: and as you think about that, what I want you to do is to put into the chat one or 2 words
Dr. Carolyn: that describe that feeling.
Dr. Carolyn: So again, taking that moment to reflect, think of a time when you felt truly seen, heard, and empowered.
Dr. Carolyn: who was there for you
Dr. Carolyn: and in the chat go ahead and put feel free to put in the chat
Dr. Carolyn: one or 2 words
Dr. Carolyn: that describe that feeling.
Dr. Carolyn: I'll give you a couple moments to go ahead and find the chat.
Dr. Carolyn: Oh, I see, thank you.
Dr. Carolyn: Sustained, supported life, giving
Dr. Carolyn: strong, powerful, connected.
Dr. Carolyn: unconditionally loved, powerful.
Dr. Carolyn: vulnerable relief
Dr. Carolyn: ground and strong.
Dr. Carolyn: deeply supported love, empowered, uplifted, loved. Thank you.
Dr. Carolyn: Thank you. All of these beautiful worlds, as as we take that moment to reflect and think about
Dr. Carolyn: what it felt like to be
Dr. Carolyn: supported.
Dr. Carolyn: Thank you for taking the time to do that. And for me that feeling is embodied in the concept of fierce. It's about harnessing our power to overcome adversity. Persevere one step at a time, and for me, I like to say, 5 min at a time.
Dr. Carolyn: And here's why I want to share video with you.
Dr. Carolyn: sharing my definition
Dr. Carolyn: here, I'll share this video just a
Dr. Carolyn: short and good, you know.
Dr. Carolyn: Here it is
Dr. Carolyn: and share my screen.
Dr. Carolyn: Share
Dr. Carolyn: that way.
Dr. Carolyn: make sure you can hear it
Dr. Carolyn: just a moment.
Dr. Carolyn: There is it blank.
Sheva Carr: Do you have a link to it, Carolyn? You could drop in the chat for me to play it for you.
Dr. Carolyn: Yeah, that would be great. Thank you.
Dr. Carolyn: I think.
Sheva Carr: You have it up now.
Dr. Carolyn: Here it is. Oh, this is
Dr. Carolyn: To!
Dr. Carolyn: I was at my wits end, dealing with endless nights of my husband, screaming at me, accusing me of all kinds of things that never happened. But it was a way to control me.
Dr. Carolyn: My definition of love was abuse and manipulation, and being used in some way for something. So that's what I attracted, got pregnant and got married.
Dr. Carolyn: grew up in a small town with many different adversities. In a short amount of time. I had a mom who suffered from mental illness, and I had a dad who worked on the road in a traveling job. The things that we dealt with, such as neglect, abuse. There was sexual abuse. I had both men and women who sexually abused me. They tried to get to my sister and I would protect my sister from them
Dr. Carolyn: and go with them so that they wouldn't abuse her.
Dr. Carolyn: And I actually, when I was 16, I tried to take my life
Dr. Carolyn: because I felt that there was nothing better.
Dr. Carolyn: If this was life, then why did I want to live? It
Dr. Carolyn: was unsuccessful, as you can see. But it didn't mean the hurt stopped.
Dr. Carolyn: And that's how I ended up in my relationship with the father of my daughter
Dr. Carolyn: is because I thought. That's what love was.
Dr. Carolyn: I was in an abusive relationship that I couldn't have friends. I couldn't have family. He was able to manipulate me into quitting my job dropping out of college, so that I was fully dependent on him all the way to the point of where I was fearful for my own life. He promised me that if I ever left him that he'd end my life and his own and our daughters so that we could be together forever.
Dr. Carolyn: and that was a concept that was very real.
Dr. Carolyn: I didn't feel that I was worthy enough
Dr. Carolyn: to find a different situation.
Dr. Carolyn: but I found that, and I felt that my daughter was worthy, and that's how I got up enough courage to leave. So it took me a year to process the concept of leaving.
Dr. Carolyn: and one day, while my husband was at work, I left
Dr. Carolyn: there. I was standing in the line of the Salvation Army waiting for food.
Dr. Carolyn: had no idea where my next meal would come from. And I thought.
Dr. Carolyn: Is this my life? I had to
Dr. Carolyn: think of a way to just move one step further in that line.
Dr. Carolyn: because it would have been so much easier to go back. But I had to take a deep breath and step forward.
Dr. Carolyn: and that was the the monumental step that moved me
Dr. Carolyn: right out of the brickle of abuse
Dr. Carolyn: and right into the circle of poverty, and I would work all night, and then I'd turn around and go to school the next morning.
Dr. Carolyn: Then I always put money aside to try and get a better situation for us, and then I grew my career. At the same time
Dr. Carolyn: I got a house. I had a dog. I've got a picket fence.
Dr. Carolyn: and I started building my career. I'd gotten married the second time.
Dr. Carolyn: I have my second child, and I have my third child.
Dr. Carolyn: and
Dr. Carolyn: I remember one night I was playing outside with my daughter, looking into my house, I thought.
Dr. Carolyn: This is my life.
Dr. Carolyn: because not so long ago I was standing in line at the Salvation Army, thinking, This is my life.
Dr. Carolyn: and fast forward. I was standing in my backyard of the house that I built.
Dr. Carolyn: thinking, Yeah, this is my
Dr. Carolyn: but once, my son, my youngest, was born, and he was born with a very rare lung condition, and that was really where I had to take a space to kind of reevaluate what my career looked like I was traveling all over for my work, and I had created a career that I loved. But I had a very sick son. I needed to be able to start to figure out a new plan.
Dr. Carolyn: and I sat at my desk and I thought.
Dr. Carolyn: I'm tired. I'm scared, and I need an answer. And so that's when I found one life fully lived.
Dr. Carolyn: It was the right message at the right time, so I didn't know that this whole world existed. It was a way for me to realize that all the things that I had been through in my very short lifetime I could use for good, and I could use to help other people see. No matter the adversity that they've dealt with, it doesn't have to be their future. It became very real. Once I realized that there's there's quite a few people who came from where I came from, too, and they
Dr. Carolyn: intentionally practiced creating their own room. And we're living a fulfilled life.
Dr. Carolyn: So now today I am the executive director of one life, helping other people realize that their past is not their future, and providing the roadmap which is education and access
Dr. Carolyn: to people who might not ever even know it was there
Dr. Carolyn: I had absolutely nothing, and being able to emerge from poverty and create a life by design that takes a community. And it takes a community in which to uplift a person. We can change communities and we can build them from the ground up, because we're focused in the passion in finding. What are you meant for?
Dr. Carolyn: I feel very strongly. We're all meant for something.
Dr. Carolyn: It's not easy.
Dr. Carolyn: but it's worth it.
Dr. Carolyn: Thank you for sharing that video, Shiva.
Dr. Carolyn: and thank you everyone for your comments and notes in the chat, I appreciate it. And
Dr. Carolyn: as you can see.
Dr. Carolyn: and because of the impact that the one life roadmap has had on my life in the lives of thousands, I chose the reward, the one life roadmap as a key collaborative program for to be offered within fierce foundation
Dr. Carolyn: and so fierce foundation champions, the holistic support of underrepresented women, intra-prepreneurs, meaning women who work within an organization and have that innovative spirit of an entrepreneur and entrepreneurs meaning businesses that are external to insult and ran by women businesses, and it's powered by the one life roadmap programming.
Dr. Carolyn: And so fears provides access to mental and emotional health resources and connects mentors and fosters financial empowerment and inclusion that and equip women with the skills, resources, and emotional resilience to thrive.
Dr. Carolyn: And from that that's where I was inspired to be able to like as sharing the video
Dr. Carolyn: show women that
Dr. Carolyn: our past does not have to
Dr. Carolyn: determine our future.
Dr. Carolyn: And despite progress.
Dr. Carolyn: there still exists
Dr. Carolyn: significant gender gap in entrepreneurship. So globally, 19 of businesses are women owned, and they receive a mere
Dr. Carolyn: 2% of venture capital funding. And this disparity hinders economic growth and women's professional fulfillment.
Dr. Carolyn: Also, we're going to talk about and share that financial inclusion empowers women to invest in their businesses, however, also not forgetting that
Dr. Carolyn: neglecting mental wellbeing leaves women vulnerable to stress and burn out and ultimately hindering success.
Dr. Carolyn: Having a strong mental health program leads to 21% higher profitability, and 6% higher productivity.
Dr. Carolyn: being able to equip women with mental health. Knowledge empowers them to navigate challenges and build resilience
Dr. Carolyn: and mentorship.
Dr. Carolyn: Mentorship provides invaluable guidance, confidence, building, and access to networks, because, as I shared in my story.
Dr. Carolyn: sometimes you have to borrow the light. Another person sees you until your light ignites.
Dr. Carolyn: And what does that mean? It means mentorship.
Dr. Carolyn: Sometimes we might not believe or
Dr. Carolyn: our light might might not be at the point that it could be in having a community of women
Dr. Carolyn: to hold and support you
Dr. Carolyn: is is is the mentorship piece
Dr. Carolyn: having a formal mentorship program, significantly increases. Female entrepreneur revenue growth and growth
Dr. Carolyn: and survival rates.
Dr. Carolyn: So having women
Dr. Carolyn: as those leaders, as those as those people that can help support you
Dr. Carolyn: as an intro or entrepreneur makes it so that you feel like you can make it
Dr. Carolyn: and
Dr. Carolyn: And how can we do this? So I want to share within the mentorship pillar how you can
Dr. Carolyn: move forward and help women in mentorship by building a successful mentorship program for women which requires careful planning and ongoing support. But it first starts with a roadmap.
Dr. Carolyn: And so, in order to do that for you and for the tools that you can use in which to build a mentorship program or start mentoring within your community. The first thing is where and you're going to have a downloadable tool for you is to be able to identify. What is that goal? What is that target audience? Who are you serving? What do you want to start with? So, starting with like shave a shared like taking a deep breath coming into heart.
Dr. Carolyn: and then understanding. What are those goals? Who are the who are the people that you want to serve? And what do you want to be able to support them in? Is it increased emotional and financial wellness? Is it improved leadership skills? Or is it building a stronger community?
Dr. Carolyn: And then who within that group
Dr. Carolyn: will benefit the most?
Dr. Carolyn: Is it women of particular stages in life? Maybe they are starting off as an entrepreneur in their business. Maybe they already have a business. Maybe they are an entrepreneur within an organization and identifying what that is. So that's first number one, the goals.
Dr. Carolyn: And who are you serving?
Dr. Carolyn: Number 2 is recruiting mentors and mentees. So
Dr. Carolyn: bringing in experienced women who are passionate about helping others. We have them right here in our room, and all of you who are here in this panel. I'm sure that resonates with you, because when we think about and talk about what it felt like to be supported. We, too.
Dr. Carolyn: as we see through being able to help others.
Dr. Carolyn: So that is attracting number 2 is recruiting mentors and mentees and attracting women who are passionate about helping others, and then matching mentors and mentees based on their goals, personalities, and expertise
Dr. Carolyn: while ensuring a commitment to both parties. So the mentee and the mentor having that commitment to come together and invest in that time and in the program expectations
Dr. Carolyn: number 3 is to develop a structured program. So outline the program duration. So how long are we meeting? Are we meeting 3 times are meeting 6 times? What does that look like? So that you have a start and an end date before reassessing.
