WEBVTT 1 00:00:07.000 --> 00:00:07.810 A 2 00:00:08.320 --> 00:00:09.390 I. 3 00:00:10.190 --> 00:00:12.760 There's a secret remedy 4 00:00:13.460 --> 00:00:15.030 hiding underneath 5 00:00:16.329 --> 00:00:19.899 in the sea from which we came together. 6 00:00:21.430 --> 00:00:24.890 cast aside for centuries. 7 00:00:25.180 --> 00:00:27.849 found in chains of slavery. 8 00:00:28.200 --> 00:00:31.809 waiting for the roots to come together 9 00:00:33.350 --> 00:00:42.430 for the sake of humanity in the name of integrity. 10 00:00:43.860 --> 00:00:47.429 use your gift with 11 00:00:47.480 --> 00:00:51.749 for the future of a 12 00:00:51.900 --> 00:00:53.140 protect our planet. 13 00:00:53.810 --> 00:00:57.530 If you wish to live in bees, you. 14 00:00:58.120 --> 00:00:58.870 Shannon. 15 00:01:03.860 --> 00:01:04.519 to 16 00:01:19.630 --> 00:01:26.009 now this is begin to sprout. Women of the world. We shall 17 00:01:26.180 --> 00:01:29.519 races and religions come together. 18 00:01:30.560 --> 00:01:34.610 freedom of the world united for the tree of life. 19 00:01:35.060 --> 00:01:41.050 the darkness with our light. We can heal our pain when we're together. 20 00:01:41.940 --> 00:01:46.760 Women of the world unite, calling all our sisters 21 00:01:46.790 --> 00:01:48.340 magnificence and bride 22 00:01:48.530 --> 00:01:49.640 other 23 00:01:49.720 --> 00:01:51.200 and every 24 00:01:53.230 --> 00:01:54.100 is that 25 00:01:55.510 --> 00:01:56.930 and darkest 26 00:01:57.330 --> 00:01:58.660 words, let 27 00:01:58.780 --> 00:01:59.780 ain't jumping. 28 00:02:00.220 --> 00:02:06.920 Give a voice a sanity. 29 00:02:10.850 --> 00:02:11.540 Me 30 00:02:30.130 --> 00:02:32.520 ya yeah yeah 31 00:02:33.000 --> 00:02:38.430 Aya's aaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaa 32 00:02:38.910 --> 00:02:42.130 aya 33 00:02:42.660 --> 00:02:44.440 valleys with the 34 00:02:45.650 --> 00:02:51.480 the mountains with the sea. 35 00:02:51.840 --> 00:02:54.149 Boots of the trees with our 36 00:02:56.230 --> 00:02:57.430 with the sun. 37 00:03:01.070 --> 00:03:01.790 The day 38 00:03:02.890 --> 00:03:03.679 birds with the mother 39 00:03:05.010 --> 00:03:05.690 to 40 00:03:11.490 --> 00:03:12.279 do it? 41 00:04:02.880 --> 00:04:05.320 Ya, ya, hey? 42 00:04:05.860 --> 00:04:06.560 Yeah. 43 00:04:06.670 --> 00:04:08.850 hey? 44 00:04:21.959 --> 00:04:24.699 Sheva Carr: Warmest, warmest welcome 45 00:04:25.159 --> 00:04:27.379 Sheva Carr: as we unite 46 00:04:27.559 --> 00:04:33.049 Sheva Carr: together today to empower women through mentoring and entrepreneurship. 47 00:04:33.879 --> 00:04:36.869 Sheva Carr: I want to invite each of you to take a moment 48 00:04:37.549 --> 00:04:39.459 Sheva Carr: to play a little game with us. 49 00:04:41.799 --> 00:04:43.499 Sheva Carr: write down 50 00:04:44.019 --> 00:04:49.389 Sheva Carr: the last 3 winners of the Nobel Peace Prize, go. 51 00:04:55.149 --> 00:04:56.969 Sheva Carr: write down 52 00:04:57.999 --> 00:05:01.849 Sheva Carr: the last 3 winners of the Pulitzer prize 53 00:05:02.519 --> 00:05:03.199 Sheva Carr: go 54 00:05:08.569 --> 00:05:10.519 Sheva Carr: right down 55 00:05:11.349 --> 00:05:12.759 Sheva Carr: the last 56 00:05:13.199 --> 00:05:14.479 Sheva Carr: 3 57 00:05:14.969 --> 00:05:20.749 Sheva Carr: winners of the Oscar for best picture, not counting this year. Go 58 00:05:30.339 --> 00:05:39.879 Sheva Carr: write down the last 3 winners of the super bowl in the United States for football. Go 59 00:05:40.879 --> 00:05:42.599 Sheva Carr: not counting this here 60 00:05:46.371 --> 00:05:48.679 Sheva Carr: I see some giggles happening. 61 00:05:50.059 --> 00:05:54.539 Sheva Carr: It's a good thing we're not collecting. You will not be graded on this test. 62 00:05:56.069 --> 00:05:59.249 Sheva Carr: But now I want you to write down 63 00:06:00.409 --> 00:06:04.709 Sheva Carr: 3 people who meaningfully mentored you 64 00:06:04.749 --> 00:06:07.489 Sheva Carr: and believed in you in your life. 65 00:06:09.059 --> 00:06:09.819 Sheva Carr: Go! 66 00:06:19.799 --> 00:06:24.439 Sheva Carr: How many of you were able to answer the last question 67 00:06:25.429 --> 00:06:26.659 Sheva Carr: with ease. 68 00:06:31.389 --> 00:06:32.949 Sheva Carr: Take a moment. 69 00:06:33.309 --> 00:06:35.799 Sheva Carr: because this is mirroring. 70 00:06:36.379 --> 00:06:39.149 Sheva Carr: What matters to memory? 71 00:06:43.049 --> 00:06:51.949 Sheva Carr: So I invite you with us together, and you'll learn more of the neuroscience behind this little tool we're going to start with in a moment. 72 00:06:54.319 --> 00:06:55.049 Sheva Carr: Tiff 73 00:06:55.559 --> 00:06:57.469 Sheva Carr: focus with me. 74 00:06:58.269 --> 00:07:03.499 Sheva Carr: If you'd like your attention on the area around your heart. 75 00:07:04.649 --> 00:07:06.189 Sheva Carr: the chest staring. 76 00:07:08.319 --> 00:07:13.109 Sheva Carr: Imagine the breath is flowing in through your heart 77 00:07:14.989 --> 00:07:16.869 Sheva Carr: and out through your heart. 78 00:07:18.319 --> 00:07:20.759 Sheva Carr: breathing a little slower 79 00:07:21.119 --> 00:07:23.539 Sheva Carr: and deeper than usual. 80 00:07:28.029 --> 00:07:32.869 Sheva Carr: If you find it helpful, you can count as you breathe in 81 00:07:34.159 --> 00:07:45.769 Sheva Carr: and count as you breathe out, to invite the inhale and the exhale to be even in length. There's a secret. Ha! Bio! Hack in that we'll get to 82 00:07:45.819 --> 00:07:47.029 Sheva Carr: at the end. 83 00:07:49.229 --> 00:07:56.849 Sheva Carr: and as you breathe in through the heart and out through the heart. I invite you to join me in a minute of silence. 84 00:07:58.009 --> 00:08:00.079 Sheva Carr: a moment of peace 85 00:08:00.099 --> 00:08:02.029 Sheva Carr: and gratitude 86 00:08:04.539 --> 00:08:09.499 Sheva Carr: to those people who have mentored you and believed in you. 87 00:08:10.959 --> 00:08:16.679 Sheva Carr: and we'll radiate our love and gratitude to them together for 1 min. 88 00:09:23.339 --> 00:09:25.149 Sheva Carr: It turns out 89 00:09:25.799 --> 00:09:30.919 Sheva Carr: that this type of appreciation to those who've helped you. 90 00:09:32.739 --> 00:09:37.119 Sheva Carr: changes over 1,000 things in our physiology. 91 00:09:39.069 --> 00:09:42.999 Sheva Carr: and gives us access to a guide inside 92 00:09:44.349 --> 00:09:48.359 Sheva Carr: a unique intelligence that's been found in the heart 93 00:09:49.659 --> 00:09:58.889 Sheva Carr: that through research on the electrophysiology of intuition has been come to be known as the source of intuitive guidance. 94 00:10:01.109 --> 00:10:06.749 Sheva Carr: So I invite you in this pause of appreciation for your mentors 95 00:10:09.999 --> 00:10:18.719 Sheva Carr: to listen to that intuition in you, the guide inside you. Is there anything it would like you to know right now? 96 00:10:20.769 --> 00:10:24.159 Sheva Carr: And if you hear something to write it down. 97 00:10:42.439 --> 00:10:51.369 Sheva Carr: it is my great joy to welcome you to the 60 Eighth Commission on the Status of Women. This is a parallel event 98 00:10:52.009 --> 00:10:59.869 Sheva Carr: where the priority theme is accelerating the achievement of gender equality and the empowerment of all women and girls 99 00:11:00.219 --> 00:11:06.919 Sheva Carr: by addressing poverty and strengthening institutions and financing with a gender perspective. 100 00:11:07.129 --> 00:11:07.819 Sheva Carr: Okay. 101 00:11:08.059 --> 00:11:10.019 Sheva Carr: I am Shiva Carr. 102 00:11:10.079 --> 00:11:15.869 Sheva Carr: the founder and executive director, slash president of 103 00:11:16.029 --> 00:11:17.979 Sheva Carr: the Fiera Foundation. 104 00:11:17.999 --> 00:11:24.089 Sheva Carr: The sponsoring organization of this event with ecostock consultative status to the UN. 105 00:11:24.639 --> 00:11:29.179 Sheva Carr: I will put our website in the chat which is fiera.org. 106 00:11:30.979 --> 00:11:32.589 Sheva Carr: Our mission 107 00:11:32.759 --> 00:11:41.039 Sheva Carr: is to take heartbreaking global issues, and with that unique intelligence that has been discovered in the heart 108 00:11:41.119 --> 00:11:44.219 Sheva Carr: accessible to us through the power of love. 109 00:11:44.579 --> 00:11:48.529 Sheva Carr: to build an optimal future together with you 110 00:11:48.729 --> 00:11:50.029 Sheva Carr: or our worlds. 111 00:11:51.469 --> 00:11:54.739 Sheva Carr: I want to acknowledge one of my mentors 112 00:11:55.339 --> 00:11:57.889 Sheva Carr: who led me on a path to 113 00:11:58.159 --> 00:12:02.009 Sheva Carr: get Ecosot consultative status for my foundation. 114 00:12:02.829 --> 00:12:04.399 Sheva Carr: Avon Madison. 115 00:12:05.659 --> 00:12:15.479 Sheva Carr: who, with the United Nations, helped to establish that minute of silence, moment of peace that we began with, and the international Day of peace. 116 00:12:16.329 --> 00:12:21.939 Sheva Carr: Avon's organization or UN. Piece. Messenger organization pathways to piece 117 00:12:22.089 --> 00:12:28.369 Sheva Carr: was the organization in which I first attended the Cswr. 12 years ago. 118 00:12:29.149 --> 00:12:34.389 Sheva Carr: Avon is no longer with us in the body. But I just wanted to call her name forth. 119 00:12:34.909 --> 00:12:38.249 Sheva Carr: because today wouldn't have been possible without her 120 00:12:38.629 --> 00:12:40.119 Sheva Carr: as my mentor. 121 00:12:40.929 --> 00:12:45.219 Sheva Carr: And we are here to honor the power of mentorship 122 00:12:46.899 --> 00:12:49.989 Sheva Carr: for accelerating gender equality. 123 00:12:50.319 --> 00:12:56.199 Sheva Carr: and the the the priority theme of this Csw. And with that 124 00:12:56.219 --> 00:13:07.109 Sheva Carr: I am going to turn it to my esteemed colleagues, and several of our delegates to the Commission on the Status of women this year, starting with 125 00:13:07.709 --> 00:13:09.739 Sheva Carr: Carolyn Colleen, so 126 00:13:09.849 --> 00:13:12.189 Sheva Carr: grateful to have you here. 127 00:13:14.710 --> 00:13:16.920 Dr. Carolyn: Thank you so much for having us, Shiva. 128 00:13:17.330 --> 00:13:29.719 Dr. Carolyn: I'm honored to be here with all of you. And today, as we come into this space. I want to first acknowledge to delegate delegates, heart ambassadors, and our esteemed guests. 129 00:13:30.020 --> 00:13:31.870 Dr. Carolyn: and I want to express 130 00:13:31.950 --> 00:13:36.250 Dr. Carolyn: gratitude to you, Shava and Sarah Foundation 131 00:13:36.560 --> 00:13:40.270 Dr. Carolyn: for having this panel here and giving us this opportunity to share. 132 00:13:40.590 --> 00:14:03.589 Dr. Carolyn: And this today, as I share welcome, I want to take space to say, welcome to all of you beautiful humans who are attending this panel today. I'm Dr. Carolyn, and I am a proud mother of 3 entrepreneur and founder of fierce foundation. And then I'm honored to also introduce the incredible women that are on the panel today. 133 00:14:04.090 --> 00:14:05.890 Dr. Carolyn: So first, I'm 134 00:14:06.080 --> 00:14:12.459 Dr. Carolyn: Shiva, who thank you for that heartmath exercise and that art coherence. 135 00:14:12.650 --> 00:14:13.485 Dr. Carolyn: And 136 00:14:14.460 --> 00:14:19.769 Dr. Carolyn: And then we have here our let. And I'm going to share my screen so that everybody can see our. 137 00:14:19.940 --> 00:14:22.509 Dr. Carolyn: our, our beautiful panel of women 138 00:14:24.550 --> 00:14:26.549 Dr. Carolyn: as I share my screen 139 00:14:26.990 --> 00:14:27.780 Dr. Carolyn: here. 140 00:14:29.850 --> 00:14:32.339 Dr. Carolyn: So here we have our Lent 141 00:14:32.590 --> 00:14:34.640 Dr. Carolyn: and asthma. 142 00:14:34.810 --> 00:14:35.850 Dr. Carolyn: Jessica 143 00:14:36.010 --> 00:14:40.080 Dr. Carolyn: and Luda, who couldn't be here in person. But we'll have a video, for 144 00:14:42.300 --> 00:14:43.649 Dr. Carolyn: I share 145 00:14:45.160 --> 00:14:57.920 Dr. Carolyn: Shiva, who just I just wanted to reintroduce and just say a Shiva. Thank you as the founder of fear, foundation and heart ambassadors and all of the work that you do globally for 146 00:14:58.380 --> 00:15:01.779 Dr. Carolyn: leveraging the heart's power for social benefit. 147 00:15:02.150 --> 00:15:07.700 Dr. Carolyn: And then also, as the Co-vice President of UN Peace messenger organization pathways to peace 148 00:15:07.720 --> 00:15:08.840 Dr. Carolyn: and 149 00:15:08.890 --> 00:15:15.309 Dr. Carolyn: co-director of heart math, healthcare, and integrating heart-based practices into healthcare for holistic well-being. 150 00:15:15.340 --> 00:15:17.480 Dr. Carolyn: That is our beautiful Shiva. Thank you 151 00:15:19.430 --> 00:15:25.430 Dr. Carolyn: and then myself and Carolyn, which I shared. Proud mother, author, entrepreneur 152 00:15:26.015 --> 00:15:30.909 Dr. Carolyn: my doctorate and background is in behavioral organizational behavior and psychology. 153 00:15:32.590 --> 00:15:33.859 Dr. Carolyn: And we have 154 00:15:34.140 --> 00:15:38.699 Dr. Carolyn: our amazing Esma, who will talk about women entrepreneurship. 155 00:15:38.890 --> 00:15:58.799 Dr. Carolyn: and she is the executive level, trilingual, professional, with 25 years expertise in business, marketing and leadership. And she's worked in various large industries with Ceos entrepreneurs and startups from, so that technology sector, both retail biotechnology, nonprofit and government entities. 156 00:15:59.000 --> 00:16:13.080 Dr. Carolyn: and Esma is also coached, has coached and mentored thousands of leaders and entrepreneurs, including her students at the University of Victoria in Royal Rose University in British Columbia, Canada. Welcome, Asma. Thank you for being here. 157 00:16:14.370 --> 00:16:19.060 Dr. Carolyn: and Jessica Jessica will be talking about fire, financial empowerment. 158 00:16:19.190 --> 00:16:20.489 Dr. Carolyn: Jessica will be 159 00:16:20.720 --> 00:16:37.120 Dr. Carolyn: sharing her over 25 years of experience in banking and mortgage and credit, and Jessica's passionate about empowering women in the mortgage industry and credit repair and committed to breaking down barriers and creating opportunities for women and women's financial empowerment. 160 00:16:39.380 --> 00:16:41.320 Dr. Carolyn: Thank you, Jessica, for being here. 161 00:16:41.500 --> 00:16:45.970 Dr. Carolyn: and Arlet Arlette will share on emotional wellness. 162 00:16:46.590 --> 00:17:04.820 Dr. Carolyn: Arlette is the executive director of the greater lacrosse area Diversity Council and founder and CEO of the Wellness network. She has 25 years of expertise in community engagement program, engagement, family therapy, teaching, marketing communications in English and Spanish interpretation. 163 00:17:05.020 --> 00:17:11.299 Dr. Carolyn: and Arlette is passionate about empowering individuals to holistic wellbeing, purpose and fulfillment. 164 00:17:11.420 --> 00:17:13.510 Dr. Carolyn: Thank you, Arlette, for being here. 165 00:17:14.780 --> 00:17:25.899 Dr. Carolyn: and then also Luda Ludmila Barney, who has a video on gender equality. She's the deputy general director for international sales and marketing 166 00:17:26.625 --> 00:17:32.070 Dr. Carolyn: for a global helicopter company and leading humanitarian efforts. 167 00:17:32.370 --> 00:17:44.559 Dr. Carolyn: So she champions also the hungry games, which is a fun name for promoting healthy wellness alongside her corporate responsibilities. And she's also a proud mother of 2 168 00:17:44.610 --> 00:17:47.090 Dr. Carolyn: nurturing children and entrepreneurial spirit. 169 00:17:47.510 --> 00:17:51.639 Dr. Carolyn: and Ludo could not be here physically. But we have a video to share. For 170 00:17:53.600 --> 00:18:08.480 Dr. Carolyn: so, as we talk today with our agenda, and our objectives will be also sharing tools that you can take with you. That will be walking through. So today you'll be able to download those tools here, and we will share that again. 171 00:18:08.870 --> 00:18:09.949 Dr. Carolyn: And so 172 00:18:10.150 --> 00:18:13.109 Dr. Carolyn: with that, I want to move into 173 00:18:13.250 --> 00:18:14.610 Dr. Carolyn: a bit of 174 00:18:15.830 --> 00:18:17.750 Dr. Carolyn: what we're going to go over today. 175 00:18:17.820 --> 00:18:19.870 Dr. Carolyn: So our agenda today. 176 00:18:20.400 --> 00:18:22.539 Dr. Carolyn: our agenda for empowering women. 177 00:18:23.490 --> 00:18:25.799 Dr. Carolyn: I'm going to. We're going to talk about 178 00:18:27.050 --> 00:18:31.230 Dr. Carolyn: women, entrepreneurship, women, entrepreneurship, mentorship. 179 00:18:31.720 --> 00:18:38.749 Dr. Carolyn: financial empowerment, emotional wellness. Gender equality and the science and heart intelligence 180 00:18:38.930 --> 00:18:56.370 Dr. Carolyn: your takeaways today from our our panel. We would like you to be able to build confidence and support for mentorship and entrepreneurship with training for women will give you tools for that, and fostering emotional wellbeing and financial literacy. 181 00:18:56.480 --> 00:19:10.100 Dr. Carolyn: Also, we'd like you to be able to walk away with championing equality, the breaking down barriers and advocating for gender equality and intra and entrepreneurialism, securing access to funding for women entrepreneurs 182 00:19:10.220 --> 00:19:11.220 Dr. Carolyn: and 183 00:19:11.500 --> 00:19:30.310 Dr. Carolyn: being able to have holistic success, being able to have emotional wellness, being able to blend that along with evidence-based practices, into your training, being able to access and address work like balance and develop heart intelligence for strong relationships. 184 00:19:30.760 --> 00:19:38.689 Dr. Carolyn: And today, before we dive into our discussion, I want to share what fierce means to me and the women on this panel. 185 00:19:39.760 --> 00:19:47.480 Dr. Carolyn: So all the women on this panel. We have been impacted by the our mess. This message that we're sharing with you today. 186 00:19:48.290 --> 00:19:56.300 Dr. Carolyn: So to me, fierce is about recognizing the potential within ourselves, even when life's challenges try to dim our inner light. 187 00:19:56.720 --> 00:19:57.800 Dr. Carolyn: Why? 188 00:19:58.130 --> 00:20:00.319 Dr. Carolyn: Because sometimes 189 00:20:00.510 --> 00:20:08.069 Dr. Carolyn: we need to borrow the light that another human sees in us until our light ignites our own inner light. 190 00:20:09.390 --> 00:20:12.519 Dr. Carolyn: Imagine a burning amber within you 191 00:20:12.650 --> 00:20:14.950 Dr. Carolyn: waiting to blaze brightly. 192 00:20:15.290 --> 00:20:20.599 Dr. Carolyn: However, life's challenges and adversities can dim that light. 193 00:20:21.010 --> 00:20:28.270 Dr. Carolyn: and sometimes it's not about necessarily learning something new. It's about remembering something true. 194 00:20:29.160 --> 00:20:32.159 Dr. Carolyn: What I'd invite you to do. Everyone who's in the room. 195 00:20:32.430 --> 00:20:35.069 Dr. Carolyn: I'll invite you to take a moment to reflect. 196 00:20:36.700 --> 00:20:41.300 Dr. Carolyn: take a moment, and think of a time when you felt 197 00:20:41.700 --> 00:20:43.440 Dr. Carolyn: truly seen. 198 00:20:44.860 --> 00:20:47.479 Dr. Carolyn: truly heard, and empowered. 199 00:20:48.960 --> 00:20:50.530 Dr. Carolyn: Taking that moment. 200 00:20:51.360 --> 00:20:52.680 Dr. Carolyn: as you reflect 201 00:20:52.820 --> 00:20:54.419 Dr. Carolyn: who was there for you. 202 00:20:56.690 --> 00:21:03.009 Dr. Carolyn: and as you think about that, what I want you to do is to put into the chat one or 2 words 203 00:21:03.450 --> 00:21:05.880 Dr. Carolyn: that describe that feeling. 204 00:21:07.420 --> 00:21:14.630 Dr. Carolyn: So again, taking that moment to reflect, think of a time when you felt truly seen, heard, and empowered. 205 00:21:15.320 --> 00:21:16.719 Dr. Carolyn: who was there for you 206 00:21:19.100 --> 00:21:22.949 Dr. Carolyn: and in the chat go ahead and put feel free to put in the chat 207 00:21:23.020 --> 00:21:24.530 Dr. Carolyn: one or 2 words 208 00:21:24.680 --> 00:21:26.619 Dr. Carolyn: that describe that feeling. 209 00:21:29.620 --> 00:21:32.579 Dr. Carolyn: I'll give you a couple moments to go ahead and find the chat. 210 00:21:38.390 --> 00:21:40.320 Dr. Carolyn: Oh, I see, thank you. 211 00:21:41.390 --> 00:21:44.490 Dr. Carolyn: Sustained, supported life, giving 212 00:21:44.530 --> 00:21:47.150 Dr. Carolyn: strong, powerful, connected. 213 00:21:47.400 --> 00:21:50.260 Dr. Carolyn: unconditionally loved, powerful. 214 00:21:50.470 --> 00:21:52.640 Dr. Carolyn: vulnerable relief 215 00:21:53.160 --> 00:21:54.969 Dr. Carolyn: ground and strong. 216 00:21:55.490 --> 00:22:00.090 Dr. Carolyn: deeply supported love, empowered, uplifted, loved. Thank you. 217 00:22:00.310 --> 00:22:05.999 Dr. Carolyn: Thank you. All of these beautiful worlds, as as we take that moment to reflect and think about 218 00:22:06.090 --> 00:22:08.850 Dr. Carolyn: what it felt like to be 219 00:22:09.310 --> 00:22:10.560 Dr. Carolyn: supported. 220 00:22:11.420 --> 00:22:30.479 Dr. Carolyn: Thank you for taking the time to do that. And for me that feeling is embodied in the concept of fierce. It's about harnessing our power to overcome adversity. Persevere one step at a time, and for me, I like to say, 5 min at a time. 221 00:22:30.510 --> 00:22:33.879 Dr. Carolyn: And here's why I want to share video with you. 222 00:22:34.020 --> 00:22:36.280 Dr. Carolyn: sharing my definition 223 00:22:40.170 --> 00:22:43.520 Dr. Carolyn: here, I'll share this video just a 224 00:22:43.540 --> 00:22:44.749 Dr. Carolyn: short and good, you know. 225 00:22:51.410 --> 00:22:52.650 Dr. Carolyn: Here it is 226 00:22:56.700 --> 00:22:58.720 Dr. Carolyn: and share my screen. 227 00:23:10.110 --> 00:23:10.950 Dr. Carolyn: Share 228 00:23:11.900 --> 00:23:12.679 Dr. Carolyn: that way. 229 00:23:22.690 --> 00:23:24.099 Dr. Carolyn: make sure you can hear it 230 00:23:31.800 --> 00:23:32.629 Dr. Carolyn: just a moment. 231 00:23:45.670 --> 00:23:46.909 Dr. Carolyn: There is it blank. 232 00:23:52.080 --> 00:23:56.309 Sheva Carr: Do you have a link to it, Carolyn? You could drop in the chat for me to play it for you. 233 00:23:56.540 --> 00:23:58.790 Dr. Carolyn: Yeah, that would be great. Thank you. 234 00:24:08.793 --> 00:24:09.340 Dr. Carolyn: I think. 235 00:24:09.340 --> 00:24:10.549 Sheva Carr: You have it up now. 236 00:24:11.260 --> 00:24:13.762 Dr. Carolyn: Here it is. Oh, this is 237 00:24:23.110 --> 00:24:23.840 Dr. Carolyn: To! 238 00:24:26.530 --> 00:24:37.609 Dr. Carolyn: I was at my wits end, dealing with endless nights of my husband, screaming at me, accusing me of all kinds of things that never happened. But it was a way to control me. 239 00:24:39.540 --> 00:24:50.829 Dr. Carolyn: My definition of love was abuse and manipulation, and being used in some way for something. So that's what I attracted, got pregnant and got married. 240 00:24:54.050 --> 00:25:20.469 Dr. Carolyn: grew up in a small town with many different adversities. In a short amount of time. I had a mom who suffered from mental illness, and I had a dad who worked on the road in a traveling job. The things that we dealt with, such as neglect, abuse. There was sexual abuse. I had both men and women who sexually abused me. They tried to get to my sister and I would protect my sister from them 241 00:25:20.470 --> 00:25:24.359 Dr. Carolyn: and go with them so that they wouldn't abuse her. 242 00:25:24.410 --> 00:25:27.290 Dr. Carolyn: And I actually, when I was 16, I tried to take my life 243 00:25:27.500 --> 00:25:30.630 Dr. Carolyn: because I felt that there was nothing better. 244 00:25:31.110 --> 00:25:34.300 Dr. Carolyn: If this was life, then why did I want to live? It 245 00:25:34.830 --> 00:25:40.049 Dr. Carolyn: was unsuccessful, as you can see. But it didn't mean the hurt stopped. 246 00:25:40.160 --> 00:25:44.989 Dr. Carolyn: And that's how I ended up in my relationship with the father of my daughter 247 00:25:45.070 --> 00:25:47.539 Dr. Carolyn: is because I thought. That's what love was. 248 00:25:48.850 --> 00:26:12.969 Dr. Carolyn: I was in an abusive relationship that I couldn't have friends. I couldn't have family. He was able to manipulate me into quitting my job dropping out of college, so that I was fully dependent on him all the way to the point of where I was fearful for my own life. He promised me that if I ever left him that he'd end my life and his own and our daughters so that we could be together forever. 249 00:26:13.250 --> 00:26:15.579 Dr. Carolyn: and that was a concept that was very real. 250 00:26:16.160 --> 00:26:19.510 Dr. Carolyn: I didn't feel that I was worthy enough 251 00:26:19.860 --> 00:26:23.120 Dr. Carolyn: to find a different situation. 252 00:26:23.640 --> 00:26:36.119 Dr. Carolyn: but I found that, and I felt that my daughter was worthy, and that's how I got up enough courage to leave. So it took me a year to process the concept of leaving. 253 00:26:36.400 --> 00:26:40.640 Dr. Carolyn: and one day, while my husband was at work, I left 254 00:26:41.010 --> 00:26:44.510 Dr. Carolyn: there. I was standing in the line of the Salvation Army waiting for food. 255 00:26:44.680 --> 00:26:48.410 Dr. Carolyn: had no idea where my next meal would come from. And I thought. 256 00:26:48.540 --> 00:26:51.539 Dr. Carolyn: Is this my life? I had to 257 00:26:51.900 --> 00:26:56.799 Dr. Carolyn: think of a way to just move one step further in that line. 258 00:26:56.890 --> 00:27:01.410 Dr. Carolyn: because it would have been so much easier to go back. But I had to take a deep breath and step forward. 259 00:27:01.810 --> 00:27:06.429 Dr. Carolyn: and that was the the monumental step that moved me 260 00:27:06.460 --> 00:27:08.890 Dr. Carolyn: right out of the brickle of abuse 261 00:27:08.990 --> 00:27:14.920 Dr. Carolyn: and right into the circle of poverty, and I would work all night, and then I'd turn around and go to school the next morning. 262 00:27:15.060 --> 00:27:22.890 Dr. Carolyn: Then I always put money aside to try and get a better situation for us, and then I grew my career. At the same time 263 00:27:26.530 --> 00:27:30.410 Dr. Carolyn: I got a house. I had a dog. I've got a picket fence. 264 00:27:30.440 --> 00:27:34.270 Dr. Carolyn: and I started building my career. I'd gotten married the second time. 265 00:27:34.310 --> 00:27:37.649 Dr. Carolyn: I have my second child, and I have my third child. 266 00:27:37.910 --> 00:27:39.600 Dr. Carolyn: and 267 00:27:40.000 --> 00:27:45.779 Dr. Carolyn: I remember one night I was playing outside with my daughter, looking into my house, I thought. 268 00:27:46.050 --> 00:27:47.320 Dr. Carolyn: This is my life. 269 00:27:48.430 --> 00:27:53.980 Dr. Carolyn: because not so long ago I was standing in line at the Salvation Army, thinking, This is my life. 270 00:27:55.360 --> 00:27:59.639 Dr. Carolyn: and fast forward. I was standing in my backyard of the house that I built. 271 00:28:00.010 --> 00:28:01.910 Dr. Carolyn: thinking, Yeah, this is my 272 00:28:03.270 --> 00:28:22.060 Dr. Carolyn: but once, my son, my youngest, was born, and he was born with a very rare lung condition, and that was really where I had to take a space to kind of reevaluate what my career looked like I was traveling all over for my work, and I had created a career that I loved. But I had a very sick son. I needed to be able to start to figure out a new plan. 273 00:28:22.550 --> 00:28:24.979 Dr. Carolyn: and I sat at my desk and I thought. 274 00:28:25.320 --> 00:28:31.720 Dr. Carolyn: I'm tired. I'm scared, and I need an answer. And so that's when I found one life fully lived. 275 00:28:33.140 --> 00:29:01.309 Dr. Carolyn: It was the right message at the right time, so I didn't know that this whole world existed. It was a way for me to realize that all the things that I had been through in my very short lifetime I could use for good, and I could use to help other people see. No matter the adversity that they've dealt with, it doesn't have to be their future. It became very real. Once I realized that there's there's quite a few people who came from where I came from, too, and they 276 00:29:01.360 --> 00:29:06.590 Dr. Carolyn: intentionally practiced creating their own room. And we're living a fulfilled life. 277 00:29:06.890 --> 00:29:19.080 Dr. Carolyn: So now today I am the executive director of one life, helping other people realize that their past is not their future, and providing the roadmap which is education and access 278 00:29:19.270 --> 00:29:22.539 Dr. Carolyn: to people who might not ever even know it was there 279 00:29:23.060 --> 00:29:41.370 Dr. Carolyn: I had absolutely nothing, and being able to emerge from poverty and create a life by design that takes a community. And it takes a community in which to uplift a person. We can change communities and we can build them from the ground up, because we're focused in the passion in finding. What are you meant for? 280 00:29:41.730 --> 00:29:43.870 Dr. Carolyn: I feel very strongly. We're all meant for something. 281 00:29:43.920 --> 00:29:45.039 Dr. Carolyn: It's not easy. 282 00:29:45.240 --> 00:29:46.180 Dr. Carolyn: but it's worth it. 283 00:30:00.030 --> 00:30:02.290 Dr. Carolyn: Thank you for sharing that video, Shiva. 284 00:30:03.660 --> 00:30:09.979 Dr. Carolyn: and thank you everyone for your comments and notes in the chat, I appreciate it. And 285 00:30:10.070 --> 00:30:11.389 Dr. Carolyn: as you can see. 286 00:30:11.730 --> 00:30:26.639 Dr. Carolyn: and because of the impact that the one life roadmap has had on my life in the lives of thousands, I chose the reward, the one life roadmap as a key collaborative program for to be offered within fierce foundation 287 00:30:26.660 --> 00:30:49.649 Dr. Carolyn: and so fierce foundation champions, the holistic support of underrepresented women, intra-prepreneurs, meaning women who work within an organization and have that innovative spirit of an entrepreneur and entrepreneurs meaning businesses that are external to insult and ran by women businesses, and it's powered by the one life roadmap programming. 288 00:30:49.650 --> 00:31:03.570 Dr. Carolyn: And so fears provides access to mental and emotional health resources and connects mentors and fosters financial empowerment and inclusion that and equip women with the skills, resources, and emotional resilience to thrive. 289 00:31:03.950 --> 00:31:10.259 Dr. Carolyn: And from that that's where I was inspired to be able to like as sharing the video 290 00:31:10.420 --> 00:31:11.910 Dr. Carolyn: show women that 291 00:31:12.200 --> 00:31:14.150 Dr. Carolyn: our past does not have to 292 00:31:14.400 --> 00:31:15.700 Dr. Carolyn: determine our future. 293 00:31:16.010 --> 00:31:18.539 Dr. Carolyn: And despite progress. 294 00:31:19.040 --> 00:31:20.839 Dr. Carolyn: there still exists 295 00:31:21.220 --> 00:31:32.129 Dr. Carolyn: significant gender gap in entrepreneurship. So globally, 19 of businesses are women owned, and they receive a mere 296 00:31:32.280 --> 00:31:39.870 Dr. Carolyn: 2% of venture capital funding. And this disparity hinders economic growth and women's professional fulfillment. 297 00:31:40.130 --> 00:31:50.900 Dr. Carolyn: Also, we're going to talk about and share that financial inclusion empowers women to invest in their businesses, however, also not forgetting that 298 00:31:50.950 --> 00:31:57.970 Dr. Carolyn: neglecting mental wellbeing leaves women vulnerable to stress and burn out and ultimately hindering success. 299 00:31:58.290 --> 00:32:06.210 Dr. Carolyn: Having a strong mental health program leads to 21% higher profitability, and 6% higher productivity. 300 00:32:06.520 --> 00:32:12.039 Dr. Carolyn: being able to equip women with mental health. Knowledge empowers them to navigate challenges and build resilience 301 00:32:12.300 --> 00:32:14.210 Dr. Carolyn: and mentorship. 302 00:32:14.860 --> 00:32:23.589 Dr. Carolyn: Mentorship provides invaluable guidance, confidence, building, and access to networks, because, as I shared in my story. 303 00:32:23.960 --> 00:32:30.190 Dr. Carolyn: sometimes you have to borrow the light. Another person sees you until your light ignites. 304 00:32:30.250 --> 00:32:33.680 Dr. Carolyn: And what does that mean? It means mentorship. 305 00:32:33.770 --> 00:32:36.640 Dr. Carolyn: Sometimes we might not believe or 306 00:32:37.375 --> 00:32:43.550 Dr. Carolyn: our light might might not be at the point that it could be in having a community of women 307 00:32:43.720 --> 00:32:45.880 Dr. Carolyn: to hold and support you 308 00:32:46.130 --> 00:32:49.170 Dr. Carolyn: is is is the mentorship piece 309 00:32:49.760 --> 00:32:56.359 Dr. Carolyn: having a formal mentorship program, significantly increases. Female entrepreneur revenue growth and growth 310 00:32:56.460 --> 00:32:58.430 Dr. Carolyn: and survival rates. 311 00:32:58.770 --> 00:33:00.469 Dr. Carolyn: So having women 312 00:33:00.970 --> 00:33:05.209 Dr. Carolyn: as those leaders, as those as those people that can help support you 313 00:33:05.370 --> 00:33:10.360 Dr. Carolyn: as an intro or entrepreneur makes it so that you feel like you can make it 314 00:33:10.540 --> 00:33:11.225 Dr. Carolyn: and 315 00:33:11.960 --> 00:33:17.729 Dr. Carolyn: And how can we do this? So I want to share within the mentorship pillar how you can 316 00:33:18.240 --> 00:33:30.090 Dr. Carolyn: move forward and help women in mentorship by building a successful mentorship program for women which requires careful planning and ongoing support. But it first starts with a roadmap. 317 00:33:30.270 --> 00:33:55.150 Dr. Carolyn: And so, in order to do that for you and for the tools that you can use in which to build a mentorship program or start mentoring within your community. The first thing is where and you're going to have a downloadable tool for you is to be able to identify. What is that goal? What is that target audience? Who are you serving? What do you want to start with? So, starting with like shave a shared like taking a deep breath coming into heart. 318 00:33:55.390 --> 00:34:12.329 Dr. Carolyn: and then understanding. What are those goals? Who are the who are the people that you want to serve? And what do you want to be able to support them in? Is it increased emotional and financial wellness? Is it improved leadership skills? Or is it building a stronger community? 319 00:34:12.560 --> 00:34:14.829 Dr. Carolyn: And then who within that group 320 00:34:14.850 --> 00:34:16.419 Dr. Carolyn: will benefit the most? 321 00:34:16.489 --> 00:34:31.460 Dr. Carolyn: Is it women of particular stages in life? Maybe they are starting off as an entrepreneur in their business. Maybe they already have a business. Maybe they are an entrepreneur within an organization and identifying what that is. So that's first number one, the goals. 322 00:34:31.520 --> 00:34:32.999 Dr. Carolyn: And who are you serving? 323 00:34:33.590 --> 00:34:38.259 Dr. Carolyn: Number 2 is recruiting mentors and mentees. So 324 00:34:38.550 --> 00:34:56.439 Dr. Carolyn: bringing in experienced women who are passionate about helping others. We have them right here in our room, and all of you who are here in this panel. I'm sure that resonates with you, because when we think about and talk about what it felt like to be supported. We, too. 325 00:34:56.500 --> 00:35:00.059 Dr. Carolyn: as we see through being able to help others. 