Dr. Carolyn: providing a framework for those meetings? Are you meeting virtually in person? Are you meeting as as a group.
Dr. Carolyn: What does that look like along with setting goals.
Dr. Carolyn: having discussion, prompts, prompts and resources.
Dr. Carolyn: and also being flexible, being able to flex, flexible, flexible, to meet a woman where she is with her schedule and with her individual needs.
Dr. Carolyn: Then number 4 is providing training and support. So training and supporting mentors
Dr. Carolyn: for us. We call them fierce navigators, and they're all on the call
Dr. Carolyn: and having effective communication, coaching and coaching techniques.
Dr. Carolyn: We also use trauma informed care, bringing that evidence base in, and also we were poised to and excited to be able to
Dr. Carolyn: add or bring in and acknowledge
Dr. Carolyn: heart, math, and heart coherence.
Dr. Carolyn: and
Dr. Carolyn: within providing training and support, offering up facilitated workshops and networking events in order to bring together connections
Dr. Carolyn: and a sense of community
Dr. Carolyn: Number 5 would be create a supportive environment.
Dr. Carolyn: so encouraging an open communication
Dr. Carolyn: and feedback between mentors and mentees and organizing social events.
Dr. Carolyn: So we have an in-person social event coming up this weekend
Dr. Carolyn: in connecting connecting women in order to be able to be either virtual or face-to-face.
Dr. Carolyn: and then number 6, monitoring the progress. So being able to say, hey, this is where we started, and this is where we are. If we met 3 times or 6 times, what is our progress? How are we doing, and how are we building those relationships? If you're helping a woman with as we continue to share as asthma, and we'll share next in leadership. So how are we on our leadership journey and creating those skills?
Dr. Carolyn: What are we celebrating? Recognizing that success and celebrating both the mentor and the ment team, both being able to acknowledge what's been shared and continually being able to improve in the program.
Dr. Carolyn: So a couple tips and helpful tips for mentoring.
Dr. Carolyn: and we'll also have it as a tool that you can download is, consider offering different programs and formats
Dr. Carolyn: to cater to the different and various preferences. So in person, group entering or virtual, and then also ensure that the program that you're creating the community that you create in order to support women is inclusive by recruiting diverse mentors and addressing specific needs of women from various backgrounds, which is exactly what we have in store today. So as I shared, I'm I'm excited
Dr. Carolyn: to share the mentorship pillar today in our panel, and
Dr. Carolyn: to keep in mind
Dr. Carolyn: our our ability to be able to connect and emphasize emotional wellbeing.
Dr. Carolyn: So within our mentorship groups
Dr. Carolyn: using evidence-based practices to support
Dr. Carolyn: our mentorship and our health and wellbeing, such as emotional intelligence. So what we're going to do next is, I want to be able to not take up too much time and pass the mic over to Asma. But first I want to share that
Dr. Carolyn: with. But the mentorship pillar we have been able to one build mentorship within women, and we've supported over 200 women from the launch of fierce foundation to be able to expand their businesses and create a ripple effect in economic and personal growth.
Dr. Carolyn: And so with that, this is the first pillar mentor mentoring pillar. And now I'm going to hand it over to Asma to be able to talk about the second pillar, which is entrepreneurship.
Asmaa I. Methqal: Thank you. Beautiful Dr. Carolyn. Hello, everyone
Asmaa I. Methqal: such a beautiful insight that you gave about mentorship. And
Asmaa I. Methqal: I've been like very lucky to have mentored a lot of women and men for the past 15 years. And so it's such an incredible pillar that I think all of us would definitely benefit from. And I just loved how Shiva brought it all up with that first question of mentorship is just so beautiful. And I'm like so grateful for my mentors as well today. Thank you so much. So now that we
Asmaa I. Methqal: talked about women and mentorship, and we gonna now delve into entrepreneurship. I would love. If you can write in the chat how many of you are already entrepreneurs.
Asmaa I. Methqal: so just put in the chat. I am an entrepreneur, or just yes, so that we will know how many entrepreneurs are here, or are serving entrepreneurs as well, or one opera? Why not so beautiful, seeing so many yeses there. Amazing.
Asmaa I. Methqal: Well, look at that. We are all like that as women going for it and creating our on economic empowerment. Beautiful, amazing.
Asmaa I. Methqal: And so I would love to start by sharing one pivotal moment that happened to me during my entrepreneurial journey. That really completely shifted my perspective about everything. And so it was a late evening on in 2,018. It was during the holidays, and it was just sitting in my living room
Asmaa I. Methqal: and just looking at the wall, and I was having 5 infections in one. I couldn't smell. I couldn't hear, I couldn't taste. I was just like just sitting there and like what is happening to me, and I couldn't just understand what was happening with my body. And then out of the blue. What was even scarier is I heard this loud voice
Asmaa I. Methqal: that just scream, and it's enough
Asmaa I. Methqal: we're done.
Asmaa I. Methqal: and I'm like, What is this? Where is this voice coming from, and it was really coming from me. It was like my own inner voice.
Asmaa I. Methqal: and I could not understand what was happening in that moment, because I was like, I just had the best year ever. I made so much money that year we were super productive. My clients were happy, my team members were happy I was. Life was good.
Asmaa I. Methqal: but something was not right in that moment, and I couldn't understand what that was. And so, realizing that inner voice that was screaming at me. I just remember this quote that I've heard before. If you don't hear the whisper you will feel the slap.
Asmaa I. Methqal: and I was like, Oh, my God! If this was just a whisper, I am so not ready to feel the slap. And so I really took the time to really like try to understand what was happening in that moment, because how can my external success be met with an unfulfilled heart
Asmaa I. Methqal: in that moment? And so I made the variable decision to pause.
Asmaa I. Methqal: and I never knew what pausing was before then, because I was just always going going, and I chose to pause. Everybody was like, Are you crazy? Your agency is going really well. I had a marketing agency. Why are you choosing to pause, and I was like, it is time for me to understand what I want. What do I need and meet myself?
Asmaa I. Methqal: I haven't got any chance to date myself. I would just go and go and going, going, chasing, chasing, chasing, chasing. I never get a chance to meet myself.
Asmaa I. Methqal: and so I pause everything, even if everybody was surprised, and I decided to go to my favorite city in San Diego, and while I was there I started like getting referred by different spiritual guides and different coaches, and just really was ready to just really deep delve a little bit deeper, to just to understand what was happening to me.
Asmaa I. Methqal: And while doing that it was very interesting to me that I've realized that
Asmaa I. Methqal: my whole life and I think most of us do it. We just leave the neck up.
Asmaa I. Methqal: And so we're just about like having 2 squirrels in our head, as you know, many of you have that where we just like going doing, doing, what is the next? And what is the next? And what is the next thing? As soon as we hit a goals like, Okay, when can we go to the next? And we just keep going. And so I was always living in this neck up, and I never got a chance really to pause.
Asmaa I. Methqal: to start, to feel.
Asmaa I. Methqal: to start to feel below the net what is happening. And so during that pausing and during me working with this different guys and spiritual healers and all of those people that were surrounded me and supporting me during that moment period of my life
Asmaa I. Methqal: I was able like to really feel my body, really feel my emotions, all those emotions that are always kept deep, deep, deep down, not ready to hear them, not wanting to and understand them, because the society and it were telling me that they were weak, and that's not the way to go. And so by feeling those emotions, I really realized that I really had a shield.
Asmaa I. Methqal: So I really built this invisible shield within myself. Tonight one be able to connect with myself and not be able to connect with others in a deeper level. I thought I was connecting with people, but I was mostly connecting in a business setting, but like in terms of like deep, meaningful relationship. I was always like on the go. So I never really had the time.
Asmaa I. Methqal: And so when I had that really big realization, I was like, where is this stemming from
Asmaa I. Methqal: what is the shield coming from? At what point in my life did I created that shield?
Asmaa I. Methqal: And then I realized that it was coming from my own background.
Asmaa I. Methqal: I am originally from Morocco. I was born in Morocco in the seventies, late seventies, and in that time it was all about
Asmaa I. Methqal: men and what the men wanted, what the men needed, and all the women. We were just there just to have babies and to cook and to clean.
Asmaa I. Methqal: Literally. They were women when they were born, somebody will say, Oh, another cuccia I mean another kitchen.
Asmaa I. Methqal: and I just had this anger in me. Since I was a kid. I was enraged by society that decided the moment I was born. Who I'm gonna be.
Asmaa I. Methqal: They never allowed me to really create my own identity and define who I want it to be.
Asmaa I. Methqal: And so it was already decided that I was the weaker sex, that I couldn't do much while I can see my brother and my dad having the time of their lives where my mom is struggling, and I am struggling to speak, to claim my voice, to just show that I'm here and that I belong, and that you need to listen to me.
Asmaa I. Methqal: And so through that I was like oh, so it was from that moment that this basically the shield got created.
Asmaa I. Methqal: And I wanted to prove everybody wrong.
Asmaa I. Methqal: I can show you what a woman can do. You tell me. I cannot do this. I'll tell you. I'll show you I can do that. And so I went with that perspective, and with that fire in me, and I know that with anger, because it's an emotion that usually is neutral. There is good anger, and there is bad anger.
Asmaa I. Methqal: but that anger has transformed into this fire that was in me since a very early age, that really wanted to change and really create a quantity in my own community in my own country within my own family ecosystem.
Asmaa I. Methqal: so we all could belong, and we all are equal, and we all matter at the same level, and you cannot dictate my future for me.
Asmaa I. Methqal: I can create it for myself.
Asmaa I. Methqal: And so I was lucky to have very progressive parents, and I had to negotiate with my dad when I could move to Canada. So he's like, no, you cannot move at 18. But you can move when you have a degree. I'm like, okay, fine. Here's my bachelor degree. Can I go now? I was able like to flew and live go to Montreal at the age of 21. So I went very early in a very early age
Asmaa I. Methqal: in Morocco, because usually people don't leave their family ecosystem until they get married, for women. Men can be whenever they want again another equal inequality that was created there.
Asmaa I. Methqal: And so with that perspective in there.
Asmaa I. Methqal: coming back into me, being in San Diego, and really defining and finding the shield. I was like, Okay, so was this shield a way for me to prove myself? Was it like an ego driven thing?
Asmaa I. Methqal: And then I realized maybe some part of it was but the true reason for it. And what I have also been seen, and a lot of women is a protective mechanism.
Asmaa I. Methqal: And so we create this shield as a protective mechanism.
Asmaa I. Methqal: And what our biggest realizations that I've made is, I have led my whole life from a masculine energy.
Asmaa I. Methqal: from this place of chasing and going and and proving myself, and because I was chasing, belonging, and validation and approval, I wanted to show people what I can do, so I can be accepted so I can be appreciated. And so I was always in this action action mode that was created, and that I've also start witnessing in a lot of women
Asmaa I. Methqal: because I made this realization in my 40 s. And I wish someone has told me about this like in my 20 s. To be like, oh, so there are like different energies, and we.