326 00:35:00.080 --> 00:35:13.529 Dr. Carolyn: So that is attracting number 2 is recruiting mentors and mentees and attracting women who are passionate about helping others, and then matching mentors and mentees based on their goals, personalities, and expertise 327 00:35:13.960 --> 00:35:26.000 Dr. Carolyn: while ensuring a commitment to both parties. So the mentee and the mentor having that commitment to come together and invest in that time and in the program expectations 328 00:35:26.440 --> 00:35:40.540 Dr. Carolyn: number 3 is to develop a structured program. So outline the program duration. So how long are we meeting? Are we meeting 3 times are meeting 6 times? What does that look like? So that you have a start and an end date before reassessing. 329 00:35:41.170 --> 00:35:48.149 Dr. Carolyn: providing a framework for those meetings? Are you meeting virtually in person? Are you meeting as as a group. 330 00:35:48.350 --> 00:35:51.379 Dr. Carolyn: What does that look like along with setting goals. 331 00:35:51.990 --> 00:35:55.380 Dr. Carolyn: having discussion, prompts, prompts and resources. 332 00:35:55.740 --> 00:36:04.010 Dr. Carolyn: and also being flexible, being able to flex, flexible, flexible, to meet a woman where she is with her schedule and with her individual needs. 333 00:36:04.550 --> 00:36:09.980 Dr. Carolyn: Then number 4 is providing training and support. So training and supporting mentors 334 00:36:10.390 --> 00:36:14.030 Dr. Carolyn: for us. We call them fierce navigators, and they're all on the call 335 00:36:14.070 --> 00:36:18.489 Dr. Carolyn: and having effective communication, coaching and coaching techniques. 336 00:36:18.680 --> 00:36:30.339 Dr. Carolyn: We also use trauma informed care, bringing that evidence base in, and also we were poised to and excited to be able to 337 00:36:30.950 --> 00:36:34.220 Dr. Carolyn: add or bring in and acknowledge 338 00:36:34.330 --> 00:36:36.820 Dr. Carolyn: heart, math, and heart coherence. 339 00:36:37.110 --> 00:36:37.960 Dr. Carolyn: and 340 00:36:38.090 --> 00:36:46.929 Dr. Carolyn: within providing training and support, offering up facilitated workshops and networking events in order to bring together connections 341 00:36:47.050 --> 00:36:48.980 Dr. Carolyn: and a sense of community 342 00:36:49.530 --> 00:36:53.690 Dr. Carolyn: Number 5 would be create a supportive environment. 343 00:36:53.840 --> 00:36:56.440 Dr. Carolyn: so encouraging an open communication 344 00:36:56.710 --> 00:37:01.130 Dr. Carolyn: and feedback between mentors and mentees and organizing social events. 345 00:37:01.170 --> 00:37:04.649 Dr. Carolyn: So we have an in-person social event coming up this weekend 346 00:37:04.750 --> 00:37:12.199 Dr. Carolyn: in connecting connecting women in order to be able to be either virtual or face-to-face. 347 00:37:12.540 --> 00:37:37.739 Dr. Carolyn: and then number 6, monitoring the progress. So being able to say, hey, this is where we started, and this is where we are. If we met 3 times or 6 times, what is our progress? How are we doing, and how are we building those relationships? If you're helping a woman with as we continue to share as asthma, and we'll share next in leadership. So how are we on our leadership journey and creating those skills? 348 00:37:37.740 --> 00:37:50.700 Dr. Carolyn: What are we celebrating? Recognizing that success and celebrating both the mentor and the ment team, both being able to acknowledge what's been shared and continually being able to improve in the program. 349 00:37:50.980 --> 00:37:55.289 Dr. Carolyn: So a couple tips and helpful tips for mentoring. 350 00:37:55.570 --> 00:38:02.989 Dr. Carolyn: and we'll also have it as a tool that you can download is, consider offering different programs and formats 351 00:38:03.100 --> 00:38:28.870 Dr. Carolyn: to cater to the different and various preferences. So in person, group entering or virtual, and then also ensure that the program that you're creating the community that you create in order to support women is inclusive by recruiting diverse mentors and addressing specific needs of women from various backgrounds, which is exactly what we have in store today. So as I shared, I'm I'm excited 352 00:38:28.920 --> 00:38:34.440 Dr. Carolyn: to share the mentorship pillar today in our panel, and 353 00:38:34.530 --> 00:38:35.989 Dr. Carolyn: to keep in mind 354 00:38:36.100 --> 00:38:42.030 Dr. Carolyn: our our ability to be able to connect and emphasize emotional wellbeing. 355 00:38:42.560 --> 00:38:45.079 Dr. Carolyn: So within our mentorship groups 356 00:38:45.180 --> 00:38:49.280 Dr. Carolyn: using evidence-based practices to support 357 00:38:49.340 --> 00:39:05.560 Dr. Carolyn: our mentorship and our health and wellbeing, such as emotional intelligence. So what we're going to do next is, I want to be able to not take up too much time and pass the mic over to Asma. But first I want to share that 358 00:39:05.830 --> 00:39:24.830 Dr. Carolyn: with. But the mentorship pillar we have been able to one build mentorship within women, and we've supported over 200 women from the launch of fierce foundation to be able to expand their businesses and create a ripple effect in economic and personal growth. 359 00:39:25.110 --> 00:39:35.980 Dr. Carolyn: And so with that, this is the first pillar mentor mentoring pillar. And now I'm going to hand it over to Asma to be able to talk about the second pillar, which is entrepreneurship. 360 00:39:38.980 --> 00:39:43.030 Asmaa I. Methqal: Thank you. Beautiful Dr. Carolyn. Hello, everyone 361 00:39:43.711 --> 00:39:48.678 Asmaa I. Methqal: such a beautiful insight that you gave about mentorship. And 362 00:39:49.180 --> 00:40:16.006 Asmaa I. Methqal: I've been like very lucky to have mentored a lot of women and men for the past 15 years. And so it's such an incredible pillar that I think all of us would definitely benefit from. And I just loved how Shiva brought it all up with that first question of mentorship is just so beautiful. And I'm like so grateful for my mentors as well today. Thank you so much. So now that we 363 00:40:16.500 --> 00:40:28.339 Asmaa I. Methqal: talked about women and mentorship, and we gonna now delve into entrepreneurship. I would love. If you can write in the chat how many of you are already entrepreneurs. 364 00:40:28.790 --> 00:40:44.820 Asmaa I. Methqal: so just put in the chat. I am an entrepreneur, or just yes, so that we will know how many entrepreneurs are here, or are serving entrepreneurs as well, or one opera? Why not so beautiful, seeing so many yeses there. Amazing. 365 00:40:44.890 --> 00:40:54.770 Asmaa I. Methqal: Well, look at that. We are all like that as women going for it and creating our on economic empowerment. Beautiful, amazing. 366 00:40:54.790 --> 00:41:21.749 Asmaa I. Methqal: And so I would love to start by sharing one pivotal moment that happened to me during my entrepreneurial journey. That really completely shifted my perspective about everything. And so it was a late evening on in 2,018. It was during the holidays, and it was just sitting in my living room 367 00:41:21.770 --> 00:41:43.099 Asmaa I. Methqal: and just looking at the wall, and I was having 5 infections in one. I couldn't smell. I couldn't hear, I couldn't taste. I was just like just sitting there and like what is happening to me, and I couldn't just understand what was happening with my body. And then out of the blue. What was even scarier is I heard this loud voice 368 00:41:43.190 --> 00:41:46.090 Asmaa I. Methqal: that just scream, and it's enough 369 00:41:46.260 --> 00:41:47.469 Asmaa I. Methqal: we're done. 370 00:41:47.520 --> 00:41:54.200 Asmaa I. Methqal: and I'm like, What is this? Where is this voice coming from, and it was really coming from me. It was like my own inner voice. 371 00:41:54.240 --> 00:42:09.099 Asmaa I. Methqal: and I could not understand what was happening in that moment, because I was like, I just had the best year ever. I made so much money that year we were super productive. My clients were happy, my team members were happy I was. Life was good. 372 00:42:09.100 --> 00:42:24.919 Asmaa I. Methqal: but something was not right in that moment, and I couldn't understand what that was. And so, realizing that inner voice that was screaming at me. I just remember this quote that I've heard before. If you don't hear the whisper you will feel the slap. 373 00:42:25.050 --> 00:42:43.599 Asmaa I. Methqal: and I was like, Oh, my God! If this was just a whisper, I am so not ready to feel the slap. And so I really took the time to really like try to understand what was happening in that moment, because how can my external success be met with an unfulfilled heart 374 00:42:43.660 --> 00:42:49.260 Asmaa I. Methqal: in that moment? And so I made the variable decision to pause. 375 00:42:50.540 --> 00:43:12.010 Asmaa I. Methqal: and I never knew what pausing was before then, because I was just always going going, and I chose to pause. Everybody was like, Are you crazy? Your agency is going really well. I had a marketing agency. Why are you choosing to pause, and I was like, it is time for me to understand what I want. What do I need and meet myself? 376 00:43:12.130 --> 00:43:21.579 Asmaa I. Methqal: I haven't got any chance to date myself. I would just go and go and going, going, chasing, chasing, chasing, chasing. I never get a chance to meet myself. 377 00:43:21.580 --> 00:43:44.669 Asmaa I. Methqal: and so I pause everything, even if everybody was surprised, and I decided to go to my favorite city in San Diego, and while I was there I started like getting referred by different spiritual guides and different coaches, and just really was ready to just really deep delve a little bit deeper, to just to understand what was happening to me. 378 00:43:45.090 --> 00:43:50.439 Asmaa I. Methqal: And while doing that it was very interesting to me that I've realized that 379 00:43:50.600 --> 00:43:55.180 Asmaa I. Methqal: my whole life and I think most of us do it. We just leave the neck up. 380 00:43:55.970 --> 00:44:16.560 Asmaa I. Methqal: And so we're just about like having 2 squirrels in our head, as you know, many of you have that where we just like going doing, doing, what is the next? And what is the next? And what is the next thing? As soon as we hit a goals like, Okay, when can we go to the next? And we just keep going. And so I was always living in this neck up, and I never got a chance really to pause. 381 00:44:16.690 --> 00:44:18.550 Asmaa I. Methqal: to start, to feel. 382 00:44:18.640 --> 00:44:34.139 Asmaa I. Methqal: to start to feel below the net what is happening. And so during that pausing and during me working with this different guys and spiritual healers and all of those people that were surrounded me and supporting me during that moment period of my life 383 00:44:34.140 --> 00:44:57.739 Asmaa I. Methqal: I was able like to really feel my body, really feel my emotions, all those emotions that are always kept deep, deep, deep down, not ready to hear them, not wanting to and understand them, because the society and it were telling me that they were weak, and that's not the way to go. And so by feeling those emotions, I really realized that I really had a shield. 384 00:44:58.670 --> 00:45:19.620 Asmaa I. Methqal: So I really built this invisible shield within myself. Tonight one be able to connect with myself and not be able to connect with others in a deeper level. I thought I was connecting with people, but I was mostly connecting in a business setting, but like in terms of like deep, meaningful relationship. I was always like on the go. So I never really had the time. 385 00:45:19.730 --> 00:45:25.590 Asmaa I. Methqal: And so when I had that really big realization, I was like, where is this stemming from 386 00:45:25.740 --> 00:45:31.180 Asmaa I. Methqal: what is the shield coming from? At what point in my life did I created that shield? 387 00:45:31.470 --> 00:45:35.209 Asmaa I. Methqal: And then I realized that it was coming from my own background. 388 00:45:35.990 --> 00:45:44.760 Asmaa I. Methqal: I am originally from Morocco. I was born in Morocco in the seventies, late seventies, and in that time it was all about 389 00:45:44.770 --> 00:45:52.790 Asmaa I. Methqal: men and what the men wanted, what the men needed, and all the women. We were just there just to have babies and to cook and to clean. 390 00:45:52.920 --> 00:45:58.370 Asmaa I. Methqal: Literally. They were women when they were born, somebody will say, Oh, another cuccia I mean another kitchen. 391 00:45:58.690 --> 00:46:07.710 Asmaa I. Methqal: and I just had this anger in me. Since I was a kid. I was enraged by society that decided the moment I was born. Who I'm gonna be. 392 00:46:08.140 --> 00:46:14.140 Asmaa I. Methqal: They never allowed me to really create my own identity and define who I want it to be. 393 00:46:14.650 --> 00:46:34.140 Asmaa I. Methqal: And so it was already decided that I was the weaker sex, that I couldn't do much while I can see my brother and my dad having the time of their lives where my mom is struggling, and I am struggling to speak, to claim my voice, to just show that I'm here and that I belong, and that you need to listen to me. 394 00:46:34.310 --> 00:46:42.589 Asmaa I. Methqal: And so through that I was like oh, so it was from that moment that this basically the shield got created. 395 00:46:42.600 --> 00:46:45.660 Asmaa I. Methqal: And I wanted to prove everybody wrong. 396 00:46:46.410 --> 00:47:04.229 Asmaa I. Methqal: I can show you what a woman can do. You tell me. I cannot do this. I'll tell you. I'll show you I can do that. And so I went with that perspective, and with that fire in me, and I know that with anger, because it's an emotion that usually is neutral. There is good anger, and there is bad anger. 397 00:47:04.360 --> 00:47:19.609 Asmaa I. Methqal: but that anger has transformed into this fire that was in me since a very early age, that really wanted to change and really create a quantity in my own community in my own country within my own family ecosystem. 398 00:47:20.260 --> 00:47:29.599 Asmaa I. Methqal: so we all could belong, and we all are equal, and we all matter at the same level, and you cannot dictate my future for me. 399 00:47:29.610 --> 00:47:31.709 Asmaa I. Methqal: I can create it for myself. 400 00:47:31.810 --> 00:47:53.880 Asmaa I. Methqal: And so I was lucky to have very progressive parents, and I had to negotiate with my dad when I could move to Canada. So he's like, no, you cannot move at 18. But you can move when you have a degree. I'm like, okay, fine. Here's my bachelor degree. Can I go now? I was able like to flew and live go to Montreal at the age of 21. So I went very early in a very early age 401 00:47:53.880 --> 00:48:04.800 Asmaa I. Methqal: in Morocco, because usually people don't leave their family ecosystem until they get married, for women. Men can be whenever they want again another equal inequality that was created there. 402 00:48:04.800 --> 00:48:07.800 Asmaa I. Methqal: And so with that perspective in there. 403 00:48:07.800 --> 00:48:20.580 Asmaa I. Methqal: coming back into me, being in San Diego, and really defining and finding the shield. I was like, Okay, so was this shield a way for me to prove myself? Was it like an ego driven thing? 404 00:48:20.910 --> 00:48:30.049 Asmaa I. Methqal: And then I realized maybe some part of it was but the true reason for it. And what I have also been seen, and a lot of women is a protective mechanism. 405 00:48:30.710 --> 00:48:34.769 Asmaa I. Methqal: And so we create this shield as a protective mechanism. 406 00:48:34.780 --> 00:48:41.249 Asmaa I. Methqal: And what our biggest realizations that I've made is, I have led my whole life from a masculine energy. 407 00:48:41.430 --> 00:49:01.620 Asmaa I. Methqal: from this place of chasing and going and and proving myself, and because I was chasing, belonging, and validation and approval, I wanted to show people what I can do, so I can be accepted so I can be appreciated. And so I was always in this action action mode that was created, and that I've also start witnessing in a lot of women 408 00:49:01.620 --> 00:49:12.710 Asmaa I. Methqal: because I made this realization in my 40 s. And I wish someone has told me about this like in my 20 s. To be like, oh, so there are like different energies, and we. 409 00:49:12.760 --> 00:49:28.009 Asmaa I. Methqal: the energies are doesn't matter of the gender of the person. But then, when we talk about the Ying and Yang, and the masculine and the feminine is like the biggest imbalance that I'm seeing right now in the world is that a lot of women are leading from their masculine energy. 410 00:49:29.090 --> 00:49:36.560 Asmaa I. Methqal: And so they gonna end up crashing and burning like I did when I was like, I realized everything I needed to realize. 411 00:49:37.360 --> 00:49:42.430 Asmaa I. Methqal: But then I realized, this is not what I wanted to realize. I was just playing a role 412 00:49:42.650 --> 00:49:51.870 Asmaa I. Methqal: because I want it to be long, and I want it to be appreciated, and I want it to be accepted. And I wanted to look at my dad in his eyes and be like, See, I did it, and I didn't need you. 413 00:49:53.860 --> 00:50:06.929 Asmaa I. Methqal: And so going back with that, I was like, well, then, if that was not it. Then I was literally going in the wrong direction, and I was literally like going up the ladder, and I ended up in the wrong building. 414 00:50:07.000 --> 00:50:13.580 Asmaa I. Methqal: so I need. It was time for me to go down that building and be like, who am I? And what do I want to create? 415 00:50:13.840 --> 00:50:24.269 Asmaa I. Methqal: And it was through that process, and when I take the time to pause that I realized that my essence at my deepest level is feminine. 416 00:50:24.620 --> 00:50:30.669 Asmaa I. Methqal: I love to create. I love to play, I love to dance, I love to innovate, I love to collaborate. 