Asmaa I. Methqal: the energies are doesn't matter of the gender of the person. But then, when we talk about the Ying and Yang, and the masculine and the feminine is like the biggest imbalance that I'm seeing right now in the world is that a lot of women are leading from their masculine energy.
Asmaa I. Methqal: And so they gonna end up crashing and burning like I did when I was like, I realized everything I needed to realize.
Asmaa I. Methqal: But then I realized, this is not what I wanted to realize. I was just playing a role
Asmaa I. Methqal: because I want it to be long, and I want it to be appreciated, and I want it to be accepted. And I wanted to look at my dad in his eyes and be like, See, I did it, and I didn't need you.
Asmaa I. Methqal: And so going back with that, I was like, well, then, if that was not it. Then I was literally going in the wrong direction, and I was literally like going up the ladder, and I ended up in the wrong building.
Asmaa I. Methqal: so I need. It was time for me to go down that building and be like, who am I? And what do I want to create?
Asmaa I. Methqal: And it was through that process, and when I take the time to pause that I realized that my essence at my deepest level is feminine.
Asmaa I. Methqal: I love to create. I love to play, I love to dance, I love to innovate, I love to collaborate.
Asmaa I. Methqal: There was all these different layers of me that I just kept hidden that I was never being able to see. But the moment that I recognize that I had the shield and I was able to put it down, I was able to reflect to myself the real essence.
Asmaa I. Methqal: But then, as we know personal growth and personal development, we do so much work, and there's almost more that we need to do right. And so when I was in that process, like
Asmaa I. Methqal: how the moment that really clicked that I knew that I was on the other side, where I was able more to tap into my feminine is when I was invited into an event that was happening in Nashville, and I remembered a beautiful Dr. Carolyn was there with me, too, and I was invited in this first day. It was women entrepreneurs.
Asmaa I. Methqal: multimillionaire, all like in real estate, investment and everything. And then the person that needed to lead the first activity was not available. And so they said, asthma, can you go on the stage and just lead an activity like. So that way we can kick off the day.
Asmaa I. Methqal: I'm a marker. I'm a business consultant. So if someone asked me to go on stage. I'll be talking about data and about fact, about things to do that in that moment, when I was going up the stage. I connected to my intuition and my intuition said, No, no, no, we're not doing that. We gonna do something completely different. We're gonna help this. Women connect to their body because they're always again neck up.
Asmaa I. Methqal: And so I got on stage and I decided to do a motion dance meditation.
Asmaa I. Methqal: I had an amazing. Dj, put some music, and I just started to ask the women to just follow me through movement and just through dancing, and really get them to connect to their body, to their hair, to their skin, to their arms, and just like move. And because it was only women, it was a safe space. I don't even remember what I was saying. All I know I was in flow. I was fully tapping into my intuition and doing what I was doing, and then I left this stage.
Asmaa I. Methqal: and to my surprise I had few women coming running to me, and they're like, Do you teach this?
Asmaa I. Methqal: And I'm like, would you meet?
Asmaa I. Methqal: I love to, that's like, but to me teach you this like I was not understanding that moment what was happening.
Asmaa I. Methqal: but then the biggest realization I made was that these women are are who I was 6 months ago
Asmaa I. Methqal: when I was completely leading from my masculine energy, and I was fully imbalanced.
Asmaa I. Methqal: and what they were seeing when I was leading. That is, they can see my feminine essence and my playfulness, and just completely connect you to my own feminine power, and just be even to lead them from my intuition, and just be myself and completely accepting and loving myself.
Asmaa I. Methqal: And so maybe many of you on here today, you may have some imbalance. And so I put together this little slide, because I know a lot of you may want to like just share like the screen for it, and just to have it.
Asmaa I. Methqal: And so there are few signs for you to recognize if you are in balance, and some of them are that if you have a busy calendar.
Asmaa I. Methqal: if you have a very busy calendar that you don't have time to pause.
Asmaa I. Methqal: you are in balance.
Asmaa I. Methqal: because the feminine gives space to pause, to reflect, to connect to our body, to connect to our heart, like the beautiful Shiva did with us this morning. If your body is aching ways too rigid because of stress.
Asmaa I. Methqal: if you are overthinking all the time.
Asmaa I. Methqal: if you don't trust man or you don't trust the masculine energy in general.
Asmaa I. Methqal: If you are struggling to receive, and that's a big one I've seen with women, I will do workshop, and I will just ask women to compliment one another, and the women will start to weave and start crying.
Asmaa I. Methqal: And I will have to pause everything we're like, okay, this is the next activity for the next 30 min to 40 min, because women are not used to receive compliments, or even to receive gifts or support from another women because we are so in our masculine that we just wanna prove I don't wanna chase and wanna go and wanna do things.
Asmaa I. Methqal: And one of the things that I've been doing like through my program is I was telling women that would like giving is masculine
Asmaa I. Methqal: when you give is a masculine energy. The masculine in you. The masculine energy give
Asmaa I. Methqal: that the women and the feminine is open to receive.
Asmaa I. Methqal: And so we need to change also and shift
Asmaa I. Methqal: between giving and receiving as well.
Asmaa I. Methqal: and if we are emotionally disconnected, if we are very guarded.
Asmaa I. Methqal: we need to control every little thing.
Asmaa I. Methqal: If you feel depleted and exhausted like I was feeling.
Asmaa I. Methqal: I was completely depleted when somebody used that word when we're talking about emotion like Oh, my God! That's exactly how I was feeling. I was completely depleted.
Asmaa I. Methqal: I was completely leading my life from a masculine energy that I was completely imbalanced my whole life, and I never nurtured this other side of me, my guinea side that was really like creating this beautiful harpenny in my life.
Asmaa I. Methqal: And then, if you look at yourself in the mirror and you feel that you have lost radians, or lacking passion and joy, you feel disconnected from your heart intelligence. You're not connected to your intuition. Those are signed that you are in balance.
Asmaa I. Methqal: There's nothing wrong with you.
Asmaa I. Methqal: This is just sign that you have been imbalanced
Asmaa I. Methqal: like I mentioned earlier. I wish someone told to me about feminine masculine energies in my twenties.
Asmaa I. Methqal: I wish someone told me in my 30 is about feminine power, and how I can connect to my own feminine essence and my feminine genius. So I can create a business that is fully aligned and connected with who I am, instead of just going and chasing and creating something.
Asmaa I. Methqal: And so through this realization, I decided to start a fire and for Leadership Academy, where I was helping women to lunch, start a business the feminine way.
Asmaa I. Methqal: and that starts by them getting to knowing themselves deeply and knowing who they are, because for me, entrepreneurship is an inner game.
Asmaa I. Methqal: It's about knowing who you are, knowing your values, knowing where you're coming from, knowing how you operate and what are the things that lights you up, and what are your strength, and what are your weaknesses, and who are the people you wanna collaborate with and work with? Because once you have this foundation? After that, if I come in, and I give you the systems and all the different practices and proven framework that you can implement.
Asmaa I. Methqal: things will work. But if you have all these invisible barriers from a very start
Asmaa I. Methqal: that are stopping you. It makes it very hard for you to lunch or start a business that can be sustainable for you, and that will make you happy, because I want people when they start a business that a
Asmaa I. Methqal: really connect and matches their lifestyle.
Asmaa I. Methqal: and not like, completely neglect your lifestyle and the life you want to create for the sake of business and for the sake of money, money becomes the byproduct of your feminine genius and of your passion.
Asmaa I. Methqal: And so, when I was like working with this Female leadership program and entrepreneurship program, I was lucky to have been invited with different organizations across Canada to. So I can come and deliver this program in 2020. So it was like almost 4 years ago to women entrepreneurs that were their members. And the way I wanted to set it was to be an intimate settings. Because women we wanna talk, we wanna share. We wanna go deep.
Asmaa I. Methqal: And so women needs to feel safe in that container.
Asmaa I. Methqal: We should not also forget that society has taught us to not like each other
Asmaa I. Methqal: and to compete with each other, and to be always afraid of each other like, Oh, my God! Like I need to to cover my back! She may steal my man, she may steal my business, she may still my partner, she may steal my work, etc. And so, when I bring this women together in this intimate container one they are able to slowly start to put their their guards down.
Asmaa I. Methqal: and then we start slowly, starting to recognize their values and where they're coming from? What is their pat? What were their experiences with other women? What were the experiences with other men? What are type of business they wanna create. And then, after that, is that business aligns with their feminine genius, and I am able like to disk that like through the program that I do.
Asmaa I. Methqal: And then I talked to them about energies. I never start with the beginning. So I started with this today because I just thought that would be like something key to understand, because even if we have feminine and masculine energies, there's really 4 quadrant. You can be in your wounded energy, or you can be in your healthy energy, and also recognizing, even if you are in your masculine.
Asmaa I. Methqal: you need to recognize. Am I in my healthy masculine? Or am I in my wounded masculine. If I'm overly competitive, I am in my wounded masculine. But if I am a protector and I'm creating safety, and I am like having a purpose, and I am going up to what I want. Then I am in my masculine. Both of them needs to work in harmony, and that's the beauty of it is the fire and the flow and creating harmony. It doesn't mean that we need to be 50,
Asmaa I. Methqal: one or the other. We just need to identify where you sit in that spectrum, and also allowing yourself and teaching yourself at which moments I can be in my feminine, and at which moment I can go and flow into my masculine and really creating this dance, depending on the situation whether I am talking and I need to make a decision. Maybe it's an intuition based decision that I wanna make at this moment.
Asmaa I. Methqal: Or maybe I need to be in my fire so I can get things done. And I can finalize this proposal or this website, etc. Right?
Asmaa I. Methqal: And so through that I just wanna share like this beautiful 2 women that I was able to support. So the first one, her name was Valerie, and Valerie was coming from Montreal, and she was in the Yukon at that moment, and she was completely lost. She was in her late twenties, and
Asmaa I. Methqal: she doesn't know what she wanted to do. She didn't know what to create in life, and because she didn't have much money. She's like, well, the easiest place to go that is the cheapest is the Yukon. And then she went and went to the Yukon for 6 months to 9 months, just so she can discover herself also, not having to pay a lot of money.
Asmaa I. Methqal: And so she went and came into my program my first program I ever created in 2020. She was a French speaking woman, so it was an organization in Vancouver that wanted me to do it for French speaking women. The container is very small.
Asmaa I. Methqal: and she was there. She's like, I'm ready to learn. I'm ready to grow. I know it's gonna be hard. But I know this is the way to go. She understood that she needed to work on herself and get to know herself so that way she can create the business that she wanted, and we did that. And then, through the process, she was able to recognize her feminine genius, which allowed her like to put a big proposal together, and she ended up getting a huge contract 6 months later in Montreal with political women.
Asmaa I. Methqal: that she was able to serve.
Asmaa I. Methqal: Well, I met Valerie 2 months ago, and we just connected and over dinner, and then she first thing that she said to me, said Esma. I make so much money. I don't know what to do with it.
Asmaa I. Methqal: and I was so proud to hear that because I know how much she was struggling.
Asmaa I. Methqal: I also know how much work she has done for her to be able to completely reframe her limiting beliefs, be able to heal her money story, be able, like to recognize her values and recognize her genius zone and be able like to quadruple and even like 10 x. Like her income, because she knew that she was worth it, and she can do it.
Asmaa I. Methqal: And so, even when I work with a lot of entrepreneurs or business owners that make multi 1 million dollars at the end of the day. It's what's happening between your 2 ears. It's never about the strategy, because you can always learn from other people what they've done, and you can try to create that. But it's what's happening between your 2 ears, this mindset that needs to be shifted and also being able to connect to your heart. So that way you are fully aligned with what you wanna create.
Asmaa I. Methqal: And then the second one, her name is fatu and fatu was amazing. I met her last year. She is from Africa, and she is 86 years old.
Asmaa I. Methqal: at 86 years old. She decided to start a business.
Asmaa I. Methqal: I was like, Wow, here is a woman that is ready to completely change the norm about H and entrepreneurship.
Asmaa I. Methqal: and also about the narrative about her age and what she can do as a woman African woman. And then she told me that she has been in leadership. She had a beautiful, amazing career. But now, like she wants to keep going, and she wants to keep giving. And she wants to create this center where she will be able to help parents that have handicapped children and be able like to serve them, and to support them, and disabled children to help them and support them.
Asmaa I. Methqal: And what was beautiful with fatu is that
Asmaa I. Methqal: she had a masculine container supporting her.
Asmaa I. Methqal: and that was her husband.
Asmaa I. Methqal: His husband was the virtual assistant. We all wish we had like he will go anywhere, she asked him to do every time I am coaching her. He's taking care of everything in the house so that way she can stay focused. She will be sending him to take papers here or check different things for her, and she got the whole support.
Asmaa I. Methqal: and that was a big realization, because for the feminine to flourish, for women to flourish, we need that masculine container, that safety that gets created, because when there is safety. We can flourish, and we can be in our feminine that when there is no safety we go back into our masculine because we need to create safety, and we are on guard, and that that shield goes up.
Asmaa I. Methqal: And so
Asmaa I. Methqal: we just with these 2 case studies, I just want like to express like how it is key to create this element of feminine leadership, like, I truly believe in entrepreneurship. And it's so key. But I've met so many women that will have a business, and we're ready to scale it. They're like, but I don't really love what I do.
Asmaa I. Methqal: I'm like, okay, well, then, let's sit down and let's go inside out. My approach is an inside out approach, and that's why I love about feminine leadership or feminine entrepreneurship. You're starting from you, and what you want, or what are your values? What are you here in the world to do, when to create and to change, and then be able to create that ripple effect
Asmaa I. Methqal: through your program, to claim in your voice, to speaking, to doing, volunteering and mentorship, and supporting other women or queen in this ecosystems that you'll be able to create all around you.
Asmaa I. Methqal: And so from these 2 case studies. And I have hundreds of them. But I just wanted to share this, too. I just wanna share with you what will be like the 5 core
Asmaa I. Methqal: feminine entrepreneurship principles that you can implement yourself within your own community or with yourself.
Asmaa I. Methqal: And so one of the first one which you could hear even for my own story, which I love about it. By the way, because with entrepreneurship we are Client 0,
Asmaa I. Methqal: you are your client, 0 in everything that you create, because your ideal clients are only 2, 3 years ahead. Behind you. And so you're 2, 3 years ahead of your clients. And so you go back to you, being your client, 0 for everything that you're creating. And that's how people can connect with you. So it starts with this inner discovery.
Asmaa I. Methqal: and then it's access to your emotional wisdom, because I promise you, when your body wants to tell you something is very literal. We don't want to feel the slap.
Asmaa I. Methqal: We're definitely not. So we want to hear that whisper. And then starting to connect your intuition.
Asmaa I. Methqal: And one of the key elements with intuition is that when it's a whisper, it's your intuition. When it's loud, it's your ego.
Asmaa I. Methqal: And so just follow your excitement and define at what moment like when you're meeting someone, and we're talking to people. If you are feeling connected to this person, or you feel something is off. Listen to that, and never put logic into it, because intuition will understand things that logic won't. And I'm sure Shiva will have a lot of data to confirm that about heart intelligence.
Asmaa I. Methqal: The fourth one, which is key. And that's why we all here today is to break the norms.
Asmaa I. Methqal: break the norms that women cannot create multimillion 1 billion dollar businesses break the norms that only 3% of women get funding from investors break the norms, about the age, about your location, about the culture. We are all here about recognizing our preconditioning where where we were born, but how we can completely shift that take our power back. Remember our power, which I think is the key word, because at the end of the day.
Asmaa I. Methqal: in a way that any person that we meet, whether we are mentoring them, or coaching them, or doing entrepreneurship, or collaborating, or just being in the room here, if you see, if you love someone values or their strength that mean you already have them in you
Asmaa I. Methqal: right? And at the same time anything that you see we cannot be what we don't see, and that's why it's important for us to break those norms and claim our voices and take the stage and take our space and be able to speak up and create businesses that never existed.
Asmaa I. Methqal: Why not?
Asmaa I. Methqal: We don't all have to be and have an online store and then sell in products and services like we can do things where we can, hey? Let's just gather, and just like how to the moon, and just like, Pay me money, and let's have fun together, like it is possible. So it's all about breaking the norms. And then my fifth one, which is my favorite, is create your constellation.
Asmaa I. Methqal: I don't wanna call it a network because of network. Again, it's very logical. This needs to be connected to this. But a constellation is a constellation of stars, because we all have a spark within each one of us, and we are all here just to spark it through. We can build that spark to be able to create, because that genius you already have it within yourself, that feminine power. You already have it within yourself. You just need to spark it.
Asmaa I. Methqal: And now, through just this session today, if you felt connected to it, the spark has already happened, and then you create this constellation, this star, this other women all around you that are shining, and we're all like shining with each other.
Asmaa I. Methqal: So those would be like my 5 core principles of feminine leadership.
Asmaa I. Methqal: And for my tool
Asmaa I. Methqal: is I wanna offer you a tool? I have hundreds of them again, like I have so many. But the one that one of my favorites really is called the Queen list. And basically the reason why I chose this tool in particular, for this panel is.
Asmaa I. Methqal: I want you to slowly start, to connect to your feminine power and your feminine leadership while you are in your entrepreneurship.
Asmaa I. Methqal: And while doing that I want you to be able to have this best colored container, so sometime it could be the person. But sometime, if it's not.
Asmaa I. Methqal: it can be just something that is a structure. And within this structure, it's basically a very simple tool called the queen list. And it will be basically for you like a digital planner. And it's basically you choosing 5 non negotiable rituals or actions you wanna do every day to
Asmaa I. Methqal: activate and
Asmaa I. Methqal: activate your feminine power or your feminine leadership. You wanna honor that part of you it could be. I'm gonna I'm gonna dance. As soon as I wake up for 15 min it could be. I wanna meditate. It will be that I wanna drink one gallon of water. It could be that I wanna work out. I wanna go for walk in nature. I wanna be walking in water close to water.
Asmaa I. Methqal: Anything that will help you connect to your feminine where you are pausing
Asmaa I. Methqal: when you're not chasing where you are, being, where slowly wanna move from doing to being. And then within those 5 non negotiable items, you can have 3 that are about you just being, and 2 that are action oriented. Like, I need to finish my website today, I need to send this proposal. I need to connect to 5 people. I need to connect to 6 people. And so with this Queen list is one recognizing that you are the Queen.
Asmaa I. Methqal: that you're crying the business and the life that you dream of, and that you want to create. And then using that this structure or this planner as your own ritual for you to start honoring that.
Asmaa I. Methqal: And so for that. I thank you for listening to my story, and wanted to share, and just reminding you that it all starts with you
Asmaa I. Methqal: the moment you are deeply connected, and you're sparking those feminine principles and powers that you all have within yourself. You have so many strength the moment you tap into your feminine that will allow you to really take your business to the next level.
Asmaa I. Methqal: and for now
Asmaa I. Methqal: entrepreneurship won't happen without financial empowerment.
Asmaa I. Methqal: and then I give it to the beautiful Jessica to share with us how we can connect and make a beautiful story with our money.
Jessica Belmontes: Thank you, Asma. Thank you for your beautiful words. Thank you, my dear sisters.
Jessica Belmontes: thank you so much.
Jessica Belmontes: Yes, there comes a moment in life when everything aligns, when you find yourself standing at the intersection of passion and purpose.
Jessica Belmontes: knowing deep within you that you're exactly where you're meant to be
Jessica Belmontes: for me. That moment came with a profound realization of why I do what I do and why it's so important to me.
Jessica Belmontes: At just 6 years old I witnessed the daily struggle of my parents, who left everything they knew in Puerto Rico to come to the United States as they fought to provide for our family.
Jessica Belmontes: with both working tirelessly, alternating day and night shifts.
Jessica Belmontes: just to ensure there was always someone there for me. I saw firsthand the sacrifices they made to put food on the table.
Jessica Belmontes: but despite their efforts, there were moments of uncertainty.
Jessica Belmontes: times when they didn't know where our next meal would come from.
Jessica Belmontes: I remember the weight of my mother's defeat
Jessica Belmontes: in those yeah, early years I watched as my parents navigate the challenges of poverty, and I made a silent vow to myself
Jessica Belmontes: that I would never allow myself to be trapped. In that same cycle of struggle.
Jessica Belmontes: I refused to inherit the feelings of helplessness and defeat that plagued my mother. Instead, I nurtured a seed of determination, a burning desire to create a better life for myself and for my future family.
Jessica Belmontes: As I grew older that determination fueled my drive to succeed.
Jessica Belmontes: Education became my beacon of hope, my ticket to a brighter future.
Jessica Belmontes: I delved it to research. I found solutions, and I became passionate about sharing them with other women.
Jessica Belmontes: being a licensed, licensed mortgage loan originator and an educator on credit, allowed me to work with women
Jessica Belmontes: who were looking to make a better life for themselves.
Jessica Belmontes: With that I want to go into the story of Liliana.
Jessica Belmontes: who embarked on her journey from Guatemala to the United States in pursuit of a brighter future.
Jessica Belmontes: Departing from her homeland amid economic challenges.
Jessica Belmontes: Liliana struggled with the inability to support her family.
Jessica Belmontes: Initially she she thrived by the deteriorating economy in Guatemala.
Jessica Belmontes: sparked significant changes, and, despite her established status.
Jessica Belmontes: Liliana
Jessica Belmontes: supported her mother and extended family. During those trying times
Jessica Belmontes: upon losing her job, no other alternatives in sight. She made the resilient decision to come to the United States
Jessica Belmontes: upon arrival and witnessing the abundant possibilities Liliana realized she could forge a better life here in the United States.
Jessica Belmontes: When Liliana initially arrived, she was unfamiliar with the concept of credit and the requirements for purchasing her first home.
Jessica Belmontes: Assisted by the women of her church, Liliana received the guidance and the access to local resources.
Jessica Belmontes: enabling her to understand the steps involved.