417 00:50:30.840 --> 00:50:45.339 Asmaa I. Methqal: There was all these different layers of me that I just kept hidden that I was never being able to see. But the moment that I recognize that I had the shield and I was able to put it down, I was able to reflect to myself the real essence. 418 00:50:45.790 --> 00:50:56.209 Asmaa I. Methqal: But then, as we know personal growth and personal development, we do so much work, and there's almost more that we need to do right. And so when I was in that process, like 419 00:50:56.220 --> 00:51:18.600 Asmaa I. Methqal: how the moment that really clicked that I knew that I was on the other side, where I was able more to tap into my feminine is when I was invited into an event that was happening in Nashville, and I remembered a beautiful Dr. Carolyn was there with me, too, and I was invited in this first day. It was women entrepreneurs. 420 00:51:18.800 --> 00:51:33.130 Asmaa I. Methqal: multimillionaire, all like in real estate, investment and everything. And then the person that needed to lead the first activity was not available. And so they said, asthma, can you go on the stage and just lead an activity like. So that way we can kick off the day. 421 00:51:34.050 --> 00:51:58.090 Asmaa I. Methqal: I'm a marker. I'm a business consultant. So if someone asked me to go on stage. I'll be talking about data and about fact, about things to do that in that moment, when I was going up the stage. I connected to my intuition and my intuition said, No, no, no, we're not doing that. We gonna do something completely different. We're gonna help this. Women connect to their body because they're always again neck up. 422 00:51:58.160 --> 00:52:02.769 Asmaa I. Methqal: And so I got on stage and I decided to do a motion dance meditation. 423 00:52:02.800 --> 00:52:29.800 Asmaa I. Methqal: I had an amazing. Dj, put some music, and I just started to ask the women to just follow me through movement and just through dancing, and really get them to connect to their body, to their hair, to their skin, to their arms, and just like move. And because it was only women, it was a safe space. I don't even remember what I was saying. All I know I was in flow. I was fully tapping into my intuition and doing what I was doing, and then I left this stage. 424 00:52:30.020 --> 00:52:35.210 Asmaa I. Methqal: and to my surprise I had few women coming running to me, and they're like, Do you teach this? 425 00:52:35.770 --> 00:52:37.410 Asmaa I. Methqal: And I'm like, would you meet? 426 00:52:37.770 --> 00:52:43.940 Asmaa I. Methqal: I love to, that's like, but to me teach you this like I was not understanding that moment what was happening. 427 00:52:44.160 --> 00:52:51.469 Asmaa I. Methqal: but then the biggest realization I made was that these women are are who I was 6 months ago 428 00:52:51.660 --> 00:52:56.740 Asmaa I. Methqal: when I was completely leading from my masculine energy, and I was fully imbalanced. 429 00:52:57.200 --> 00:53:13.750 Asmaa I. Methqal: and what they were seeing when I was leading. That is, they can see my feminine essence and my playfulness, and just completely connect you to my own feminine power, and just be even to lead them from my intuition, and just be myself and completely accepting and loving myself. 430 00:53:14.450 --> 00:53:28.229 Asmaa I. Methqal: And so maybe many of you on here today, you may have some imbalance. And so I put together this little slide, because I know a lot of you may want to like just share like the screen for it, and just to have it. 431 00:53:28.450 --> 00:53:37.229 Asmaa I. Methqal: And so there are few signs for you to recognize if you are in balance, and some of them are that if you have a busy calendar. 432 00:53:37.610 --> 00:53:41.900 Asmaa I. Methqal: if you have a very busy calendar that you don't have time to pause. 433 00:53:42.190 --> 00:53:43.700 Asmaa I. Methqal: you are in balance. 434 00:53:44.060 --> 00:53:58.429 Asmaa I. Methqal: because the feminine gives space to pause, to reflect, to connect to our body, to connect to our heart, like the beautiful Shiva did with us this morning. If your body is aching ways too rigid because of stress. 435 00:53:59.140 --> 00:54:01.880 Asmaa I. Methqal: if you are overthinking all the time. 436 00:54:02.680 --> 00:54:07.780 Asmaa I. Methqal: if you don't trust man or you don't trust the masculine energy in general. 437 00:54:08.300 --> 00:54:18.210 Asmaa I. Methqal: If you are struggling to receive, and that's a big one I've seen with women, I will do workshop, and I will just ask women to compliment one another, and the women will start to weave and start crying. 438 00:54:18.450 --> 00:54:38.399 Asmaa I. Methqal: And I will have to pause everything we're like, okay, this is the next activity for the next 30 min to 40 min, because women are not used to receive compliments, or even to receive gifts or support from another women because we are so in our masculine that we just wanna prove I don't wanna chase and wanna go and wanna do things. 439 00:54:39.090 --> 00:54:47.539 Asmaa I. Methqal: And one of the things that I've been doing like through my program is I was telling women that would like giving is masculine 440 00:54:48.240 --> 00:54:54.850 Asmaa I. Methqal: when you give is a masculine energy. The masculine in you. The masculine energy give 441 00:54:55.070 --> 00:54:59.900 Asmaa I. Methqal: that the women and the feminine is open to receive. 442 00:55:00.740 --> 00:55:03.579 Asmaa I. Methqal: And so we need to change also and shift 443 00:55:03.600 --> 00:55:06.689 Asmaa I. Methqal: between giving and receiving as well. 444 00:55:07.090 --> 00:55:11.139 Asmaa I. Methqal: and if we are emotionally disconnected, if we are very guarded. 445 00:55:11.530 --> 00:55:14.280 Asmaa I. Methqal: we need to control every little thing. 446 00:55:14.930 --> 00:55:18.350 Asmaa I. Methqal: If you feel depleted and exhausted like I was feeling. 447 00:55:18.700 --> 00:55:27.679 Asmaa I. Methqal: I was completely depleted when somebody used that word when we're talking about emotion like Oh, my God! That's exactly how I was feeling. I was completely depleted. 448 00:55:27.790 --> 00:55:42.950 Asmaa I. Methqal: I was completely leading my life from a masculine energy that I was completely imbalanced my whole life, and I never nurtured this other side of me, my guinea side that was really like creating this beautiful harpenny in my life. 449 00:55:43.230 --> 00:55:56.740 Asmaa I. Methqal: And then, if you look at yourself in the mirror and you feel that you have lost radians, or lacking passion and joy, you feel disconnected from your heart intelligence. You're not connected to your intuition. Those are signed that you are in balance. 450 00:55:57.170 --> 00:55:59.239 Asmaa I. Methqal: There's nothing wrong with you. 451 00:55:59.560 --> 00:56:02.930 Asmaa I. Methqal: This is just sign that you have been imbalanced 452 00:56:02.950 --> 00:56:08.759 Asmaa I. Methqal: like I mentioned earlier. I wish someone told to me about feminine masculine energies in my twenties. 453 00:56:08.800 --> 00:56:23.540 Asmaa I. Methqal: I wish someone told me in my 30 is about feminine power, and how I can connect to my own feminine essence and my feminine genius. So I can create a business that is fully aligned and connected with who I am, instead of just going and chasing and creating something. 454 00:56:24.510 --> 00:56:36.009 Asmaa I. Methqal: And so through this realization, I decided to start a fire and for Leadership Academy, where I was helping women to lunch, start a business the feminine way. 455 00:56:36.330 --> 00:56:45.169 Asmaa I. Methqal: and that starts by them getting to knowing themselves deeply and knowing who they are, because for me, entrepreneurship is an inner game. 456 00:56:46.670 --> 00:57:11.099 Asmaa I. Methqal: It's about knowing who you are, knowing your values, knowing where you're coming from, knowing how you operate and what are the things that lights you up, and what are your strength, and what are your weaknesses, and who are the people you wanna collaborate with and work with? Because once you have this foundation? After that, if I come in, and I give you the systems and all the different practices and proven framework that you can implement. 457 00:57:11.180 --> 00:57:16.680 Asmaa I. Methqal: things will work. But if you have all these invisible barriers from a very start 458 00:57:16.780 --> 00:57:28.400 Asmaa I. Methqal: that are stopping you. It makes it very hard for you to lunch or start a business that can be sustainable for you, and that will make you happy, because I want people when they start a business that a 459 00:57:28.520 --> 00:57:31.670 Asmaa I. Methqal: really connect and matches their lifestyle. 460 00:57:32.150 --> 00:57:44.209 Asmaa I. Methqal: and not like, completely neglect your lifestyle and the life you want to create for the sake of business and for the sake of money, money becomes the byproduct of your feminine genius and of your passion. 461 00:57:45.130 --> 00:58:13.730 Asmaa I. Methqal: And so, when I was like working with this Female leadership program and entrepreneurship program, I was lucky to have been invited with different organizations across Canada to. So I can come and deliver this program in 2020. So it was like almost 4 years ago to women entrepreneurs that were their members. And the way I wanted to set it was to be an intimate settings. Because women we wanna talk, we wanna share. We wanna go deep. 462 00:58:13.730 --> 00:58:16.820 Asmaa I. Methqal: And so women needs to feel safe in that container. 463 00:58:16.900 --> 00:58:21.690 Asmaa I. Methqal: We should not also forget that society has taught us to not like each other 464 00:58:21.760 --> 00:58:43.179 Asmaa I. Methqal: and to compete with each other, and to be always afraid of each other like, Oh, my God! Like I need to to cover my back! She may steal my man, she may steal my business, she may still my partner, she may steal my work, etc. And so, when I bring this women together in this intimate container one they are able to slowly start to put their their guards down. 465 00:58:43.180 --> 00:59:03.288 Asmaa I. Methqal: and then we start slowly, starting to recognize their values and where they're coming from? What is their pat? What were their experiences with other women? What were the experiences with other men? What are type of business they wanna create. And then, after that, is that business aligns with their feminine genius, and I am able like to disk that like through the program that I do. 466 00:59:03.580 --> 00:59:24.009 Asmaa I. Methqal: And then I talked to them about energies. I never start with the beginning. So I started with this today because I just thought that would be like something key to understand, because even if we have feminine and masculine energies, there's really 4 quadrant. You can be in your wounded energy, or you can be in your healthy energy, and also recognizing, even if you are in your masculine. 467 00:59:24.010 --> 00:59:48.989 Asmaa I. Methqal: you need to recognize. Am I in my healthy masculine? Or am I in my wounded masculine. If I'm overly competitive, I am in my wounded masculine. But if I am a protector and I'm creating safety, and I am like having a purpose, and I am going up to what I want. Then I am in my masculine. Both of them needs to work in harmony, and that's the beauty of it is the fire and the flow and creating harmony. It doesn't mean that we need to be 50, 468 00:59:48.990 --> 01:00:13.589 Asmaa I. Methqal: one or the other. We just need to identify where you sit in that spectrum, and also allowing yourself and teaching yourself at which moments I can be in my feminine, and at which moment I can go and flow into my masculine and really creating this dance, depending on the situation whether I am talking and I need to make a decision. Maybe it's an intuition based decision that I wanna make at this moment. 469 01:00:13.590 --> 01:00:21.220 Asmaa I. Methqal: Or maybe I need to be in my fire so I can get things done. And I can finalize this proposal or this website, etc. Right? 470 01:00:21.710 --> 01:00:37.860 Asmaa I. Methqal: And so through that I just wanna share like this beautiful 2 women that I was able to support. So the first one, her name was Valerie, and Valerie was coming from Montreal, and she was in the Yukon at that moment, and she was completely lost. She was in her late twenties, and 471 01:00:37.860 --> 01:00:52.890 Asmaa I. Methqal: she doesn't know what she wanted to do. She didn't know what to create in life, and because she didn't have much money. She's like, well, the easiest place to go that is the cheapest is the Yukon. And then she went and went to the Yukon for 6 months to 9 months, just so she can discover herself also, not having to pay a lot of money. 472 01:00:53.080 --> 01:01:05.240 Asmaa I. Methqal: And so she went and came into my program my first program I ever created in 2020. She was a French speaking woman, so it was an organization in Vancouver that wanted me to do it for French speaking women. The container is very small. 473 01:01:05.240 --> 01:01:30.029 Asmaa I. Methqal: and she was there. She's like, I'm ready to learn. I'm ready to grow. I know it's gonna be hard. But I know this is the way to go. She understood that she needed to work on herself and get to know herself so that way she can create the business that she wanted, and we did that. And then, through the process, she was able to recognize her feminine genius, which allowed her like to put a big proposal together, and she ended up getting a huge contract 6 months later in Montreal with political women. 474 01:01:30.030 --> 01:01:31.560 Asmaa I. Methqal: that she was able to serve. 475 01:01:31.700 --> 01:01:42.209 Asmaa I. Methqal: Well, I met Valerie 2 months ago, and we just connected and over dinner, and then she first thing that she said to me, said Esma. I make so much money. I don't know what to do with it. 476 01:01:42.710 --> 01:01:47.120 Asmaa I. Methqal: and I was so proud to hear that because I know how much she was struggling. 477 01:01:47.170 --> 01:02:08.840 Asmaa I. Methqal: I also know how much work she has done for her to be able to completely reframe her limiting beliefs, be able to heal her money story, be able, like to recognize her values and recognize her genius zone and be able like to quadruple and even like 10 x. Like her income, because she knew that she was worth it, and she can do it. 478 01:02:08.880 --> 01:02:33.469 Asmaa I. Methqal: And so, even when I work with a lot of entrepreneurs or business owners that make multi 1 million dollars at the end of the day. It's what's happening between your 2 ears. It's never about the strategy, because you can always learn from other people what they've done, and you can try to create that. But it's what's happening between your 2 ears, this mindset that needs to be shifted and also being able to connect to your heart. So that way you are fully aligned with what you wanna create. 479 01:02:34.570 --> 01:02:45.060 Asmaa I. Methqal: And then the second one, her name is fatu and fatu was amazing. I met her last year. She is from Africa, and she is 86 years old. 480 01:02:45.460 --> 01:02:48.749 Asmaa I. Methqal: at 86 years old. She decided to start a business. 481 01:02:48.910 --> 01:02:56.560 Asmaa I. Methqal: I was like, Wow, here is a woman that is ready to completely change the norm about H and entrepreneurship. 482 01:02:56.560 --> 01:03:21.150 Asmaa I. Methqal: and also about the narrative about her age and what she can do as a woman African woman. And then she told me that she has been in leadership. She had a beautiful, amazing career. But now, like she wants to keep going, and she wants to keep giving. And she wants to create this center where she will be able to help parents that have handicapped children and be able like to serve them, and to support them, and disabled children to help them and support them. 483 01:03:21.560 --> 01:03:25.159 Asmaa I. Methqal: And what was beautiful with fatu is that 484 01:03:25.180 --> 01:03:28.660 Asmaa I. Methqal: she had a masculine container supporting her. 485 01:03:28.720 --> 01:03:30.330 Asmaa I. Methqal: and that was her husband. 486 01:03:30.650 --> 01:03:48.980 Asmaa I. Methqal: His husband was the virtual assistant. We all wish we had like he will go anywhere, she asked him to do every time I am coaching her. He's taking care of everything in the house so that way she can stay focused. She will be sending him to take papers here or check different things for her, and she got the whole support. 487 01:03:48.980 --> 01:04:09.980 Asmaa I. Methqal: and that was a big realization, because for the feminine to flourish, for women to flourish, we need that masculine container, that safety that gets created, because when there is safety. We can flourish, and we can be in our feminine that when there is no safety we go back into our masculine because we need to create safety, and we are on guard, and that that shield goes up. 488 01:04:10.150 --> 01:04:11.320 Asmaa I. Methqal: And so 489 01:04:11.440 --> 01:04:32.499 Asmaa I. Methqal: we just with these 2 case studies, I just want like to express like how it is key to create this element of feminine leadership, like, I truly believe in entrepreneurship. And it's so key. But I've met so many women that will have a business, and we're ready to scale it. They're like, but I don't really love what I do. 490 01:04:32.810 --> 01:04:52.199 Asmaa I. Methqal: I'm like, okay, well, then, let's sit down and let's go inside out. My approach is an inside out approach, and that's why I love about feminine leadership or feminine entrepreneurship. You're starting from you, and what you want, or what are your values? What are you here in the world to do, when to create and to change, and then be able to create that ripple effect 491 01:04:52.200 --> 01:05:03.740 Asmaa I. Methqal: through your program, to claim in your voice, to speaking, to doing, volunteering and mentorship, and supporting other women or queen in this ecosystems that you'll be able to create all around you. 492 01:05:03.740 --> 01:05:12.869 Asmaa I. Methqal: And so from these 2 case studies. And I have hundreds of them. But I just wanted to share this, too. I just wanna share with you what will be like the 5 core 493 01:05:12.910 --> 01:05:21.030 Asmaa I. Methqal: feminine entrepreneurship principles that you can implement yourself within your own community or with yourself. 