Jessica Belmontes: In 2021 she achieves home ownership, and she also invested in a recreational vehicle, converting it into a rental property that generated passive income for her.
Jessica Belmontes: Liliana's resources were the women of her community church.
Jessica Belmontes: She was given the tool of research online and found the steps in how to become a homeowner through Hudd Gov, which is a website where Liliana was able to get the steps and the tools to prepare herself to become a homeowner.
Jessica Belmontes: And then we also have Maritza.
Jessica Belmontes: who came from Puerto Rico with her disabled daughter, after having lost everything during hurricane Maria, and felt that starting over was extremely difficult for her.
Jessica Belmontes: When I first met Maritza, she was under the impression that she would always be working to help her disabled daughter.
Jessica Belmontes: Maritza now is a homeowner, and she will be retiring from her job in less than 6 months, with 3 passive incomes coming in for the rest of her life.
Jessica Belmontes: Marita today is grateful. She had the resource of family who wanted to help her, and through her family she was able to meet the network of women who have helped her be in her new home and show her how to live a better life.
Jessica Belmontes: I wanted to share a couple, 2 statistics.
Jessica Belmontes: The first one is immigrant. Women play a significant role in driving home ownership. Here in the United States
Jessica Belmontes: a study by the joint center of housing studies of Harvard University found that immigrants accounted for nearly 40% of overall increase in homeownership rates between 1994 and 2,015.
Jessica Belmontes: And the second statistic is a report from the new American economy. That shows that in 2,017 there were 1.2 million immigrant women entrepreneurs here in the United States.
Jessica Belmontes: and more than 65,000 of those women ran their own restaurants.
Jessica Belmontes: food service businesses, and more than 55,000 owned beauty salons, and another 50,000 had their own nail salons.
Jessica Belmontes: With all that being said, our focus must shift from scarcity to abundance, from dependence to empowerment. The stories of Liliana Marica are 2 statements in how women can become resilient in finding resources and networking with other women.
Jessica Belmontes: HUD, Gov. Nerdwalla, Com. Findhelp, Org, and Score org are just some of the resources and solutions that help Liliana and Maritza.
Jessica Belmontes: By implementing these solutions, women can gain the knowledge, resources, and the support needed to confidently navigate
Jessica Belmontes: the home ownership process and build a solid foundation for financial stability and success.
Sheva Carr: Jessica, can you go back a slide? I'm putting those resources in the chat for everyone.
Jessica Belmontes: Oh, I'm sorry, thank.
Sheva Carr: No, you're good. Okay. I got. I got the last one. Thank you.
Jessica Belmontes: All right, you're welcome. So Haddad serves as a beacon of hope, getting women on the path to homeownership with valuable resources and support, and Nerdwallet Com offers empowering tools and insights
Jessica Belmontes: into credit, building and equipping women with the knowledge to establish and maintain strong credit, profiles.
Jessica Belmontes: and find and find help.org provides a wealth of empowerment resources.
Jessica Belmontes: spanning education, housing, health, and even more
Jessica Belmontes: and additionally score.org is a nonprofit organization that provides free mentoring resources and tools to aspiring entrepreneurs and small business owners. Right here in the United States.
Jessica Belmontes: score offers confidential business counseling workshops, webinars, and online resources to help individuals start and manage their business successfully.
Jessica Belmontes: And, in conclusion, let's embrace abundance and empower ourselves and other women to break free from the shackles of scarcity. Let's redefine financial freedom, build passive income streams like Liliana and Marizza and transform our relationship with money
Jessica Belmontes: together, we can create a future where every woman has a knowledge and resources to live a life of abundance and fulfillment.
Jessica Belmontes: And I wanted to share my one tool, which is Nerdwallet Com. If you could put that up again on the chat, because this specific tool actually gives so many resources to women which speak to personal finance.
Jessica Belmontes: It talks about budgeting and saving, investing, banking. It even provides calculators, guides, and articles and personalized recommendations, you know, tailored to your individual financial goals, and also your circumstances.
Jessica Belmontes: So thank you very much.
Jessica Belmontes: and with that I'd like to move it on to our lets, which she will be speaking to the pillar of emotional wellbeing.
Arlette: Thank you, Jessica. Thank you. Asma and Dr. Carolyn.
Arlette: I just wanna share that. Dr. Caroline Colleen was also my mentor many years ago. And I just wanna take this time here today to thinker, because I don't think I have thinker lately. And I think this is a great opportunity to do that.
Arlette: and thank you, Sheva, for having me today. And I see Laurie from Spain. Laurie, it's good to see you here. I'm sorry I didn't get to see you again at the United Nations in New York. But it was nice to meet you.
Arlette: Okay. So the first thing that I want to start before I share my story is a statement that really permeates in my heart, and that I want you to take a moment to think about.
Arlette: And this statement is with love.
Arlette: There is no fear
Arlette: without fear.
Arlette: There is no anger.
Arlette: Take a moment to to think about that in in what that means to you.
Arlette: So it is delayed afternoon here in in Florida, and I am honored to be here to share a little bit about my story.
Arlette: this story that I'm welcoming to to all of you is the story of resilience and empowerment for women's wellness.
Arlette: Again, my name is Arlette. I am the executive director at the Girl Lacrosse Area Diversity Council and the founder of the Wellness Network.
Arlette: I want to start by sharing that emotional literacy and evidence based mental health mythologies were learned along the way on my own journey, and not necessarily from the school setting during my psychology, background and career, but rather and truly brought to life from my inner wisdom.
Arlette: that inner wisdom that is in all of us.
Arlette: that inner wisdom that we all have.
Arlette: My story resonates with many of the women that I have had the honor and opportunity to share space with
Arlette: surviving the patriarchal and societal restraints and limitations that that I also grew up with.
Arlette: So I had lived in Columbia, where I was born until I was 24 years old, and I. I have lived in the Midwest, on the east coast of the Us. On the west coast.
Arlette: back to the Midwest, and now back on the east coast.
Arlette: and my background is in psychology and counsel counseling
Arlette: in program development for nonprofit among many other jobs that a often, as women do throughout our our lives and growing into our older years. I'm now 51 years old.
Arlette: and my story began in the vibrant coastal city of Kartagina.
Arlette: in Columbia with a little girl full of curiosity and joy.
Arlette: This little girl family said that she would always be speaking. She would always be asking questions.
Arlette: and this little girl wanted to be around women, and she was helpful and sweet.
Arlette: eye, whole heart and space for the heart of that little girl.
Arlette: That experience all forms of abuse.
Arlette: That little girl was me.
Arlette: you see. So I I learned by inner wisdom.
Arlette: not only of survival, but the recognition of my inner peace nature, by living with my mother and my aunt
Arlette: after my mother had left a very unhealthy marriage
Arlette: also from
Arlette: terrifying abuse.
Arlette: and without exactly knowing, living at my aunt's Ruth's home, had made a remarkable impression on my life's journey.
Arlette: I was surrounded by women, and my cousin Sandra, who is 6 years older than me.
Arlette: would lift me up the branches of the Kneesbrook trees on our street. This delicious and sweet fruit that only grows in that region of the planet.
Arlette: And Sandra.
Arlette: Said something to me that she among many positive and inclined things that that she would say, and we were always together.
Arlette: Not only when I was little, but then she had had also moved to a town that my mother and I moved from Cartagena, where I grew up
Arlette: after 4 years old, and so her and I had had
Arlette: have been very close.
Arlette: And so Sandra said something to me, and and she said again many things. But this
Arlette: really really stayed with me throughout my life, and still today makes deep mark on my decisions
Arlette: of finding calm.
Arlette: and that is, you are very intelligent.
Arlette: and we're talking about emotional intelligence. When I was told that I was going to be speaking about this. I found it to be maybe a coincidence, but nothing. Life is a coincidence.
Arlette: This is, I believe
Arlette: I have. So, she said, you are very, very intelligent.
Arlette: Little did I know that she was speaking of emotional intelligence, the one that drives to the heart and changes the not so positive connections in your brain.
Arlette: So I go to these words, despite the trials, despite the words that have been told to me, and and say the opposite. I have been told too many times through through throughout my life you will not amount to anything. You're not worthy among many others, and this is the experience of many of the women that I have had the honor to to work with.
Arlette: And still today, when in despair or doubt.
Arlette: I go to this statement.
Arlette: So I went to these words, when I I found myself in my darkest moment.
Arlette: the darkest moment of my life
Arlette: and that is after 12 years of marriage I had suppressed my feelings for way too long, and during during a state of survival, somehow I had managed to help other women while being in denial of my own trials of my own pain.
Arlette: And suddenly I ended up in in the hospital. I couldn't eat, I couldn't drink, and
Arlette: after a week the diagnosis stole by the doctor to me was, you have chronic anxiety.
Arlette: and I was in disbelief again.
Arlette: but but I came home
Arlette: with a bottle of anxiety pills and I and it looked at my son.
Arlette: and I told myself, I will work on this.
Arlette: and every day I will wake up and take force. I didn't know where
Arlette: this force was coming from. I didn't know it was coming from within.
Arlette: and I took my son to school every morning. I would wait until noon, so that I could make longer time, that I would have to take that prescribed medication
Arlette: that I was sold to take 3 times a day.
Arlette: and I took.
Arlette: and it took about 10 days, and and I got on my niece.
Arlette: and every day from that day forward, after throwing away those bills.
Arlette: I started praying.
Arlette: but but that prayer was not the kind of prayer I was taught. When I was little
Arlette: I got on my knees, and I started breathing.
Arlette: and as many of you know there is, there is power in our breath. It our our breathing is directly connected to our brain.
Arlette: into our hearts.
Arlette: into our soul.
Arlette: And I started breathing, and intuitively I I started
Arlette: just listening to my own wisdom.
Arlette: remember remembering my own wisdom. Somehow I had forgotten
Arlette: how I had
Arlette: help myself in the past.
Arlette: breathing in and breathing out and telling myself. I can do this. I will survive this. Nothing will get in my way, and
Arlette: I continue to breathe every day, every morning, every afternoon.
Arlette: and it's
Arlette: is all that
Arlette: that time in in? Did these these 3 longest time, these 3 longest months
Arlette: of my life?
Arlette: that help me through find my inner wisdom.
Arlette: So you see I throw away that that bottle fills after 10 days, and I believe I remember my intervene was there to support me, and I was not alone
Arlette: because I had isolated myself. Thinking that
Arlette: I I could do it on my own, and although that solitude helped me to get recent. I started connecting again with with the women in my life.
Arlette: and so that that time of solitude and inner wisdom and and breathing in allow me to also remember that we're we're not here to to do it alone.
Arlette: Hmm
Arlette: and this is when my breakthrough and healing journey started ironically. I had been supporting women in my counseling practice with nonprofit and and for profit organizations, and I had unconsciously forgotten about me as a way of protection.
Arlette: I was. I was suppressing my feelings, and this is when I realized I had been preparing to help other women through the artists of self love.
Arlette: the art of self, love and wellness.
Arlette: One of those women had undergone brain surgery.
Arlette: She was diagnosed with a brain cancer tumor, and she had also experienced
Arlette: suppressing her feelings
Arlette: and the pressures of trying so hard to do all things.
Arlette: to sustain all things.
Arlette: and then collapse
Arlette: after surgery and and following, being paralyzed from the waist down, she went into depression
Arlette: and was the breathing into wellness tool that started to bring her back to her center.
Arlette: This amazing woman runs her own pastry business now
Arlette: from her wheelchair and from her home.
Arlette: and she is able to sustain financially herself.
Arlette: So with with this great story. There's many
Arlette: amazing stories of other women that have been able to connect with their with their intervening
Arlette: and and really and live the way that we are meant to to live.
Arlette: which is enjoying this journey this this short time, this short time that we are giving
Arlette: without worrying about the external.
Arlette: the the external
Arlette: the external calls, the external needs
Arlette: and really and truly
Arlette: remembering our divine, that we have, we have that divine within us.
Arlette: And so the breathing to wellness is
Arlette: as this tool that was created to and designed to enhance this emotional intelligence
Arlette: that we all have and and promote that overall wellbeing
Arlette: and something interesting that that I'd like to share about
Arlette: about the the brain, and and how science has proven that meditation and mindful mindfulness can change the neuropathic connections in your brain and and can significantly, significantly, improve our wellbeing. Not only mentally, but physically
Arlette: and spiritually.
Arlette: So
Arlette: if you if you go to the statistics,
Arlette: almost more than 50% of the world's population so globally, people are 50% at least with one with one mental health
Arlette: issue. And we need to make sure that we are taking care of ourselves first, before we take care of others, because we're here for a purpose. You know that video told that told it all that the video at the beginning. And I was getting very emotional just watching that video because
Arlette: we forget
Arlette: we forget that
Arlette: us women we're here with
Arlette: with that purpose of love and
Arlette: and yes, there is a lot of work to do. But also we need to go into
Arlette: into our own wisdom and breathe.
Arlette: So I want. I want to take a moment to
Arlette: to remind ourselves to this wisdom, this inner wisdom that we have
Arlette: and ground us into this power of mindfulness and breathwork.
Arlette: And this technique to cultivate this resilience
Arlette: that we have in this self-awareness and inner peace.
Arlette: and to remind ourselves that we we are okay, that we're gonna be okay and
Arlette: in that our wellbeing comes first.
Arlette: So please take a moment to close your eyes
Arlette: in, breathe
Arlette: in deep
Arlette: and exhale from your mouth.
Arlette: breathing deep.
Arlette: and exhale from your mouth.
Arlette: Find an intention for this
Arlette: moment for you.
Arlette: whatever whatever that intention may be.
Arlette: and we're going to practice double breathing to calm our minds
Arlette: like. So
Arlette: you can repeat this 11 times.
Arlette: breathe in
Arlette: and exhale through the mouth.
Arlette: breath in
Arlette: in exhale through the mouth.
Arlette: breathe in.
Arlette: exhale through the mouth.
Arlette: Continue.
Arlette: Now, let's practice equitable breathing for 5 breaths.
Arlette: We're going to do counts of 4
Arlette: today just counts of 4. So you're going to inhale at the count of 4.
Arlette: Inhale 2, 3,
Arlette: 4,
Arlette: pause and hold your breath for 4, 3, 4, and exhale for 4,
Arlette: 2, 3, 4. Inhale. 2,
Arlette: 3, 4,
Arlette: bold.
Arlette: 2, 3, 4.
Arlette: Exhale.
Arlette: 2, 3, 4.
Arlette: Go to a feeling of love or peace.
Arlette: You can't find those feelings right now go to a time
Arlette: where you felt this way.
Arlette: where you felt
Arlette: loved.
Arlette: where you felt safe.
Arlette: where you felt peace.
Arlette: and imagine
Arlette: those feelings right now.
Arlette: and repeat to yourself.
Arlette: I am perfect
Arlette: in my perfect
Arlette: in perfection.
Arlette: I am meant
Arlette: for great things.
Arlette: and great thanks for all those around me
Arlette: for the wellbeing of all beings.
Arlette: Thank you.
Arlette: Thank you for being here.
Dr. Carolyn: Thank you so much, Charlotte. Thank you. Thank you.
Arlette: Now we're gonna go into.
Dr. Carolyn: What is Shiva?
Arlette: Okay.
Dr. Carolyn: You. Thank you. Arlen.
Arlette: Thank you.
Sheva Carr: We have
Sheva Carr: an antidote here
Sheva Carr: to numb zoom gloom.
Sheva Carr: cause. We have been sitting in front of computers now
Sheva Carr: for an hour, and no for almost 2 solid hours.
Sheva Carr: And I wanna thank all of these panelists, and I wanna give your bodies a break.
Sheva Carr: So
Sheva Carr: most of you have your cameras off. Anyway, you're welcome to turn them on or keep them off.
Sheva Carr: I'm going to play you a song
Sheva Carr: that gives us some insights into some of what our let just shared with us, and I want to invite you to get up and move.
Sheva Carr: Sitting is the new smoking, says the research.
Sheva Carr: and so we are here to nurture and nourish you, not damage your body.
Sheva Carr: So here we go. Here we grow.
Sheva Carr: Give me just a moment to activate this screen share for you.
Sheva Carr: Could you be trapping?
Sheva Carr: No one can see you in a move.
Sheva Carr: A.
Sheva Carr: We are in this together, so let us breathe in there, let it go. Our friend. Coherence is the antidote to life that's weird in a cantaloupe
Sheva Carr: they'll keep us in coherent with the love bass law make us more resilient because quarto and belabor, and keep our brain and bodies in the state of vigilance.
Sheva Carr: I know it's times when you feel scared anxiety, and your thoughts, body full of fear. But if you take a step back and focus within, when external stress come, you'll be more prepared.
Sheva Carr: Listen to my words, quiet your mind in a place you won't be disturbed, one hand over your heart, and inhale deeply inducing a joyous feeling cause you deserve it.
Sheva Carr: Appreciation, care, and gratitude. Attention on your heart. Center with the matatus, see our brand, and rewards! Out with dopamine, the chemical.
Sheva Carr: that's all. In a happy move. Happy move!
Sheva Carr: Keep your heart center. Open
Sheva Carr: brain will produce doses of isotopes, and
Sheva Carr: these hormones will make you bond closer while keeping you feeling safe like a mom's nurture. That's close. Now let's turn it to the other side. We're cortisol
Sheva Carr: wrapper. Never let a
Sheva Carr: make it up.
Sheva Carr: Madness, rage, deal, shame, fear, and pain. Make your autonomic nervous system, fight a flight
Sheva Carr: body's on a balance, making ability to heal a major challenge, survival moe, make you vigilant looking for danger, anger, make your heart rhythm or sporadic, and that's why we are in this together. So let us breathe in there. Let it go. Heartfred, in coherence, is the antidote to life the sweeter than a cantaloupe
Sheva Carr: will keep us in coherent. But the love
Sheva Carr: make us more resilient escort a solid, and been there for keep our brain and bodies in the State evangelists.
Sheva Carr: E.
Sheva Carr: Polly, hey?
Sheva Carr: Don't do
Sheva Carr: alright.
Asmaa I. Methqal: But hip, hop, song with like gratitude.
Asmaa I. Methqal: words that's so awesome.
Sheva Carr: Isn't that fun.
Asmaa I. Methqal: Oh, cool!
Sheva Carr: Kofi is the name of the artist.
Sheva Carr: and that is 35 years of evidence-based research
Sheva Carr: summarized for you in 2 min of hip. Hop, how's that? And rap?
Sheva Carr: So the breathing that our let just gave us
Sheva Carr: changes so many things inside us.
Sheva Carr: and how we engage with what's outside us?
Sheva Carr: I want to take a breath. I just wanted to give everybody's body some breath.
Sheva Carr: and we're I love the love that's coming in the chat. By the way. I just want to honor that. And the chat is being recorded with this. So we'll make sure all the panelists
Sheva Carr: get that at the end. And any of you that want this recording.
Sheva Carr: You can write to us
Sheva Carr: at supports
Sheva Carr: at Hart ambassadors.com to request the recording.
Sheva Carr: You are free to share it with anyone that you wish.
Sheva Carr: I want to come back to the feelings some of you put in the chat at the very beginning about how you felt
Sheva Carr: in the presence of someone listening to you or mentoring you.
Sheva Carr: sustained, supported, safe
Sheva Carr: life, giving strong, powerful, connected, unconditionally loved, powerful, supported, vulnerable relief. That was mine. Coda, relieved.
Sheva Carr: rounded, strong, supported, loved, empowered, uplifted, loved, unconditionally loved. Are you hearing a theme?
Sheva Carr: Saw my light, loved, connected, heard, valued, worthy, loved.
Sheva Carr: Now I want to ask you.
Sheva Carr: Maybe we could pause and refocus in the heart for a moment, and just
Sheva Carr: connect with any of those feelings that resonated with you and activate them as you breathe in through the heart and out through the heart, heart maths, quick coherence, technique.
Sheva Carr: focusing attention in the area around the chest, the heart area.
Sheva Carr: imagining the breath is flowing in through the heart and out through the heart.
Sheva Carr: breathing any of those qualities that we just reconnected with.
Sheva Carr: or that appreciation you started with
Sheva Carr: for those who have mentored you
Sheva Carr: as you breathe those qualities in through the heart and out through the heart.
Sheva Carr: Do you feel more like the red line or the blue line. You can put your answer in the chat.
Sheva Carr: Here come the answers.
Sheva Carr: blue, blue, blue.
Sheva Carr: Do we all agree.
Sheva Carr: Carolyn said something beautiful beautiful earlier, she said.
Sheva Carr: Sometimes we're not here to learn something new. We're here to remember. Something true
Sheva Carr: gives me chills to say that back to you, Carolyn.
Sheva Carr: Something true and blue, apparently.
Sheva Carr: And
Sheva Carr: now I'm gonna tell you, or we'll find out in a moment what these lines are.
Sheva Carr: But
Sheva Carr: I'm curious.
Sheva Carr: How did you know? How did you recognize your mentors?
Sheva Carr: Take a moment to contemplate?
Sheva Carr: How did you know
Sheva Carr: someone was a mentor to you
Sheva Carr: and thank you, Jamie Lynn. We can get you the recording of the finale later.
Sheva Carr: How did you know? And if you want to put your answers in the chat. I'm I think it's a curious question. I would like to hear your answers to
Sheva Carr: their patience. Love, intentional presence.
Sheva Carr: Beautiful? Thank you, Jamie. Then
Sheva Carr: how did you recognize them
Sheva Carr: intuitive, knowing presence?
Sheva Carr: Did you read their resume
Sheva Carr: or
Sheva Carr: Google them? A heart connection, says Lori. Or did you feel it?
Sheva Carr: Feel it? Says Asma
Sheva Carr: felt, says Laurie. And was that feeling more like the blue line or the red line?
Sheva Carr: So far? Everybody is saying they felt it.
Sheva Carr: Does anyone.
Sheva Carr: If you're a hard ambassador, and I mentor you.
Sheva Carr: You're not allowed to answer this question.