494 01:05:21.270 --> 01:05:30.230 Asmaa I. Methqal: And so one of the first one which you could hear even for my own story, which I love about it. By the way, because with entrepreneurship we are Client 0, 495 01:05:30.500 --> 01:05:50.670 Asmaa I. Methqal: you are your client, 0 in everything that you create, because your ideal clients are only 2, 3 years ahead. Behind you. And so you're 2, 3 years ahead of your clients. And so you go back to you, being your client, 0 for everything that you're creating. And that's how people can connect with you. So it starts with this inner discovery. 496 01:05:51.100 --> 01:06:00.430 Asmaa I. Methqal: and then it's access to your emotional wisdom, because I promise you, when your body wants to tell you something is very literal. We don't want to feel the slap. 497 01:06:00.610 --> 01:06:07.079 Asmaa I. Methqal: We're definitely not. So we want to hear that whisper. And then starting to connect your intuition. 498 01:06:07.250 --> 01:06:15.040 Asmaa I. Methqal: And one of the key elements with intuition is that when it's a whisper, it's your intuition. When it's loud, it's your ego. 499 01:06:15.170 --> 01:06:37.449 Asmaa I. Methqal: And so just follow your excitement and define at what moment like when you're meeting someone, and we're talking to people. If you are feeling connected to this person, or you feel something is off. Listen to that, and never put logic into it, because intuition will understand things that logic won't. And I'm sure Shiva will have a lot of data to confirm that about heart intelligence. 500 01:06:37.600 --> 01:06:42.699 Asmaa I. Methqal: The fourth one, which is key. And that's why we all here today is to break the norms. 501 01:06:42.940 --> 01:07:10.109 Asmaa I. Methqal: break the norms that women cannot create multimillion 1 billion dollar businesses break the norms that only 3% of women get funding from investors break the norms, about the age, about your location, about the culture. We are all here about recognizing our preconditioning where where we were born, but how we can completely shift that take our power back. Remember our power, which I think is the key word, because at the end of the day. 502 01:07:10.210 --> 01:07:26.249 Asmaa I. Methqal: in a way that any person that we meet, whether we are mentoring them, or coaching them, or doing entrepreneurship, or collaborating, or just being in the room here, if you see, if you love someone values or their strength that mean you already have them in you 503 01:07:27.030 --> 01:07:43.049 Asmaa I. Methqal: right? And at the same time anything that you see we cannot be what we don't see, and that's why it's important for us to break those norms and claim our voices and take the stage and take our space and be able to speak up and create businesses that never existed. 504 01:07:43.690 --> 01:07:44.880 Asmaa I. Methqal: Why not? 505 01:07:44.960 --> 01:08:04.339 Asmaa I. Methqal: We don't all have to be and have an online store and then sell in products and services like we can do things where we can, hey? Let's just gather, and just like how to the moon, and just like, Pay me money, and let's have fun together, like it is possible. So it's all about breaking the norms. And then my fifth one, which is my favorite, is create your constellation. 506 01:08:04.530 --> 01:08:29.460 Asmaa I. Methqal: I don't wanna call it a network because of network. Again, it's very logical. This needs to be connected to this. But a constellation is a constellation of stars, because we all have a spark within each one of us, and we are all here just to spark it through. We can build that spark to be able to create, because that genius you already have it within yourself, that feminine power. You already have it within yourself. You just need to spark it. 507 01:08:29.460 --> 01:08:43.750 Asmaa I. Methqal: And now, through just this session today, if you felt connected to it, the spark has already happened, and then you create this constellation, this star, this other women all around you that are shining, and we're all like shining with each other. 508 01:08:43.750 --> 01:08:48.220 Asmaa I. Methqal: So those would be like my 5 core principles of feminine leadership. 509 01:08:48.229 --> 01:08:50.380 Asmaa I. Methqal: And for my tool 510 01:08:50.850 --> 01:09:07.889 Asmaa I. Methqal: is I wanna offer you a tool? I have hundreds of them again, like I have so many. But the one that one of my favorites really is called the Queen list. And basically the reason why I chose this tool in particular, for this panel is. 511 01:09:08.160 --> 01:09:15.409 Asmaa I. Methqal: I want you to slowly start, to connect to your feminine power and your feminine leadership while you are in your entrepreneurship. 512 01:09:15.740 --> 01:09:23.179 Asmaa I. Methqal: And while doing that I want you to be able to have this best colored container, so sometime it could be the person. But sometime, if it's not. 513 01:09:23.189 --> 01:09:45.680 Asmaa I. Methqal: it can be just something that is a structure. And within this structure, it's basically a very simple tool called the queen list. And it will be basically for you like a digital planner. And it's basically you choosing 5 non negotiable rituals or actions you wanna do every day to 514 01:09:45.700 --> 01:09:47.890 Asmaa I. Methqal: activate and 515 01:09:48.450 --> 01:10:13.230 Asmaa I. Methqal: activate your feminine power or your feminine leadership. You wanna honor that part of you it could be. I'm gonna I'm gonna dance. As soon as I wake up for 15 min it could be. I wanna meditate. It will be that I wanna drink one gallon of water. It could be that I wanna work out. I wanna go for walk in nature. I wanna be walking in water close to water. 516 01:10:13.320 --> 01:10:18.459 Asmaa I. Methqal: Anything that will help you connect to your feminine where you are pausing 517 01:10:18.670 --> 01:10:45.210 Asmaa I. Methqal: when you're not chasing where you are, being, where slowly wanna move from doing to being. And then within those 5 non negotiable items, you can have 3 that are about you just being, and 2 that are action oriented. Like, I need to finish my website today, I need to send this proposal. I need to connect to 5 people. I need to connect to 6 people. And so with this Queen list is one recognizing that you are the Queen. 518 01:10:45.620 --> 01:10:58.339 Asmaa I. Methqal: that you're crying the business and the life that you dream of, and that you want to create. And then using that this structure or this planner as your own ritual for you to start honoring that. 519 01:10:58.540 --> 01:11:07.419 Asmaa I. Methqal: And so for that. I thank you for listening to my story, and wanted to share, and just reminding you that it all starts with you 520 01:11:08.030 --> 01:11:22.359 Asmaa I. Methqal: the moment you are deeply connected, and you're sparking those feminine principles and powers that you all have within yourself. You have so many strength the moment you tap into your feminine that will allow you to really take your business to the next level. 521 01:11:23.010 --> 01:11:24.230 Asmaa I. Methqal: and for now 522 01:11:24.250 --> 01:11:28.140 Asmaa I. Methqal: entrepreneurship won't happen without financial empowerment. 523 01:11:28.490 --> 01:11:36.980 Asmaa I. Methqal: and then I give it to the beautiful Jessica to share with us how we can connect and make a beautiful story with our money. 524 01:11:37.260 --> 01:11:42.079 Jessica Belmontes: Thank you, Asma. Thank you for your beautiful words. Thank you, my dear sisters. 525 01:11:42.230 --> 01:11:43.829 Jessica Belmontes: thank you so much. 526 01:11:44.490 --> 01:11:53.330 Jessica Belmontes: Yes, there comes a moment in life when everything aligns, when you find yourself standing at the intersection of passion and purpose. 527 01:11:53.400 --> 01:11:56.589 Jessica Belmontes: knowing deep within you that you're exactly where you're meant to be 528 01:11:56.960 --> 01:12:03.800 Jessica Belmontes: for me. That moment came with a profound realization of why I do what I do and why it's so important to me. 529 01:12:04.390 --> 01:12:15.110 Jessica Belmontes: At just 6 years old I witnessed the daily struggle of my parents, who left everything they knew in Puerto Rico to come to the United States as they fought to provide for our family. 530 01:12:15.350 --> 01:12:19.519 Jessica Belmontes: with both working tirelessly, alternating day and night shifts. 531 01:12:19.620 --> 01:12:27.170 Jessica Belmontes: just to ensure there was always someone there for me. I saw firsthand the sacrifices they made to put food on the table. 532 01:12:27.260 --> 01:12:31.130 Jessica Belmontes: but despite their efforts, there were moments of uncertainty. 533 01:12:31.170 --> 01:12:34.529 Jessica Belmontes: times when they didn't know where our next meal would come from. 534 01:12:34.710 --> 01:12:37.549 Jessica Belmontes: I remember the weight of my mother's defeat 535 01:12:37.860 --> 01:12:46.610 Jessica Belmontes: in those yeah, early years I watched as my parents navigate the challenges of poverty, and I made a silent vow to myself 536 01:12:46.660 --> 01:12:51.890 Jessica Belmontes: that I would never allow myself to be trapped. In that same cycle of struggle. 537 01:12:52.170 --> 01:13:06.870 Jessica Belmontes: I refused to inherit the feelings of helplessness and defeat that plagued my mother. Instead, I nurtured a seed of determination, a burning desire to create a better life for myself and for my future family. 538 01:13:07.060 --> 01:13:11.569 Jessica Belmontes: As I grew older that determination fueled my drive to succeed. 539 01:13:11.670 --> 01:13:16.730 Jessica Belmontes: Education became my beacon of hope, my ticket to a brighter future. 540 01:13:16.900 --> 01:13:23.899 Jessica Belmontes: I delved it to research. I found solutions, and I became passionate about sharing them with other women. 541 01:13:24.400 --> 01:13:31.919 Jessica Belmontes: being a licensed, licensed mortgage loan originator and an educator on credit, allowed me to work with women 542 01:13:31.940 --> 01:13:35.030 Jessica Belmontes: who were looking to make a better life for themselves. 543 01:13:35.650 --> 01:13:38.759 Jessica Belmontes: With that I want to go into the story of Liliana. 544 01:13:38.880 --> 01:13:44.359 Jessica Belmontes: who embarked on her journey from Guatemala to the United States in pursuit of a brighter future. 545 01:13:44.630 --> 01:13:48.430 Jessica Belmontes: Departing from her homeland amid economic challenges. 546 01:13:48.630 --> 01:13:52.709 Jessica Belmontes: Liliana struggled with the inability to support her family. 547 01:13:52.950 --> 01:13:58.040 Jessica Belmontes: Initially she she thrived by the deteriorating economy in Guatemala. 548 01:13:58.090 --> 01:14:02.649 Jessica Belmontes: sparked significant changes, and, despite her established status. 549 01:14:02.680 --> 01:14:03.890 Jessica Belmontes: Liliana 550 01:14:03.940 --> 01:14:07.980 Jessica Belmontes: supported her mother and extended family. During those trying times 551 01:14:08.310 --> 01:14:16.550 Jessica Belmontes: upon losing her job, no other alternatives in sight. She made the resilient decision to come to the United States 552 01:14:16.970 --> 01:14:25.360 Jessica Belmontes: upon arrival and witnessing the abundant possibilities Liliana realized she could forge a better life here in the United States. 553 01:14:25.800 --> 01:14:33.089 Jessica Belmontes: When Liliana initially arrived, she was unfamiliar with the concept of credit and the requirements for purchasing her first home. 554 01:14:33.420 --> 01:14:39.490 Jessica Belmontes: Assisted by the women of her church, Liliana received the guidance and the access to local resources. 555 01:14:39.540 --> 01:14:42.569 Jessica Belmontes: enabling her to understand the steps involved. 556 01:14:42.860 --> 01:14:54.149 Jessica Belmontes: In 2021 she achieves home ownership, and she also invested in a recreational vehicle, converting it into a rental property that generated passive income for her. 557 01:14:54.580 --> 01:14:58.000 Jessica Belmontes: Liliana's resources were the women of her community church. 558 01:14:58.050 --> 01:15:10.759 Jessica Belmontes: She was given the tool of research online and found the steps in how to become a homeowner through Hudd Gov, which is a website where Liliana was able to get the steps and the tools to prepare herself to become a homeowner. 559 01:15:11.120 --> 01:15:13.309 Jessica Belmontes: And then we also have Maritza. 560 01:15:13.340 --> 01:15:22.720 Jessica Belmontes: who came from Puerto Rico with her disabled daughter, after having lost everything during hurricane Maria, and felt that starting over was extremely difficult for her. 561 01:15:22.910 --> 01:15:30.460 Jessica Belmontes: When I first met Maritza, she was under the impression that she would always be working to help her disabled daughter. 562 01:15:30.590 --> 01:15:40.420 Jessica Belmontes: Maritza now is a homeowner, and she will be retiring from her job in less than 6 months, with 3 passive incomes coming in for the rest of her life. 563 01:15:40.760 --> 01:15:54.489 Jessica Belmontes: Marita today is grateful. She had the resource of family who wanted to help her, and through her family she was able to meet the network of women who have helped her be in her new home and show her how to live a better life. 564 01:15:55.050 --> 01:15:58.630 Jessica Belmontes: I wanted to share a couple, 2 statistics. 565 01:15:58.830 --> 01:16:04.950 Jessica Belmontes: The first one is immigrant. Women play a significant role in driving home ownership. Here in the United States 566 01:16:05.230 --> 01:16:18.189 Jessica Belmontes: a study by the joint center of housing studies of Harvard University found that immigrants accounted for nearly 40% of overall increase in homeownership rates between 1994 and 2,015. 567 01:16:18.500 --> 01:16:30.889 Jessica Belmontes: And the second statistic is a report from the new American economy. That shows that in 2,017 there were 1.2 million immigrant women entrepreneurs here in the United States. 568 01:16:30.920 --> 01:16:35.309 Jessica Belmontes: and more than 65,000 of those women ran their own restaurants. 569 01:16:35.320 --> 01:16:43.619 Jessica Belmontes: food service businesses, and more than 55,000 owned beauty salons, and another 50,000 had their own nail salons. 570 01:16:43.770 --> 01:16:59.619 Jessica Belmontes: With all that being said, our focus must shift from scarcity to abundance, from dependence to empowerment. The stories of Liliana Marica are 2 statements in how women can become resilient in finding resources and networking with other women. 571 01:17:00.120 --> 01:17:10.620 Jessica Belmontes: HUD, Gov. Nerdwalla, Com. Findhelp, Org, and Score org are just some of the resources and solutions that help Liliana and Maritza. 572 01:17:10.800 --> 01:17:18.729 Jessica Belmontes: By implementing these solutions, women can gain the knowledge, resources, and the support needed to confidently navigate 573 01:17:19.080 --> 01:17:24.790 Jessica Belmontes: the home ownership process and build a solid foundation for financial stability and success. 574 01:17:24.790 --> 01:17:29.670 Sheva Carr: Jessica, can you go back a slide? I'm putting those resources in the chat for everyone. 575 01:17:30.000 --> 01:17:31.520 Jessica Belmontes: Oh, I'm sorry, thank. 576 01:17:31.520 --> 01:17:34.869 Sheva Carr: No, you're good. Okay. I got. I got the last one. Thank you. 577 01:17:34.870 --> 01:17:48.709 Jessica Belmontes: All right, you're welcome. So Haddad serves as a beacon of hope, getting women on the path to homeownership with valuable resources and support, and Nerdwallet Com offers empowering tools and insights 578 01:17:48.950 --> 01:17:55.080 Jessica Belmontes: into credit, building and equipping women with the knowledge to establish and maintain strong credit, profiles. 579 01:17:55.200 --> 01:18:00.289 Jessica Belmontes: and find and find help.org provides a wealth of empowerment resources. 580 01:18:00.300 --> 01:18:05.010 Jessica Belmontes: spanning education, housing, health, and even more 581 01:18:05.350 --> 01:18:17.519 Jessica Belmontes: and additionally score.org is a nonprofit organization that provides free mentoring resources and tools to aspiring entrepreneurs and small business owners. Right here in the United States. 582 01:18:17.780 --> 01:18:27.799 Jessica Belmontes: score offers confidential business counseling workshops, webinars, and online resources to help individuals start and manage their business successfully. 583 01:18:27.990 --> 01:18:44.490 Jessica Belmontes: And, in conclusion, let's embrace abundance and empower ourselves and other women to break free from the shackles of scarcity. Let's redefine financial freedom, build passive income streams like Liliana and Marizza and transform our relationship with money 584 01:18:44.650 --> 01:18:52.599 Jessica Belmontes: together, we can create a future where every woman has a knowledge and resources to live a life of abundance and fulfillment. 585 01:18:53.080 --> 01:19:08.010 Jessica Belmontes: And I wanted to share my one tool, which is Nerdwallet Com. If you could put that up again on the chat, because this specific tool actually gives so many resources to women which speak to personal finance. 