Sheva Carr: Does anyone know what these lines are a picture of?
Sheva Carr: I want to take a guess.
Sheva Carr: The hard ambassadors are giggling.
Sheva Carr: These are a picture of heart rhythms.
Sheva Carr: heart rhythm patterns.
Sheva Carr: Yes, Anna, you've got it. Heart rate variability
Sheva Carr: beat to beat changes in the heart's rhythm. And this was a piece of research
Sheva Carr: that put the Heart Math Institute, a place where Carolyn generously said earlier, I'm the director of our healthcare division.
Sheva Carr: In addition to having my own community where I mentor people to become mentors
Sheva Carr: because we value mentoring so much.
Sheva Carr: this research put Heartmath on the map published in the American Journal of Cardiology in 90 95,
Sheva Carr: showing that that emotional intelligence that Arlette talked with us about earlier
Sheva Carr: not only changes our feeling, it changes our whole physiology.
Sheva Carr: including the part of our brain, perceiving life and responding to it.
Sheva Carr: So when Jessica, so vulnerably and beautifully shared, witnessing the helplessness, hopelessness, and despair
Sheva Carr: of her parents in the poverty grind.
Sheva Carr: and her antidote was determination and desire
Sheva Carr: that gave her a change of heart.
Sheva Carr: She moved not only herself, but her intergenerational
Sheva Carr: lineage
Sheva Carr: from incoherent physiological patterns
Sheva Carr: to coherent ones that
Sheva Carr: literally change your epigenetics.
Sheva Carr: not just your opportunities in life, the the financial opportunities, but the physiological play out of your life events and your aging.
Sheva Carr: She did that
Sheva Carr: by choosing to take helplessness.
Sheva Carr: hopelessness, and despair, and make determination and desire with it.
Sheva Carr: That is a change of heart, and it can happen in a heartbeat
Sheva Carr: the moment you practice a quick coherence. Technique like that.
Sheva Carr: like the one that we just did. And what's so, Admiral, about all these incredible, heroic women that we've heard speak today? Is they not only did it once?
Sheva Carr: Oh, no. I just lost Internet. Can you guys still hear me?
Sheva Carr: Okay.
Dr. Carolyn: Yes.
Asmaa I. Methqal: Yes, you're good.
Sheva Carr: So
Sheva Carr: when we have these little disconnects from Internet, it's like a disconnect from our intuition. I think it was
Sheva Carr: asthma so beautifully said, you know you're out of balance if your intuition is offline.
Sheva Carr: But I have one of those very supportive husbands who went and got me a cord to put me back online.
Sheva Carr: we need tools to get back online. We need the cord.
Sheva Carr: And what heartmath research has shown us
Sheva Carr: is that that cord.
Sheva Carr: the access to bring that intuitive intelligence back online is in the heart
Sheva Carr: through this special state
Sheva Carr: called physiological coherence. Does somebody just want to read what you see on this slide.
Sheva Carr: the definition of coherence.
Sheva Carr: I'll get you.
Sheva Carr: Okay. This is what it's like working with a group of women. We are all like, yes, we'll do it.
Arlette: Somebody else wanted to read. I I wanna let someone else to read. I I don't know.
Arlette: Psychological coherence.
Arlette: I'd have to be.
Sheva Carr: Physiological. So it's it includes.
Arlette: Sorry. Thank you. I'm reading it.
Sheva Carr: Literally changing us at the physical cellular level. So thank you, Arlette, for that typo and reading cause it allows us to emphasize. This is a physical change. Yes, go!
Arlette: Yes, physiological coherence, an optimal state in which the heart.
Arlette: mind, and emotions are aligned, and in sync
Arlette: physiologically, the immune, hormonal, and nervous systems function in a state of energetic coordination.
Sheva Carr: When that happens, we have access, they change an operating system.
Sheva Carr: It doesn't just change your outer profession. This is what
Sheva Carr: Asma was talking to us about that entrepreneurship is an inside job.
Sheva Carr: It requires a different operating system than the poverty operating system of scarcity and survival mode.
Sheva Carr: and it is an operating system available to everyone who has a heart.
Sheva Carr: Now I looked up the etymology of the word mentor
Sheva Carr: because I got really curious about this.
Sheva Carr: and it's interesting, because spontaneously this morning I was consulting to a hospital
Sheva Carr: where the hospitals are having radical turnover, and we're a bit short on time, so I may, you know, for those who can stay late, I can share with you some of our evidence-based data
Sheva Carr: on how these simple techniques, like the ones that you've been learning today. Turn the dial on personal entrepreneurial success, but also massive systemic organizational success when they're implemented at scale.
Sheva Carr: But this morning I was consulting to one of our large hospital systems that we work with.
Sheva Carr: and their hospitals have
Sheva Carr: horrible turnover, and it's one of the places this kind of emotional intelligence shines in preventing turnover. And so we bring these skills there. And this group of hospital leaders, all women
Sheva Carr: have just onboarded 11 new hires.
Sheva Carr: and they were trying to sort out how to retain them.
Sheva Carr: because
Sheva Carr: new grad nurses don't stay in the profession anymore.
Sheva Carr: They leave within 5 years, and that's bringing the healthcare industry to a critical
Sheva Carr: edge.
Sheva Carr: It used to be the average age of a nurse
Sheva Carr: was 35. You want that right long standing nurses with new Newbies. The average age of nurses now around the world is between 55 and 71.
Sheva Carr: What are we gonna do 10 years from now?
Sheva Carr: So they were problem solving solution, seeking for how to retain their nurses.
Sheva Carr: and I asked them, well, they're all seasoned nurses that have been in the profession for 30 years, they said.
Sheva Carr: what made you stay when you first came on? And do you know what their answer was?
Sheva Carr: Someone on staff personally took them under their wing and mentored them when they arrived.
Sheva Carr: So we helped them develop.
Sheva Carr: create a plan this morning
Sheva Carr: for how to pair each new hire with a mentor.
Sheva Carr: And this is so. A wise advisor, an intimate friend, who also is a sage counselor.
Sheva Carr: The source of it is from the Greek mentor in the Odyssey is from a play.
Sheva Carr: Did you guys know this? I thought this was so interesting
Sheva Carr: the name of the friend of Odysseus
Sheva Carr: and advisor to Telemachus.
Sheva Carr: And this is what I thought was so interesting in light of us. Presenting this at the Commission on the status of women.
Sheva Carr: The Mentor in the Odyssey was often the Greek goddess of wisdom, appearing as a man in disguise.
Sheva Carr: Isn't that interesting? So she's bringing feminine
Sheva Carr: intelligence of listening, supporting, nurturing
Sheva Carr: to Mentor.
Sheva Carr: No.
Sheva Carr: what I want to leave you with
Sheva Carr: is that the ultimate mentor inside each of us is the heart, your heart.
Sheva Carr: It's your heart inside you that recognized your other mentors. Anyway.
Sheva Carr: Just take a moment to point to where you felt it. You all said you felt your mentor when you recognize them.
Sheva Carr: point to where you felt it, or how you felt it.
Sheva Carr: For me. It's right here.
Sheva Carr: The heart, it turns out, has its own brain
Sheva Carr: that sends far more information north to this cerebral brain.
Sheva Carr: Then this brain sends cell
Sheva Carr: 80% more.
Sheva Carr: A brain with its own neurotransmitters, its own complex nervous system
Sheva Carr: and support cells.
Sheva Carr: its own intrinsic nervous system, a heart with a unique kind of intelligence in that brain.
Sheva Carr: There's communication along 4 pathways here.
Sheva Carr: but the heart is uniquely positioned to act as a global coordinator of all the different aspects of our being
Sheva Carr: those feelings. I'm gonna backtrack for just a moment because we're gonna make sure you get one more tool today.
Sheva Carr: The feelings that you felt in the presence of your mentor
Sheva Carr: are feelings that generate coherence in the heart.
Sheva Carr: and you can generate coherence in your heart to access your own inner mentor.
Sheva Carr: the guide inside you
Sheva Carr: that opens up
Sheva Carr: the higher centers of the brain for innovative problem, solving solution, seeking actually the frontal and prefrontal lobes that are often called. Get this
Sheva Carr: the executive function of the brain, the C-suite of your body.
Sheva Carr: That's where entrepreneurialism lives
Sheva Carr: and to access that based on 35 years of research.
Sheva Carr: we can do it by creating this heartbrain synchronization.
Sheva Carr: So we perceive, feel, focus, learn reason, solution, seek and perform at our best.
Sheva Carr: the guide inside you.
Sheva Carr: This is just a slide, showing you exactly what I just said.
Sheva Carr: the signal going up the vagus nerve and a long
Sheva Carr: 3 other pathways to open up the CEO inside you.
Sheva Carr: Now, I'm gonna
Sheva Carr: skip ahead here and we're gonna do
Sheva Carr: a technique to access that guide inside which will be available
Sheva Carr: on that
Sheva Carr: beautiful QR code and link that Esma's put in the chat for us.
Sheva Carr: This technique from heart math
Sheva Carr: is called the Freeze frame technique
Sheva Carr: where you can pause at any time and talk to the mentor inside your own heart.
Sheva Carr: And with permission, since we technically have 1 min left, may I go a little over time? Can we take 5 more minutes to do this tool
Sheva Carr: for those who have to leave, and would like the recording? Just write to us at support at heart, ambassadors.com, and we'll get it to you.
Sheva Carr: Now, I happen to have these skills because one of my
Sheva Carr: most important mentors in my own life
Sheva Carr: had given me these skills as a young graduate student before I started a business.
Sheva Carr: I was in medical school, actually not a business person.
Sheva Carr: not an entrepreneur. I was studying to be a healer.
Sheva Carr: and when I founded my business, my accountant said to me.
Sheva Carr: as I was signing the Secretary of State paperwork.
Sheva Carr: Well, it's okay. You won't need this in 5 years, anyway, because most businesses, especially women, owned close their doors within the first 5 years.
Sheva Carr: that sounding like those nursing students
Sheva Carr: well, coming by my red hair. Naturally, I took that as a challenge.
Sheva Carr: and I went out and bought a bottle of champagne
Sheva Carr: to Cork on the fifth year and first day of my business
Sheva Carr: or uncork, I guess.
Sheva Carr: and then I did my research.
Sheva Carr: I wanted to know why businesses closed their doors, I assumed.
Sheva Carr: Let's see, put in the chat. Why do you think most businesses don't survive the first 5 years
Sheva Carr: puts your best guests in the chat.
Sheva Carr: Carolyn, of course, is going to say lack of mentorship. I love it.
Sheva Carr: Fear they give up too soon. Wow! You guys are more evolved than I was.
Sheva Carr: I thought
Sheva Carr: they went bankrupt.
Sheva Carr: Nope.
Sheva Carr: it wasn't for lack of money.
Sheva Carr: it was for lack of hope.
Sheva Carr: They emotionally burned out.
Sheva Carr: I had the secret sauce from my mentor, Doc Childer, who founded Hartman.
Sheva Carr: I knew how to self-source hope, and my solution, solving mind
Sheva Carr: from the power of my heart.
Sheva Carr: and when I hit those burnout points and those unsurmountable obstacles that look like walls, I had the heart grappling hook to turn those walls into stepping stones.
Sheva Carr: and that's what I want to give you now, and my business has been operational now
Sheva Carr: for over 25 years.
Sheva Carr: Well, that is applause to all of you in this room, and the hard investors that are here because a business is only as good as the people it serves and collaborates with.
Sheva Carr: And so
Sheva Carr: I want to invite you to write down
Sheva Carr: a challenge or a stressor that you wish you had a mentor. You could talk to about it
Sheva Carr: and just take a moment to write down, even in shorthand what that is.
Sheva Carr: Notice how your reaction to and experience of that challenge
Sheva Carr: is impacting your body.
Sheva Carr: your emotions and your thought process
Sheva Carr: and write that down.
Sheva Carr: And I just want to acknowledge, like when you have, when you operate your business heart based.
Sheva Carr: you attract the most amazing teams and people like Miss Melinda Dewey, my coo, who
Sheva Carr: didn't even coordinate this with me. But she just put the freeze frame technique as a Pdf. In the chat for all of you.
Sheva Carr: Thank you, Melinda.
Sheva Carr: I give the heart credit for finding Melinda.
Sheva Carr: Not only do you attract mentors, you attract your teams. Yes, go ahead, Linda.
Melinda Dewey: And speaking about teams, I thought I just posted it on the website, too. So what a team.
Sheva Carr: Thank you so much.
Sheva Carr: Now
Sheva Carr: notice, does your current
Sheva Carr: struggle or reaction to this challenge make you feel more like the
Sheva Carr: crazy red line or the blue line.
Sheva Carr: and just know if you feel like the red line.
Sheva Carr: That's good news.
Sheva Carr: because it means you're looking through a peephole, and you can't see the solution. Yet
Sheva Carr: it also means bite out. It's like looking at life through a shaking camera lens.
Sheva Carr: You're not seeing it clearly.
Sheva Carr: A mentor helps us see clearly what we can't see, and the heart can do that
Sheva Carr: when there's no one else around to mentor you.
Sheva Carr: so shall we access the heart. We're going to do the tool you've already done, and add a step to it to turn it into the freeze frame. So focus your attention
Sheva Carr: on the area around the heart, the chest area.
Sheva Carr: Imagine your breath is flowing in and out of your heart or chest area, breathing a little slower and deeper than usual.
Sheva Carr: If you find it helpful, you can count as you breathe in
Sheva Carr: and count as you breathe out.
Sheva Carr: that even inhale, even exhale.
Sheva Carr: that
Sheva Carr: Arlette brought us through earlier
Sheva Carr: begins to balance the autonomic nervous system in that even sign curve.
Sheva Carr: as you breathe in through the heart.
Sheva Carr: bend out through the heart.
Sheva Carr: Now make a sincere attempt to experience a regenerative feeling such as appreciation or care
Sheva Carr: for someone or something in your life. It might be that gratitude you've been sending your mentors
Sheva Carr: breathe that feeling in through the heart and out through the heart
Sheva Carr: from this more coherent place.
Sheva Carr: Ask your heart
Sheva Carr: for a more efficient or effective
Sheva Carr: attitude, action or response
Sheva Carr: to the stress store.
Sheva Carr: a response that minimizes your stress. So ask yourself, ask your heart, the guide inside you
Sheva Carr: for its response
Sheva Carr: to this challenge and write down the first thing that comes to you without editing.
Sheva Carr: Now look back at your first of all, if you didn't hear anything right away.
Sheva Carr: one of my mentors calls Nbd.
Sheva Carr: No big deal.
Sheva Carr: I've been in this UN
Sheva Carr: seminar. Well, actually, half an hour longer than the rest of you, because we came early to party before you all got here.
Sheva Carr: This phone, I guarantee you, has been ringing off the hook, but I'm not picking up. I'm in a panel.
Sheva Carr: Sometimes the heart doesn't respond right away, but if you leave a message it calls you back later. So no problem. If you didn't hear something.
Sheva Carr: I want you to look at your first response and pick a word that summarizes that reaction and circle it.
Sheva Carr: The response before asking your heart, mentor.
Sheva Carr: and pick a word or a phrase that summarizes your heart's response
Sheva Carr: and circle, that
Sheva Carr: if you heard one.
Sheva Carr: and what I would have you do
Sheva Carr: is put those words side by side in the chat. So my first word was conflict, and then my heart's response was explore
Sheva Carr: one of my core values. Actually.
Sheva Carr: So you're putting your before and after words in the chat.
Sheva Carr: Avoidance to reach out.
Sheva Carr: strategize, to feel through. Don't think through urgency to patience.
Sheva Carr: love these.
Sheva Carr: I am an N. Of one
Sheva Carr: juggling to believe. Thank you, Carolyn. I am an N. Of one
Sheva Carr: to how this
Sheva Carr: emotionally intelligent physiological transformation sustains a business.
Sheva Carr: But I'm just going to share with you.
Sheva Carr: Briefly.
Sheva Carr: what happens when you have an N
Sheva Carr: of almost 12,000 people in 5 large corporations around the world.
Sheva Carr: they get 50% less tired, 50% less exhausted.
Sheva Carr: 50% less depressed, less anxious, less annoyed, less angry, and that equals reductions in turnover.
Sheva Carr: increased employee satisfaction and client satisfaction
Sheva Carr: holding above 90%
Sheva Carr: 6 years later.
Sheva Carr: increase in safety in high reliability. Industries
Sheva Carr: reduce reductions in employee healthcare costs, reductions in absenteeism and a more common problem. Now presenteeism
Sheva Carr: where they're there, but not there.
Sheva Carr: There is so much more that we could share about this. But I am going to honor our time.
Sheva Carr: Nancy put personally to me in the chat, is it? Okay, Nancy? If I share what you wrote with everyone?
Sheva Carr: Yes, judgment down, slant to stay the course and use the tools.
Sheva Carr: Nancy's heart guidance may be the final word for all of us. Stay the course and use the tools.
Sheva Carr: I have a quotation here for you.
Sheva Carr: because, as someone who loves to be mentored by others and my own heart and loves to mentor, it's my life's work.
Sheva Carr: I love this quotation from Steven Spielberg.
Sheva Carr: The delicate balance of mentoring someone is not creating them in your own image.
Sheva Carr: but giving them the opportunity to create themselves.
Sheva Carr: And I want to honor all of the women on this panel who have done that with your lives. And now do that
Sheva Carr: for others.
Sheva Carr: And this is what I know the power of the heart to do for us all is to empower us.
Sheva Carr: to create ourselves.
Sheva Carr: You've seen some beautiful examples of it today. Perhaps this will be for you.
Sheva Carr: not something new, but remembering something true.
Sheva Carr: And, Carolyn, I'm gonna hand it back to you.
Dr. Carolyn: Thank you so much. Thank you, Sheila. Thank you.
Dr. Carolyn: Thank you for this beautiful gift and for the scientifically based
Dr. Carolyn: heart coherence.
Dr. Carolyn: I appreciate
Dr. Carolyn: how that brings all of it together, and how it thoroughfares through everything
Dr. Carolyn: that we've learned today
Dr. Carolyn: and our our mission
Dr. Carolyn: and being here today. Thank you. Thank you. Thank you.
Dr. Carolyn: As we close.
Dr. Carolyn: Thank you. Everyone for being here.
Dr. Carolyn: In the chat, we placed our our link to be able to gather all of the tools that we shared today, along with all of the links. We put them all in a nice, tidy one spot for you, so that you can go and download those, and it's at accelerate Jennifer equality.com. It's one place where you can see our information, and you can download all the tools from today. And as we come to a close and
Dr. Carolyn: and circle back
Dr. Carolyn: as our objectives from today, recapping, cultivating a network of support and confidence facilitating member men, women, and mentorship programs ex and connect experienced women with inspiring entrepreneurs and 2 breaking down barriers and championing equal opportunities for women, advocating for gender equality by dismantling stereotypes and unconscious bias within the entrepreneurial ecosystem.
Dr. Carolyn: And, third, we want to leave you with the overall holistic approach
Dr. Carolyn: to success being able to lean in.
Dr. Carolyn: And I'm into emotional wellness, intelligence.
Dr. Carolyn: using entrepreneur, entrepreneurship, training such as leadership, financial inclusion, emotional well-being and heart intelligence combined
Dr. Carolyn: in which to empower women worldwide
Dr. Carolyn: to step into intra and entrepreneurialism with mentorship. Thank you. Everyone.
Sheva Carr: And Carolyn. I just wanted to add that we do provide free mentoring at heart ambassadors and I put a link in the chat. Maybe we could even add it to the
Sheva Carr: QR. Code. Link.
Sheva Carr: If anyone would like a complimentary mentoring session with one of our licensed heart math professionals.
Sheva Carr: It is our great joy to give that to you as a gift, and the link for that is in the chat.
Sheva Carr: I can certainly stay. I don't know if Carolyn and Asma and Arlette and
Sheva Carr: Jessica, if you're able to stay, if there are any questions for us.
Sheva Carr: and lots of gratitude is coming in in the chat for all of you.
Sheva Carr: Does anyone have anything you'd like to share or ask as we complete our time together here.
Sheva Carr: maybe we can close with the same song we began with, just to allow
Sheva Carr: some digestion.
Sheva Carr: Yeah.
Sheva Carr: I'm seeing some yeses to that.
Sheva Carr: Here we go. Here we grow.
Sheva Carr: A
Sheva Carr: yeah.
Sheva Carr: there's a secret remedy
Sheva Carr: hiding underneath the tree
Sheva Carr: in the sea from which we came together.
Sheva Carr: cast aside for a century.
Sheva Carr: found in chains of slavery.
Sheva Carr: waiting for the roots to come together
Sheva Carr: for the sake of humanity in the name of
Sheva Carr: retrieve.
Sheva Carr: use your gift with
Sheva Carr: for the future. I'm a
Sheva Carr: protect our planet.
Sheva Carr: If you wish to live in bees, you.
Sheva Carr: Shannon.
Sheva Carr: Now this is begin to sprout. Women of the world. We shall
Sheva Carr: races and religions bound together.
Sheva Carr: Tree of life, Huck, the darkness with our light. We can heal our pain when we're together.
Sheva Carr: women of the love united, calling all our sisters
Sheva Carr: defence and bride
Sheva Carr: every
Sheva Carr: sky.
Sheva Carr: my darkest
Sheva Carr: words, let me
Sheva Carr: train your back.
Sheva Carr: Sanity
Sheva Carr: me!
Sheva Carr: Ya!
Sheva Carr: A. A.
Sheva Carr: A
Sheva Carr: flowers with the
Sheva Carr: with the mountains, with the sea.
Sheva Carr: boots of the trees, with
Sheva Carr: with the sun.
Sheva Carr: Me
Sheva Carr: the day
Sheva Carr: with the mother
Sheva Carr: to
Sheva Carr: do
Sheva Carr: to get
Sheva Carr: ya ya.
Sheva Carr: yeah.
Sheva Carr: hey?