586 01:19:08.528 --> 01:19:24.079 Jessica Belmontes: It talks about budgeting and saving, investing, banking. It even provides calculators, guides, and articles and personalized recommendations, you know, tailored to your individual financial goals, and also your circumstances. 587 01:19:24.550 --> 01:19:26.309 Jessica Belmontes: So thank you very much. 588 01:19:26.470 --> 01:19:33.360 Jessica Belmontes: and with that I'd like to move it on to our lets, which she will be speaking to the pillar of emotional wellbeing. 589 01:19:43.080 --> 01:19:47.949 Arlette: Thank you, Jessica. Thank you. Asma and Dr. Carolyn. 590 01:19:48.476 --> 01:20:05.239 Arlette: I just wanna share that. Dr. Caroline Colleen was also my mentor many years ago. And I just wanna take this time here today to thinker, because I don't think I have thinker lately. And I think this is a great opportunity to do that. 591 01:20:05.490 --> 01:20:20.759 Arlette: and thank you, Sheva, for having me today. And I see Laurie from Spain. Laurie, it's good to see you here. I'm sorry I didn't get to see you again at the United Nations in New York. But it was nice to meet you. 592 01:20:22.430 --> 01:20:37.949 Arlette: Okay. So the first thing that I want to start before I share my story is a statement that really permeates in my heart, and that I want you to take a moment to think about. 593 01:20:39.170 --> 01:20:43.400 Arlette: And this statement is with love. 594 01:20:43.650 --> 01:20:45.480 Arlette: There is no fear 595 01:20:46.670 --> 01:20:48.410 Arlette: without fear. 596 01:20:48.570 --> 01:20:50.220 Arlette: There is no anger. 597 01:20:51.600 --> 01:20:57.749 Arlette: Take a moment to to think about that in in what that means to you. 598 01:21:12.540 --> 01:21:21.020 Arlette: So it is delayed afternoon here in in Florida, and I am honored to be here to share a little bit about my story. 599 01:21:22.780 --> 01:21:33.119 Arlette: this story that I'm welcoming to to all of you is the story of resilience and empowerment for women's wellness. 600 01:21:33.720 --> 01:21:42.000 Arlette: Again, my name is Arlette. I am the executive director at the Girl Lacrosse Area Diversity Council and the founder of the Wellness Network. 601 01:21:42.440 --> 01:22:03.069 Arlette: I want to start by sharing that emotional literacy and evidence based mental health mythologies were learned along the way on my own journey, and not necessarily from the school setting during my psychology, background and career, but rather and truly brought to life from my inner wisdom. 602 01:22:04.740 --> 01:22:08.289 Arlette: that inner wisdom that is in all of us. 603 01:22:08.320 --> 01:22:10.830 Arlette: that inner wisdom that we all have. 604 01:22:12.080 --> 01:22:19.649 Arlette: My story resonates with many of the women that I have had the honor and opportunity to share space with 605 01:22:20.456 --> 01:22:27.749 Arlette: surviving the patriarchal and societal restraints and limitations that that I also grew up with. 606 01:22:28.450 --> 01:22:40.069 Arlette: So I had lived in Columbia, where I was born until I was 24 years old, and I. I have lived in the Midwest, on the east coast of the Us. On the west coast. 607 01:22:40.360 --> 01:22:44.629 Arlette: back to the Midwest, and now back on the east coast. 608 01:22:45.680 --> 01:22:50.290 Arlette: and my background is in psychology and counsel counseling 609 01:22:50.816 --> 01:23:06.679 Arlette: in program development for nonprofit among many other jobs that a often, as women do throughout our our lives and growing into our older years. I'm now 51 years old. 610 01:23:07.010 --> 01:23:12.279 Arlette: and my story began in the vibrant coastal city of Kartagina. 611 01:23:13.291 --> 01:23:17.864 Arlette: in Columbia with a little girl full of curiosity and joy. 612 01:23:18.470 --> 01:23:26.570 Arlette: This little girl family said that she would always be speaking. She would always be asking questions. 613 01:23:27.020 --> 01:23:34.070 Arlette: and this little girl wanted to be around women, and she was helpful and sweet. 614 01:23:34.730 --> 01:23:39.059 Arlette: eye, whole heart and space for the heart of that little girl. 615 01:23:39.978 --> 01:23:42.969 Arlette: That experience all forms of abuse. 616 01:23:43.653 --> 01:23:45.670 Arlette: That little girl was me. 617 01:23:47.100 --> 01:23:51.009 Arlette: you see. So I I learned by inner wisdom. 618 01:23:51.140 --> 01:24:00.280 Arlette: not only of survival, but the recognition of my inner peace nature, by living with my mother and my aunt 619 01:24:00.600 --> 01:24:05.430 Arlette: after my mother had left a very unhealthy marriage 620 01:24:05.960 --> 01:24:08.730 Arlette: also from 621 01:24:09.020 --> 01:24:10.820 Arlette: terrifying abuse. 622 01:24:10.870 --> 01:24:23.490 Arlette: and without exactly knowing, living at my aunt's Ruth's home, had made a remarkable impression on my life's journey. 623 01:24:24.157 --> 01:24:30.200 Arlette: I was surrounded by women, and my cousin Sandra, who is 6 years older than me. 624 01:24:30.400 --> 01:24:39.769 Arlette: would lift me up the branches of the Kneesbrook trees on our street. This delicious and sweet fruit that only grows in that region of the planet. 625 01:24:39.890 --> 01:24:41.810 Arlette: And Sandra. 626 01:24:42.365 --> 01:24:52.999 Arlette: Said something to me that she among many positive and inclined things that that she would say, and we were always together. 627 01:24:53.518 --> 01:25:03.329 Arlette: Not only when I was little, but then she had had also moved to a town that my mother and I moved from Cartagena, where I grew up 628 01:25:03.600 --> 01:25:08.510 Arlette: after 4 years old, and so her and I had had 629 01:25:09.150 --> 01:25:10.949 Arlette: have been very close. 630 01:25:11.040 --> 01:25:16.700 Arlette: And so Sandra said something to me, and and she said again many things. But this 631 01:25:17.308 --> 01:25:25.269 Arlette: really really stayed with me throughout my life, and still today makes deep mark on my decisions 632 01:25:25.470 --> 01:25:27.710 Arlette: of finding calm. 633 01:25:28.570 --> 01:25:31.520 Arlette: and that is, you are very intelligent. 634 01:25:33.700 --> 01:25:46.570 Arlette: and we're talking about emotional intelligence. When I was told that I was going to be speaking about this. I found it to be maybe a coincidence, but nothing. Life is a coincidence. 635 01:25:46.600 --> 01:25:48.390 Arlette: This is, I believe 636 01:25:48.520 --> 01:25:52.679 Arlette: I have. So, she said, you are very, very intelligent. 637 01:25:53.124 --> 01:26:04.440 Arlette: Little did I know that she was speaking of emotional intelligence, the one that drives to the heart and changes the not so positive connections in your brain. 638 01:26:05.720 --> 01:26:32.429 Arlette: So I go to these words, despite the trials, despite the words that have been told to me, and and say the opposite. I have been told too many times through through throughout my life you will not amount to anything. You're not worthy among many others, and this is the experience of many of the women that I have had the honor to to work with. 639 01:26:33.680 --> 01:26:37.608 Arlette: And still today, when in despair or doubt. 640 01:26:38.900 --> 01:26:40.890 Arlette: I go to this statement. 641 01:26:41.400 --> 01:26:47.599 Arlette: So I went to these words, when I I found myself in my darkest moment. 642 01:26:47.720 --> 01:26:50.000 Arlette: the darkest moment of my life 643 01:26:50.250 --> 01:27:10.199 Arlette: and that is after 12 years of marriage I had suppressed my feelings for way too long, and during during a state of survival, somehow I had managed to help other women while being in denial of my own trials of my own pain. 644 01:27:11.020 --> 01:27:17.809 Arlette: And suddenly I ended up in in the hospital. I couldn't eat, I couldn't drink, and 645 01:27:18.550 --> 01:27:24.079 Arlette: after a week the diagnosis stole by the doctor to me was, you have chronic anxiety. 646 01:27:25.560 --> 01:27:28.570 Arlette: and I was in disbelief again. 647 01:27:28.790 --> 01:27:30.850 Arlette: but but I came home 648 01:27:31.060 --> 01:27:35.349 Arlette: with a bottle of anxiety pills and I and it looked at my son. 649 01:27:36.390 --> 01:27:39.550 Arlette: and I told myself, I will work on this. 650 01:27:41.950 --> 01:27:48.310 Arlette: and every day I will wake up and take force. I didn't know where 651 01:27:48.470 --> 01:27:53.579 Arlette: this force was coming from. I didn't know it was coming from within. 652 01:27:54.470 --> 01:28:05.839 Arlette: and I took my son to school every morning. I would wait until noon, so that I could make longer time, that I would have to take that prescribed medication 653 01:28:05.990 --> 01:28:08.889 Arlette: that I was sold to take 3 times a day. 654 01:28:10.570 --> 01:28:11.999 Arlette: and I took. 655 01:28:12.680 --> 01:28:17.399 Arlette: and it took about 10 days, and and I got on my niece. 656 01:28:17.660 --> 01:28:22.650 Arlette: and every day from that day forward, after throwing away those bills. 657 01:28:23.940 --> 01:28:25.449 Arlette: I started praying. 658 01:28:26.910 --> 01:28:31.890 Arlette: but but that prayer was not the kind of prayer I was taught. When I was little 659 01:28:32.900 --> 01:28:35.790 Arlette: I got on my knees, and I started breathing. 660 01:28:37.490 --> 01:28:46.750 Arlette: and as many of you know there is, there is power in our breath. It our our breathing is directly connected to our brain. 661 01:28:47.460 --> 01:28:49.080 Arlette: into our hearts. 662 01:28:49.830 --> 01:28:51.240 Arlette: into our soul. 663 01:28:52.370 --> 01:28:57.560 Arlette: And I started breathing, and intuitively I I started 664 01:28:58.470 --> 01:29:01.539 Arlette: just listening to my own wisdom. 665 01:29:01.770 --> 01:29:06.220 Arlette: remember remembering my own wisdom. Somehow I had forgotten 666 01:29:06.320 --> 01:29:07.720 Arlette: how I had 667 01:29:08.273 --> 01:29:10.490 Arlette: help myself in the past. 668 01:29:13.800 --> 01:29:21.429 Arlette: breathing in and breathing out and telling myself. I can do this. I will survive this. Nothing will get in my way, and 669 01:29:21.500 --> 01:29:25.499 Arlette: I continue to breathe every day, every morning, every afternoon. 670 01:29:25.760 --> 01:29:27.590 Arlette: and it's 671 01:29:29.260 --> 01:29:30.840 Arlette: is all that 672 01:29:32.472 --> 01:29:40.629 Arlette: that time in in? Did these these 3 longest time, these 3 longest months 673 01:29:40.780 --> 01:29:42.209 Arlette: of my life? 674 01:29:44.640 --> 01:29:48.960 Arlette: that help me through find my inner wisdom. 675 01:29:49.530 --> 01:30:04.109 Arlette: So you see I throw away that that bottle fills after 10 days, and I believe I remember my intervene was there to support me, and I was not alone 676 01:30:04.160 --> 01:30:07.890 Arlette: because I had isolated myself. Thinking that 677 01:30:08.562 --> 01:30:21.230 Arlette: I I could do it on my own, and although that solitude helped me to get recent. I started connecting again with with the women in my life. 678 01:30:21.510 --> 01:30:34.130 Arlette: and so that that time of solitude and inner wisdom and and breathing in allow me to also remember that we're we're not here to to do it alone. 679 01:30:34.370 --> 01:30:35.240 Arlette: Hmm 680 01:30:35.620 --> 01:30:52.530 Arlette: and this is when my breakthrough and healing journey started ironically. I had been supporting women in my counseling practice with nonprofit and and for profit organizations, and I had unconsciously forgotten about me as a way of protection. 681 01:30:53.221 --> 01:31:03.259 Arlette: I was. I was suppressing my feelings, and this is when I realized I had been preparing to help other women through the artists of self love. 682 01:31:03.910 --> 01:31:06.669 Arlette: the art of self, love and wellness. 683 01:31:07.170 --> 01:31:11.030 Arlette: One of those women had undergone brain surgery. 684 01:31:11.680 --> 01:31:17.140 Arlette: She was diagnosed with a brain cancer tumor, and she had also experienced 685 01:31:18.015 --> 01:31:19.800 Arlette: suppressing her feelings 686 01:31:20.010 --> 01:31:24.500 Arlette: and the pressures of trying so hard to do all things. 687 01:31:25.120 --> 01:31:27.579 Arlette: to sustain all things. 688 01:31:27.800 --> 01:31:29.300 Arlette: and then collapse 689 01:31:30.720 --> 01:31:37.300 Arlette: after surgery and and following, being paralyzed from the waist down, she went into depression 690 01:31:37.740 --> 01:31:45.579 Arlette: and was the breathing into wellness tool that started to bring her back to her center. 691 01:31:45.940 --> 01:31:49.919 Arlette: This amazing woman runs her own pastry business now 692 01:31:50.810 --> 01:31:53.109 Arlette: from her wheelchair and from her home. 693 01:31:53.950 --> 01:32:00.680 Arlette: and she is able to sustain financially herself. 694 01:32:02.700 --> 01:32:06.380 Arlette: So with with this great story. There's many 695 01:32:06.910 --> 01:32:16.237 Arlette: amazing stories of other women that have been able to connect with their with their intervening 696 01:32:16.850 --> 01:32:23.140 Arlette: and and really and live the way that we are meant to to live. 697 01:32:23.280 --> 01:32:29.679 Arlette: which is enjoying this journey this this short time, this short time that we are giving 698 01:32:31.353 --> 01:32:35.070 Arlette: without worrying about the external. 699 01:32:35.130 --> 01:32:37.200 Arlette: the the external 700 01:32:37.970 --> 01:32:40.930 Arlette: the external calls, the external needs 701 01:32:41.550 --> 01:32:43.950 Arlette: and really and truly 702 01:32:43.970 --> 01:32:50.130 Arlette: remembering our divine, that we have, we have that divine within us. 703 01:32:50.980 --> 01:32:54.069 Arlette: And so the breathing to wellness is 704 01:32:54.450 --> 01:33:01.780 Arlette: as this tool that was created to and designed to enhance this emotional intelligence 705 01:33:01.830 --> 01:33:06.629 Arlette: that we all have and and promote that overall wellbeing 706 01:33:06.920 --> 01:33:12.346 Arlette: and something interesting that that I'd like to share about 707 01:33:13.840 --> 01:33:40.989 Arlette: about the the brain, and and how science has proven that meditation and mindful mindfulness can change the neuropathic connections in your brain and and can significantly, significantly, improve our wellbeing. Not only mentally, but physically 708 01:33:41.040 --> 01:33:43.780 Arlette: and spiritually. 709 01:33:44.715 --> 01:33:45.450 Arlette: So 710 01:33:45.650 --> 01:33:49.410 Arlette: if you if you go to the statistics, 711 01:33:50.350 --> 01:34:04.929 Arlette: almost more than 50% of the world's population so globally, people are 50% at least with one with one mental health 712 01:34:06.060 --> 01:34:25.830 Arlette: issue. And we need to make sure that we are taking care of ourselves first, before we take care of others, because we're here for a purpose. You know that video told that told it all that the video at the beginning. And I was getting very emotional just watching that video because 713 01:34:25.960 --> 01:34:27.180 Arlette: we forget 714 01:34:27.360 --> 01:34:29.859 Arlette: we forget that 715 01:34:29.970 --> 01:34:32.239 Arlette: us women we're here with 716 01:34:32.340 --> 01:34:35.279 Arlette: with that purpose of love and 717 01:34:35.370 --> 01:34:41.689 Arlette: and yes, there is a lot of work to do. But also we need to go into 718 01:34:41.700 --> 01:34:44.749 Arlette: into our own wisdom and breathe. 719 01:34:45.360 --> 01:34:49.187 Arlette: So I want. I want to take a moment to 720 01:34:50.420 --> 01:34:55.260 Arlette: to remind ourselves to this wisdom, this inner wisdom that we have 721 01:34:56.060 --> 01:35:02.470 Arlette: and ground us into this power of mindfulness and breathwork. 722 01:35:03.246 --> 01:35:08.190 Arlette: And this technique to cultivate this resilience 723 01:35:08.220 --> 01:35:12.849 Arlette: that we have in this self-awareness and inner peace. 724 01:35:12.900 --> 01:35:20.260 Arlette: and to remind ourselves that we we are okay, that we're gonna be okay and 725 01:35:21.150 --> 01:35:25.319 Arlette: in that our wellbeing comes first. 726 01:35:25.850 --> 01:35:28.770 Arlette: So please take a moment to close your eyes 727 01:35:32.310 --> 01:35:33.580 Arlette: in, breathe 728 01:35:34.050 --> 01:35:35.220 Arlette: in deep 729 01:35:36.480 --> 01:35:38.400 Arlette: and exhale from your mouth. 730 01:35:42.170 --> 01:35:43.480 Arlette: breathing deep. 731 01:35:45.120 --> 01:35:47.270 Arlette: and exhale from your mouth. 732 01:35:53.910 --> 01:35:56.460 Arlette: Find an intention for this 733 01:35:57.150 --> 01:35:59.260 Arlette: moment for you. 734 01:36:02.220 --> 01:36:05.330 Arlette: whatever whatever that intention may be. 735 01:36:08.170 --> 01:36:13.609 Arlette: and we're going to practice double breathing to calm our minds 736 01:36:15.520 --> 01:36:16.570 Arlette: like. So 737 01:36:22.920 --> 01:36:25.680 Arlette: you can repeat this 11 times. 738 01:36:26.040 --> 01:36:27.290 Arlette: breathe in 739 01:36:28.870 --> 01:36:30.689 Arlette: and exhale through the mouth. 740 01:36:33.920 --> 01:36:35.379 Arlette: breath in 741 01:36:36.820 --> 01:36:38.840 Arlette: in exhale through the mouth. 742 01:36:41.900 --> 01:36:43.809 Arlette: breathe in. 743 01:36:45.080 --> 01:36:46.900 Arlette: exhale through the mouth. 744 01:36:51.020 --> 01:36:52.710 Arlette: Continue. 745 01:37:22.820 --> 01:37:27.419 Arlette: Now, let's practice equitable breathing for 5 breaths. 746 01:37:27.970 --> 01:37:31.799 Arlette: We're going to do counts of 4 747 01:37:33.380 --> 01:37:39.239 Arlette: today just counts of 4. So you're going to inhale at the count of 4. 748 01:37:39.410 --> 01:37:42.200 Arlette: Inhale 2, 3, 749 01:37:42.390 --> 01:37:43.450 Arlette: 4, 750 01:37:44.540 --> 01:37:51.640 Arlette: pause and hold your breath for 4, 3, 4, and exhale for 4, 751 01:37:51.750 --> 01:37:55.469 Arlette: 2, 3, 4. Inhale. 2, 752 01:37:55.540 --> 01:37:57.080 Arlette: 3, 4, 753 01:37:57.530 --> 01:37:58.620 Arlette: bold. 754 01:37:58.840 --> 01:38:01.390 Arlette: 2, 3, 4. 755 01:38:01.570 --> 01:38:02.790 Arlette: Exhale. 756 01:38:03.190 --> 01:38:05.919 Arlette: 2, 3, 4. 757 01:38:19.420 --> 01:38:24.330 Arlette: Go to a feeling of love or peace. 758 01:38:24.760 --> 01:38:29.599 Arlette: You can't find those feelings right now go to a time 759 01:38:29.860 --> 01:38:32.300 Arlette: where you felt this way. 760 01:38:33.990 --> 01:38:35.550 Arlette: where you felt 761 01:38:36.270 --> 01:38:37.370 Arlette: loved. 762 01:38:39.170 --> 01:38:41.109 Arlette: where you felt safe. 763 01:38:41.890 --> 01:38:44.210 Arlette: where you felt peace. 764 01:38:46.340 --> 01:38:47.889 Arlette: and imagine 765 01:38:47.940 --> 01:38:50.160 Arlette: those feelings right now. 766 01:39:03.670 --> 01:39:06.019 Arlette: and repeat to yourself. 767 01:39:06.650 --> 01:39:08.239 Arlette: I am perfect 768 01:39:09.100 --> 01:39:10.819 Arlette: in my perfect 769 01:39:11.300 --> 01:39:12.600 Arlette: in perfection. 770 01:39:14.620 --> 01:39:16.150 Arlette: I am meant 771 01:39:16.660 --> 01:39:18.390 Arlette: for great things. 772 01:39:22.970 --> 01:39:26.620 Arlette: and great thanks for all those around me 773 01:39:30.490 --> 01:39:33.740 Arlette: for the wellbeing of all beings. 774 01:39:37.510 --> 01:39:38.570 Arlette: Thank you. 775 01:39:40.600 --> 01:39:42.190 Arlette: Thank you for being here. 776 01:39:44.240 --> 01:39:47.021 Dr. Carolyn: Thank you so much, Charlotte. Thank you. Thank you. 777 01:39:47.330 --> 01:39:49.579 Arlette: Now we're gonna go into. 778 01:39:50.030 --> 01:39:51.059 Dr. Carolyn: What is Shiva? 779 01:39:51.890 --> 01:39:52.470 Arlette: Okay. 780 01:39:52.470 --> 01:39:54.229 Dr. Carolyn: You. Thank you. Arlen. 781 01:39:54.230 --> 01:39:54.950 Arlette: Thank you. 782 01:39:56.830 --> 01:39:58.410 Sheva Carr: We have 783 01:39:59.080 --> 01:40:01.069 Sheva Carr: an antidote here 784 01:40:01.130 --> 01:40:03.400 Sheva Carr: to numb zoom gloom. 785 01:40:04.130 --> 01:40:07.810 Sheva Carr: cause. We have been sitting in front of computers now 786 01:40:08.470 --> 01:40:13.290 Sheva Carr: for an hour, and no for almost 2 solid hours. 787 01:40:13.390 --> 01:40:19.240 Sheva Carr: And I wanna thank all of these panelists, and I wanna give your bodies a break. 788 01:40:20.310 --> 01:40:21.590 Sheva Carr: So 789 01:40:21.650 --> 01:40:26.580 Sheva Carr: most of you have your cameras off. Anyway, you're welcome to turn them on or keep them off. 790 01:40:27.280 --> 01:40:29.600 Sheva Carr: I'm going to play you a song 791 01:40:30.040 --> 01:40:38.600 Sheva Carr: that gives us some insights into some of what our let just shared with us, and I want to invite you to get up and move. 792 01:40:38.660 --> 01:40:42.280 Sheva Carr: Sitting is the new smoking, says the research. 793 01:40:42.340 --> 01:40:46.910 Sheva Carr: and so we are here to nurture and nourish you, not damage your body. 794 01:40:47.330 --> 01:40:51.910 Sheva Carr: So here we go. Here we grow. 795 01:40:52.380 --> 01:40:58.315 Sheva Carr: Give me just a moment to activate this screen share for you. 796 01:41:01.780 --> 01:41:05.050 Sheva Carr: Could you be trapping? 797 01:41:05.200 --> 01:41:10.789 Sheva Carr: No one can see you in a move. 798 01:41:11.950 --> 01:41:15.770 Sheva Carr: A. 799 01:41:16.970 --> 01:41:27.159 Sheva Carr: We are in this together, so let us breathe in there, let it go. Our friend. Coherence is the antidote to life that's weird in a cantaloupe 800 01:41:28.798 --> 01:41:38.020 Sheva Carr: they'll keep us in coherent with the love bass law make us more resilient because quarto and belabor, and keep our brain and bodies in the state of vigilance. 801 01:41:38.030 --> 01:41:47.610 Sheva Carr: I know it's times when you feel scared anxiety, and your thoughts, body full of fear. But if you take a step back and focus within, when external stress come, you'll be more prepared. 802 01:41:48.400 --> 01:41:57.800 Sheva Carr: Listen to my words, quiet your mind in a place you won't be disturbed, one hand over your heart, and inhale deeply inducing a joyous feeling cause you deserve it. 803 01:41:57.850 --> 01:42:05.360 Sheva Carr: Appreciation, care, and gratitude. Attention on your heart. Center with the matatus, see our brand, and rewards! Out with dopamine, the chemical. 804 01:42:05.500 --> 01:42:07.729 Sheva Carr: that's all. In a happy move. Happy move! 805 01:42:08.180 --> 01:42:09.630 Sheva Carr: Keep your heart center. Open 806 01:42:09.910 --> 01:42:12.499 Sheva Carr: brain will produce doses of isotopes, and 807 01:42:12.620 --> 01:42:20.499 Sheva Carr: these hormones will make you bond closer while keeping you feeling safe like a mom's nurture. That's close. Now let's turn it to the other side. We're cortisol 808 01:42:20.580 --> 01:42:21.830 Sheva Carr: wrapper. Never let a 809 01:42:22.000 --> 01:42:22.689 Sheva Carr: make it up. 810 01:42:23.280 --> 01:42:27.710 Sheva Carr: Madness, rage, deal, shame, fear, and pain. Make your autonomic nervous system, fight a flight 811 01:42:28.490 --> 01:42:46.830 Sheva Carr: body's on a balance, making ability to heal a major challenge, survival moe, make you vigilant looking for danger, anger, make your heart rhythm or sporadic, and that's why we are in this together. So let us breathe in there. Let it go. Heartfred, in coherence, is the antidote to life the sweeter than a cantaloupe 812 01:42:48.160 --> 01:42:50.249 Sheva Carr: will keep us in coherent. But the love 813 01:42:51.072 --> 01:42:57.719 Sheva Carr: make us more resilient escort a solid, and been there for keep our brain and bodies in the State evangelists. 814 01:42:58.540 --> 01:43:00.240 Sheva Carr: E. 815 01:43:03.060 --> 01:43:05.200 Sheva Carr: Polly, hey? 816 01:43:07.970 --> 01:43:10.920 Sheva Carr: Don't do 817 01:43:18.540 --> 01:43:19.725 Sheva Carr: alright. 818 01:43:20.910 --> 01:43:24.109 Asmaa I. Methqal: But hip, hop, song with like gratitude. 819 01:43:24.120 --> 01:43:26.710 Asmaa I. Methqal: words that's so awesome. 820 01:43:27.130 --> 01:43:28.700 Sheva Carr: Isn't that fun. 821 01:43:29.070 --> 01:43:29.900 Asmaa I. Methqal: Oh, cool! 822 01:43:30.480 --> 01:43:33.610 Sheva Carr: Kofi is the name of the artist. 823 01:43:34.200 --> 01:43:39.000 Sheva Carr: and that is 35 years of evidence-based research 824 01:43:39.150 --> 01:43:44.470 Sheva Carr: summarized for you in 2 min of hip. Hop, how's that? And rap? 825 01:43:45.480 --> 01:43:49.900 Sheva Carr: So the breathing that our let just gave us 826 01:43:51.080 --> 01:43:55.260 Sheva Carr: changes so many things inside us. 827 01:43:56.920 --> 01:44:00.580 Sheva Carr: and how we engage with what's outside us? 828 01:44:02.790 --> 01:44:07.919 Sheva Carr: I want to take a breath. I just wanted to give everybody's body some breath. 829 01:44:10.090 --> 01:44:20.530 Sheva Carr: and we're I love the love that's coming in the chat. By the way. I just want to honor that. And the chat is being recorded with this. So we'll make sure all the panelists 830 01:44:20.680 --> 01:44:25.700 Sheva Carr: get that at the end. And any of you that want this recording. 831 01:44:25.750 --> 01:44:28.050 Sheva Carr: You can write to us 832 01:44:28.390 --> 01:44:30.230 Sheva Carr: at supports 833 01:44:30.490 --> 01:44:35.069 Sheva Carr: at Hart ambassadors.com to request the recording. 834 01:44:35.170 --> 01:44:38.729 Sheva Carr: You are free to share it with anyone that you wish. 835 01:44:41.510 --> 01:44:48.780 Sheva Carr: I want to come back to the feelings some of you put in the chat at the very beginning about how you felt 836 01:44:49.590 --> 01:44:54.730 Sheva Carr: in the presence of someone listening to you or mentoring you. 837 01:44:56.050 --> 01:44:59.040 Sheva Carr: sustained, supported, safe 838 01:44:59.770 --> 01:45:09.169 Sheva Carr: life, giving strong, powerful, connected, unconditionally loved, powerful, supported, vulnerable relief. That was mine. Coda, relieved. 839 01:45:09.690 --> 01:45:17.730 Sheva Carr: rounded, strong, supported, loved, empowered, uplifted, loved, unconditionally loved. Are you hearing a theme? 840 01:45:18.585 --> 01:45:23.940 Sheva Carr: Saw my light, loved, connected, heard, valued, worthy, loved. 841 01:45:28.280 --> 01:45:30.789 Sheva Carr: Now I want to ask you. 842 01:45:31.280 --> 01:45:35.120 Sheva Carr: Maybe we could pause and refocus in the heart for a moment, and just 843 01:45:36.310 --> 01:45:48.940 Sheva Carr: connect with any of those feelings that resonated with you and activate them as you breathe in through the heart and out through the heart, heart maths, quick coherence, technique. 844 01:45:50.060 --> 01:45:54.920 Sheva Carr: focusing attention in the area around the chest, the heart area. 845 01:45:56.290 --> 01:46:02.610 Sheva Carr: imagining the breath is flowing in through the heart and out through the heart. 846 01:46:05.040 --> 01:46:10.140 Sheva Carr: breathing any of those qualities that we just reconnected with. 847 01:46:12.500 --> 01:46:15.649 Sheva Carr: or that appreciation you started with 848 01:46:16.070 --> 01:46:18.419 Sheva Carr: for those who have mentored you 849 01:46:35.920 --> 01:46:42.029 Sheva Carr: as you breathe those qualities in through the heart and out through the heart. 850 01:46:43.690 --> 01:46:51.359 Sheva Carr: Do you feel more like the red line or the blue line. You can put your answer in the chat. 851 01:46:56.340 --> 01:46:58.660 Sheva Carr: Here come the answers. 852 01:47:00.560 --> 01:47:02.130 Sheva Carr: blue, blue, blue. 853 01:47:02.800 --> 01:47:04.370 Sheva Carr: Do we all agree. 854 01:47:05.310 --> 01:47:09.530 Sheva Carr: Carolyn said something beautiful beautiful earlier, she said. 855 01:47:09.560 --> 01:47:15.220 Sheva Carr: Sometimes we're not here to learn something new. We're here to remember. Something true 856 01:47:16.220 --> 01:47:19.319 Sheva Carr: gives me chills to say that back to you, Carolyn. 857 01:47:19.450 --> 01:47:22.209 Sheva Carr: Something true and blue, apparently. 858 01:47:25.650 --> 01:47:26.730 Sheva Carr: And 859 01:47:27.760 --> 01:47:34.340 Sheva Carr: now I'm gonna tell you, or we'll find out in a moment what these lines are. 860 01:47:35.850 --> 01:47:36.730 Sheva Carr: But 861 01:47:37.440 --> 01:47:39.420 Sheva Carr: I'm curious. 862 01:47:40.400 --> 01:47:46.710 Sheva Carr: How did you know? How did you recognize your mentors? 863 01:47:48.720 --> 01:47:51.389 Sheva Carr: Take a moment to contemplate? 864 01:47:51.490 --> 01:47:53.699 Sheva Carr: How did you know 865 01:47:55.290 --> 01:47:57.490 Sheva Carr: someone was a mentor to you 866 01:48:01.520 --> 01:48:06.049 Sheva Carr: and thank you, Jamie Lynn. We can get you the recording of the finale later. 867 01:48:06.810 --> 01:48:16.679 Sheva Carr: How did you know? And if you want to put your answers in the chat. I'm I think it's a curious question. I would like to hear your answers to 868 01:48:18.710 --> 01:48:22.789 Sheva Carr: their patience. Love, intentional presence. 869 01:48:23.380 --> 01:48:25.449 Sheva Carr: Beautiful? Thank you, Jamie. Then 870 01:48:26.620 --> 01:48:28.729 Sheva Carr: how did you recognize them 871 01:48:30.060 --> 01:48:32.660 Sheva Carr: intuitive, knowing presence? 872 01:48:34.750 --> 01:48:37.430 Sheva Carr: Did you read their resume 873 01:48:38.060 --> 01:48:39.290 Sheva Carr: or 874 01:48:39.830 --> 01:48:44.980 Sheva Carr: Google them? A heart connection, says Lori. Or did you feel it? 875 01:48:48.740 --> 01:48:50.460 Sheva Carr: Feel it? Says Asma 876 01:48:51.420 --> 01:48:57.809 Sheva Carr: felt, says Laurie. And was that feeling more like the blue line or the red line? 877 01:48:58.870 --> 01:49:01.709 Sheva Carr: So far? Everybody is saying they felt it. 878 01:49:06.480 --> 01:49:07.850 Sheva Carr: Does anyone. 879 01:49:07.970 --> 01:49:10.860 Sheva Carr: If you're a hard ambassador, and I mentor you. 880 01:49:11.020 --> 01:49:13.300 Sheva Carr: You're not allowed to answer this question. 881 01:49:13.360 --> 01:49:18.309 Sheva Carr: Does anyone know what these lines are a picture of? 882 01:49:18.610 --> 01:49:20.330 Sheva Carr: I want to take a guess. 883 01:49:25.580 --> 01:49:27.919 Sheva Carr: The hard ambassadors are giggling. 884 01:49:30.030 --> 01:49:33.109 Sheva Carr: These are a picture of heart rhythms. 885 01:49:35.350 --> 01:49:37.069 Sheva Carr: heart rhythm patterns. 886 01:49:37.890 --> 01:49:41.919 Sheva Carr: Yes, Anna, you've got it. Heart rate variability 887 01:49:42.910 --> 01:49:48.090 Sheva Carr: beat to beat changes in the heart's rhythm. And this was a piece of research 888 01:49:48.260 --> 01:49:56.719 Sheva Carr: that put the Heart Math Institute, a place where Carolyn generously said earlier, I'm the director of our healthcare division. 889 01:49:56.840 --> 01:50:02.910 Sheva Carr: In addition to having my own community where I mentor people to become mentors 890 01:50:05.310 --> 01:50:08.560 Sheva Carr: because we value mentoring so much. 891 01:50:09.300 --> 01:50:15.220 Sheva Carr: this research put Heartmath on the map published in the American Journal of Cardiology in 90 95, 892 01:50:17.810 --> 01:50:24.780 Sheva Carr: showing that that emotional intelligence that Arlette talked with us about earlier 893 01:50:27.490 --> 01:50:33.289 Sheva Carr: not only changes our feeling, it changes our whole physiology. 894 01:50:33.340 --> 01:50:38.349 Sheva Carr: including the part of our brain, perceiving life and responding to it. 895 01:50:41.360 --> 01:50:49.520 Sheva Carr: So when Jessica, so vulnerably and beautifully shared, witnessing the helplessness, hopelessness, and despair 896 01:50:49.690 --> 01:50:52.810 Sheva Carr: of her parents in the poverty grind. 897 01:50:53.170 --> 01:50:57.910 Sheva Carr: and her antidote was determination and desire 898 01:51:01.250 --> 01:51:04.240 Sheva Carr: that gave her a change of heart. 899 01:51:06.150 --> 01:51:10.880 Sheva Carr: She moved not only herself, but her intergenerational 900 01:51:11.260 --> 01:51:12.570 Sheva Carr: lineage 901 01:51:13.520 --> 01:51:17.100 Sheva Carr: from incoherent physiological patterns 902 01:51:17.260 --> 01:51:19.559 Sheva Carr: to coherent ones that 903 01:51:19.940 --> 01:51:22.899 Sheva Carr: literally change your epigenetics. 904 01:51:24.790 --> 01:51:34.209 Sheva Carr: not just your opportunities in life, the the financial opportunities, but the physiological play out of your life events and your aging. 905 01:51:36.770 --> 01:51:38.129 Sheva Carr: She did that 906 01:51:38.260 --> 01:51:40.929 Sheva Carr: by choosing to take helplessness. 907 01:51:41.090 --> 01:51:45.439 Sheva Carr: hopelessness, and despair, and make determination and desire with it. 908 01:51:45.790 --> 01:51:50.390 Sheva Carr: That is a change of heart, and it can happen in a heartbeat 909 01:51:53.230 --> 01:51:57.300 Sheva Carr: the moment you practice a quick coherence. Technique like that. 910 01:51:58.330 --> 01:52:09.979 Sheva Carr: like the one that we just did. And what's so, Admiral, about all these incredible, heroic women that we've heard speak today? Is they not only did it once? 911 01:52:10.560 --> 01:52:13.780 Sheva Carr: Oh, no. I just lost Internet. Can you guys still hear me? 912 01:52:14.870 --> 01:52:15.830 Sheva Carr: Okay. 913 01:52:15.830 --> 01:52:16.600 Dr. Carolyn: Yes. 914 01:52:16.600 --> 01:52:17.550 Asmaa I. Methqal: Yes, you're good. 915 01:52:17.930 --> 01:52:19.000 Sheva Carr: So 916 01:52:20.070 --> 01:52:27.129 Sheva Carr: when we have these little disconnects from Internet, it's like a disconnect from our intuition. I think it was 917 01:52:27.539 --> 01:52:33.530 Sheva Carr: asthma so beautifully said, you know you're out of balance if your intuition is offline. 918 01:52:35.640 --> 01:52:41.730 Sheva Carr: But I have one of those very supportive husbands who went and got me a cord to put me back online. 919 01:52:43.870 --> 01:52:48.189 Sheva Carr: we need tools to get back online. We need the cord. 920 01:52:49.140 --> 01:52:51.989 Sheva Carr: And what heartmath research has shown us 921 01:52:52.070 --> 01:52:54.500 Sheva Carr: is that that cord. 922 01:52:57.390 --> 01:53:02.919 Sheva Carr: the access to bring that intuitive intelligence back online is in the heart 923 01:53:03.280 --> 01:53:05.790 Sheva Carr: through this special state 924 01:53:06.330 --> 01:53:12.570 Sheva Carr: called physiological coherence. Does somebody just want to read what you see on this slide. 925 01:53:13.430 --> 01:53:15.419 Sheva Carr: the definition of coherence. 926 01:53:15.660 --> 01:53:16.859 Sheva Carr: I'll get you. 927 01:53:16.960 --> 01:53:21.859 Sheva Carr: Okay. This is what it's like working with a group of women. We are all like, yes, we'll do it. 928 01:53:22.590 --> 01:53:28.020 Arlette: Somebody else wanted to read. I I wanna let someone else to read. I I don't know. 929 01:53:30.850 --> 01:53:33.100 Arlette: Psychological coherence. 930 01:53:33.570 --> 01:53:34.669 Arlette: I'd have to be. 931 01:53:34.670 --> 01:53:36.903 Sheva Carr: Physiological. So it's it includes. 932 01:53:37.350 --> 01:53:39.770 Arlette: Sorry. Thank you. I'm reading it. 933 01:53:39.770 --> 01:53:51.300 Sheva Carr: Literally changing us at the physical cellular level. So thank you, Arlette, for that typo and reading cause it allows us to emphasize. This is a physical change. Yes, go! 934 01:53:51.300 --> 01:53:57.190 Arlette: Yes, physiological coherence, an optimal state in which the heart. 935 01:53:57.210 --> 01:54:01.479 Arlette: mind, and emotions are aligned, and in sync 936 01:54:01.740 --> 01:54:09.800 Arlette: physiologically, the immune, hormonal, and nervous systems function in a state of energetic coordination. 937 01:54:10.860 --> 01:54:16.799 Sheva Carr: When that happens, we have access, they change an operating system. 938 01:54:17.780 --> 01:54:21.289 Sheva Carr: It doesn't just change your outer profession. This is what 939 01:54:21.300 --> 01:54:25.860 Sheva Carr: Asma was talking to us about that entrepreneurship is an inside job. 940 01:54:27.260 --> 01:54:34.450 Sheva Carr: It requires a different operating system than the poverty operating system of scarcity and survival mode. 941 01:54:34.910 --> 01:54:39.769 Sheva Carr: and it is an operating system available to everyone who has a heart. 942 01:54:42.190 --> 01:54:45.879 Sheva Carr: Now I looked up the etymology of the word mentor 943 01:54:46.400 --> 01:54:49.199 Sheva Carr: because I got really curious about this. 944 01:54:49.310 --> 01:54:54.879 Sheva Carr: and it's interesting, because spontaneously this morning I was consulting to a hospital 945 01:54:55.740 --> 01:55:07.040 Sheva Carr: where the hospitals are having radical turnover, and we're a bit short on time, so I may, you know, for those who can stay late, I can share with you some of our evidence-based data 946 01:55:07.660 --> 01:55:20.219 Sheva Carr: on how these simple techniques, like the ones that you've been learning today. Turn the dial on personal entrepreneurial success, but also massive systemic organizational success when they're implemented at scale. 947 01:55:21.730 --> 01:55:26.270 Sheva Carr: But this morning I was consulting to one of our large hospital systems that we work with. 948 01:55:26.510 --> 01:55:28.999 Sheva Carr: and their hospitals have 949 01:55:29.040 --> 01:55:41.110 Sheva Carr: horrible turnover, and it's one of the places this kind of emotional intelligence shines in preventing turnover. And so we bring these skills there. And this group of hospital leaders, all women 950 01:55:41.610 --> 01:55:44.460 Sheva Carr: have just onboarded 11 new hires. 951 01:55:45.260 --> 01:55:48.130 Sheva Carr: and they were trying to sort out how to retain them. 952 01:55:49.210 --> 01:55:50.490 Sheva Carr: because 953 01:55:50.730 --> 01:55:55.440 Sheva Carr: new grad nurses don't stay in the profession anymore. 954 01:55:56.050 --> 01:56:01.510 Sheva Carr: They leave within 5 years, and that's bringing the healthcare industry to a critical 955 01:56:01.880 --> 01:56:02.810 Sheva Carr: edge. 956 01:56:03.220 --> 01:56:05.830 Sheva Carr: It used to be the average age of a nurse 957 01:56:05.900 --> 01:56:16.399 Sheva Carr: was 35. You want that right long standing nurses with new Newbies. The average age of nurses now around the world is between 55 and 71. 958 01:56:17.430 --> 01:56:19.960 Sheva Carr: What are we gonna do 10 years from now? 959 01:56:21.710 --> 01:56:26.519 Sheva Carr: So they were problem solving solution, seeking for how to retain their nurses. 960 01:56:27.420 --> 01:56:33.839 Sheva Carr: and I asked them, well, they're all seasoned nurses that have been in the profession for 30 years, they said. 961 01:56:34.320 --> 01:56:38.439 Sheva Carr: what made you stay when you first came on? And do you know what their answer was? 962 01:56:40.910 --> 01:56:48.199 Sheva Carr: Someone on staff personally took them under their wing and mentored them when they arrived. 963 01:56:49.540 --> 01:56:51.829 Sheva Carr: So we helped them develop. 964 01:56:52.370 --> 01:56:54.610 Sheva Carr: create a plan this morning 965 01:56:54.740 --> 01:56:58.460 Sheva Carr: for how to pair each new hire with a mentor. 966 01:56:59.750 --> 01:57:06.369 Sheva Carr: And this is so. A wise advisor, an intimate friend, who also is a sage counselor. 967 01:57:07.390 --> 01:57:13.789 Sheva Carr: The source of it is from the Greek mentor in the Odyssey is from a play. 968 01:57:13.890 --> 01:57:16.779 Sheva Carr: Did you guys know this? I thought this was so interesting 969 01:57:16.910 --> 01:57:19.389 Sheva Carr: the name of the friend of Odysseus 970 01:57:19.480 --> 01:57:21.770 Sheva Carr: and advisor to Telemachus. 971 01:57:22.310 --> 01:57:28.759 Sheva Carr: And this is what I thought was so interesting in light of us. Presenting this at the Commission on the status of women. 972 01:57:29.710 --> 01:57:38.980 Sheva Carr: The Mentor in the Odyssey was often the Greek goddess of wisdom, appearing as a man in disguise. 973 01:57:40.910 --> 01:57:44.219 Sheva Carr: Isn't that interesting? So she's bringing feminine 974 01:57:44.570 --> 01:57:48.120 Sheva Carr: intelligence of listening, supporting, nurturing 975 01:57:49.030 --> 01:57:50.330 Sheva Carr: to Mentor. 976 01:57:52.630 --> 01:57:53.650 Sheva Carr: No. 977 01:57:54.150 --> 01:57:56.660 Sheva Carr: what I want to leave you with 978 01:57:58.930 --> 01:58:05.200 Sheva Carr: is that the ultimate mentor inside each of us is the heart, your heart. 979 01:58:07.460 --> 01:58:13.689 Sheva Carr: It's your heart inside you that recognized your other mentors. Anyway. 980 01:58:14.380 --> 01:58:20.939 Sheva Carr: Just take a moment to point to where you felt it. You all said you felt your mentor when you recognize them. 981 01:58:21.390 --> 01:58:24.500 Sheva Carr: point to where you felt it, or how you felt it. 982 01:58:26.930 --> 01:58:28.740 Sheva Carr: For me. It's right here. 983 01:58:32.690 --> 01:58:36.560 Sheva Carr: The heart, it turns out, has its own brain 984 01:58:36.890 --> 01:58:41.479 Sheva Carr: that sends far more information north to this cerebral brain. 985 01:58:42.000 --> 01:58:44.240 Sheva Carr: Then this brain sends cell 986 01:58:45.000 --> 01:58:46.560 Sheva Carr: 80% more. 987 01:58:47.440 --> 01:58:52.620 Sheva Carr: A brain with its own neurotransmitters, its own complex nervous system 988 01:58:52.780 --> 01:58:54.850 Sheva Carr: and support cells. 989 01:58:55.010 --> 01:59:02.480 Sheva Carr: its own intrinsic nervous system, a heart with a unique kind of intelligence in that brain. 990 01:59:03.450 --> 01:59:07.059 Sheva Carr: There's communication along 4 pathways here. 991 01:59:07.100 --> 01:59:14.100 Sheva Carr: but the heart is uniquely positioned to act as a global coordinator of all the different aspects of our being 992 01:59:15.270 --> 01:59:22.710 Sheva Carr: those feelings. I'm gonna backtrack for just a moment because we're gonna make sure you get one more tool today. 993 01:59:24.300 --> 01:59:28.870 Sheva Carr: The feelings that you felt in the presence of your mentor 994 01:59:30.010 --> 01:59:33.520 Sheva Carr: are feelings that generate coherence in the heart. 995 01:59:34.990 --> 01:59:41.049 Sheva Carr: and you can generate coherence in your heart to access your own inner mentor. 996 01:59:42.370 --> 01:59:44.630 Sheva Carr: the guide inside you 997 01:59:46.160 --> 01:59:48.069 Sheva Carr: that opens up 998 01:59:48.190 --> 01:59:57.679 Sheva Carr: the higher centers of the brain for innovative problem, solving solution, seeking actually the frontal and prefrontal lobes that are often called. Get this 999 01:59:58.460 --> 02:00:03.419 Sheva Carr: the executive function of the brain, the C-suite of your body. 1000 02:00:05.470 --> 02:00:08.630 Sheva Carr: That's where entrepreneurialism lives 1001 02:00:10.030 --> 02:00:14.880 Sheva Carr: and to access that based on 35 years of research. 1002 02:00:16.250 --> 02:00:21.340 Sheva Carr: we can do it by creating this heartbrain synchronization. 1003 02:00:22.260 --> 02:00:27.879 Sheva Carr: So we perceive, feel, focus, learn reason, solution, seek and perform at our best. 1004 02:00:28.010 --> 02:00:29.910 Sheva Carr: the guide inside you. 1005 02:00:31.250 --> 02:00:35.340 Sheva Carr: This is just a slide, showing you exactly what I just said. 1006 02:00:36.200 --> 02:00:40.130 Sheva Carr: the signal going up the vagus nerve and a long 1007 02:00:40.190 --> 02:00:44.999 Sheva Carr: 3 other pathways to open up the CEO inside you. 1008 02:00:47.880 --> 02:00:49.500 Sheva Carr: Now, I'm gonna 1009 02:00:49.890 --> 02:00:52.850 Sheva Carr: skip ahead here and we're gonna do 1010 02:00:53.350 --> 02:00:57.859 Sheva Carr: a technique to access that guide inside which will be available 1011 02:00:58.800 --> 02:01:00.450 Sheva Carr: on that 1012 02:01:00.690 --> 02:01:05.419 Sheva Carr: beautiful QR code and link that Esma's put in the chat for us. 1013 02:01:05.890 --> 02:01:08.159 Sheva Carr: This technique from heart math 1014 02:01:08.370 --> 02:01:10.740 Sheva Carr: is called the Freeze frame technique 1015 02:01:11.580 --> 02:01:16.710 Sheva Carr: where you can pause at any time and talk to the mentor inside your own heart. 1016 02:01:19.940 --> 02:01:29.070 Sheva Carr: And with permission, since we technically have 1 min left, may I go a little over time? Can we take 5 more minutes to do this tool 1017 02:01:30.990 --> 02:01:41.230 Sheva Carr: for those who have to leave, and would like the recording? Just write to us at support at heart, ambassadors.com, and we'll get it to you. 1018 02:01:43.750 --> 02:01:48.229 Sheva Carr: Now, I happen to have these skills because one of my 1019 02:01:49.270 --> 02:01:52.380 Sheva Carr: most important mentors in my own life 1020 02:01:53.380 --> 02:01:59.379 Sheva Carr: had given me these skills as a young graduate student before I started a business. 1021 02:01:59.990 --> 02:02:04.160 Sheva Carr: I was in medical school, actually not a business person. 1022 02:02:05.330 --> 02:02:08.399 Sheva Carr: not an entrepreneur. I was studying to be a healer. 1023 02:02:10.520 --> 02:02:15.069 Sheva Carr: and when I founded my business, my accountant said to me. 1024 02:02:16.780 --> 02:02:22.350 Sheva Carr: as I was signing the Secretary of State paperwork. 1025 02:02:23.080 --> 02:02:30.709 Sheva Carr: Well, it's okay. You won't need this in 5 years, anyway, because most businesses, especially women, owned close their doors within the first 5 years. 1026 02:02:30.910 --> 02:02:33.550 Sheva Carr: that sounding like those nursing students 1027 02:02:37.020 --> 02:02:41.450 Sheva Carr: well, coming by my red hair. Naturally, I took that as a challenge. 1028 02:02:41.780 --> 02:02:44.489 Sheva Carr: and I went out and bought a bottle of champagne 1029 02:02:45.320 --> 02:02:49.699 Sheva Carr: to Cork on the fifth year and first day of my business 1030 02:02:50.420 --> 02:02:52.159 Sheva Carr: or uncork, I guess. 1031 02:02:53.540 --> 02:02:55.440 Sheva Carr: and then I did my research. 1032 02:02:56.110 --> 02:03:00.650 Sheva Carr: I wanted to know why businesses closed their doors, I assumed. 1033 02:03:01.730 --> 02:03:06.990 Sheva Carr: Let's see, put in the chat. Why do you think most businesses don't survive the first 5 years 1034 02:03:07.300 --> 02:03:09.130 Sheva Carr: puts your best guests in the chat. 1035 02:03:16.120 --> 02:03:19.880 Sheva Carr: Carolyn, of course, is going to say lack of mentorship. I love it. 1036 02:03:20.760 --> 02:03:25.270 Sheva Carr: Fear they give up too soon. Wow! You guys are more evolved than I was. 1037 02:03:26.550 --> 02:03:27.950 Sheva Carr: I thought 1038 02:03:28.150 --> 02:03:29.490 Sheva Carr: they went bankrupt. 1039 02:03:31.380 --> 02:03:32.130 Sheva Carr: Nope. 1040 02:03:32.500 --> 02:03:34.750 Sheva Carr: it wasn't for lack of money. 1041 02:03:35.450 --> 02:03:37.310 Sheva Carr: it was for lack of hope. 1042 02:03:38.440 --> 02:03:40.859 Sheva Carr: They emotionally burned out. 1043 02:03:43.620 --> 02:03:48.909 Sheva Carr: I had the secret sauce from my mentor, Doc Childer, who founded Hartman. 1044 02:03:50.000 --> 02:03:55.560 Sheva Carr: I knew how to self-source hope, and my solution, solving mind 1045 02:03:56.790 --> 02:03:58.910 Sheva Carr: from the power of my heart. 1046 02:04:00.930 --> 02:04:11.750 Sheva Carr: and when I hit those burnout points and those unsurmountable obstacles that look like walls, I had the heart grappling hook to turn those walls into stepping stones. 1047 02:04:13.240 --> 02:04:17.840 Sheva Carr: and that's what I want to give you now, and my business has been operational now 1048 02:04:20.260 --> 02:04:22.340 Sheva Carr: for over 25 years. 1049 02:04:26.030 --> 02:04:36.260 Sheva Carr: Well, that is applause to all of you in this room, and the hard investors that are here because a business is only as good as the people it serves and collaborates with. 1050 02:04:39.890 --> 02:04:41.440 Sheva Carr: And so 1051 02:04:41.780 --> 02:04:44.460 Sheva Carr: I want to invite you to write down 1052 02:04:47.210 --> 02:04:53.510 Sheva Carr: a challenge or a stressor that you wish you had a mentor. You could talk to about it 1053 02:04:59.630 --> 02:05:04.889 Sheva Carr: and just take a moment to write down, even in shorthand what that is. 1054 02:05:13.480 --> 02:05:19.750 Sheva Carr: Notice how your reaction to and experience of that challenge 1055 02:05:20.550 --> 02:05:22.829 Sheva Carr: is impacting your body. 1056 02:05:23.740 --> 02:05:27.299 Sheva Carr: your emotions and your thought process 1057 02:05:32.380 --> 02:05:34.210 Sheva Carr: and write that down. 1058 02:05:46.970 --> 02:05:52.950 Sheva Carr: And I just want to acknowledge, like when you have, when you operate your business heart based. 1059 02:05:54.210 --> 02:06:01.580 Sheva Carr: you attract the most amazing teams and people like Miss Melinda Dewey, my coo, who 1060 02:06:02.020 --> 02:06:07.960 Sheva Carr: didn't even coordinate this with me. But she just put the freeze frame technique as a Pdf. In the chat for all of you. 1061 02:06:12.410 --> 02:06:13.780 Sheva Carr: Thank you, Melinda. 1062 02:06:15.830 --> 02:06:18.550 Sheva Carr: I give the heart credit for finding Melinda. 1063 02:06:19.140 --> 02:06:23.449 Sheva Carr: Not only do you attract mentors, you attract your teams. Yes, go ahead, Linda. 1064 02:06:23.450 --> 02:06:29.352 Melinda Dewey: And speaking about teams, I thought I just posted it on the website, too. So what a team. 1065 02:06:31.780 --> 02:06:33.390 Sheva Carr: Thank you so much. 1066 02:06:36.000 --> 02:06:37.280 Sheva Carr: Now 1067 02:06:40.230 --> 02:06:42.459 Sheva Carr: notice, does your current 1068 02:06:42.930 --> 02:06:47.049 Sheva Carr: struggle or reaction to this challenge make you feel more like the 1069 02:06:47.400 --> 02:06:50.159 Sheva Carr: crazy red line or the blue line. 1070 02:06:52.600 --> 02:06:55.719 Sheva Carr: and just know if you feel like the red line. 1071 02:06:55.890 --> 02:06:57.240 Sheva Carr: That's good news. 1072 02:06:59.520 --> 02:07:03.909 Sheva Carr: because it means you're looking through a peephole, and you can't see the solution. Yet 1073 02:07:04.280 --> 02:07:08.349 Sheva Carr: it also means bite out. It's like looking at life through a shaking camera lens. 1074 02:07:08.820 --> 02:07:11.060 Sheva Carr: You're not seeing it clearly. 1075 02:07:12.280 --> 02:07:17.970 Sheva Carr: A mentor helps us see clearly what we can't see, and the heart can do that 1076 02:07:18.090 --> 02:07:20.880 Sheva Carr: when there's no one else around to mentor you. 1077 02:07:22.830 --> 02:07:32.000 Sheva Carr: so shall we access the heart. We're going to do the tool you've already done, and add a step to it to turn it into the freeze frame. So focus your attention 1078 02:07:32.550 --> 02:07:36.950 Sheva Carr: on the area around the heart, the chest area. 1079 02:07:38.690 --> 02:07:49.119 Sheva Carr: Imagine your breath is flowing in and out of your heart or chest area, breathing a little slower and deeper than usual. 1080 02:07:51.180 --> 02:07:55.470 Sheva Carr: If you find it helpful, you can count as you breathe in 1081 02:07:55.780 --> 02:07:58.250 Sheva Carr: and count as you breathe out. 1082 02:07:58.700 --> 02:08:01.949 Sheva Carr: that even inhale, even exhale. 1083 02:08:02.980 --> 02:08:03.730 Sheva Carr: that 1084 02:08:03.980 --> 02:08:06.710 Sheva Carr: Arlette brought us through earlier 1085 02:08:07.240 --> 02:08:12.730 Sheva Carr: begins to balance the autonomic nervous system in that even sign curve. 1086 02:08:14.240 --> 02:08:16.769 Sheva Carr: as you breathe in through the heart. 1087 02:08:18.800 --> 02:08:20.570 Sheva Carr: bend out through the heart. 1088 02:08:25.880 --> 02:08:34.309 Sheva Carr: Now make a sincere attempt to experience a regenerative feeling such as appreciation or care 1089 02:08:35.340 --> 02:08:41.610 Sheva Carr: for someone or something in your life. It might be that gratitude you've been sending your mentors 1090 02:08:53.810 --> 02:08:58.289 Sheva Carr: breathe that feeling in through the heart and out through the heart 1091 02:09:14.170 --> 02:09:17.610 Sheva Carr: from this more coherent place. 1092 02:09:19.030 --> 02:09:21.009 Sheva Carr: Ask your heart 1093 02:09:22.660 --> 02:09:25.980 Sheva Carr: for a more efficient or effective 1094 02:09:27.170 --> 02:09:30.409 Sheva Carr: attitude, action or response 1095 02:09:31.850 --> 02:09:33.479 Sheva Carr: to the stress store. 1096 02:09:34.910 --> 02:09:42.010 Sheva Carr: a response that minimizes your stress. So ask yourself, ask your heart, the guide inside you 1097 02:09:43.380 --> 02:09:45.350 Sheva Carr: for its response 1098 02:09:46.710 --> 02:09:51.490 Sheva Carr: to this challenge and write down the first thing that comes to you without editing. 1099 02:10:27.320 --> 02:10:33.199 Sheva Carr: Now look back at your first of all, if you didn't hear anything right away. 1100 02:10:34.430 --> 02:10:37.359 Sheva Carr: one of my mentors calls Nbd. 1101 02:10:39.070 --> 02:10:40.530 Sheva Carr: No big deal. 1102 02:10:42.100 --> 02:10:43.820 Sheva Carr: I've been in this UN 1103 02:10:44.150 --> 02:10:49.789 Sheva Carr: seminar. Well, actually, half an hour longer than the rest of you, because we came early to party before you all got here. 1104 02:10:50.030 --> 02:10:55.790 Sheva Carr: This phone, I guarantee you, has been ringing off the hook, but I'm not picking up. I'm in a panel. 1105 02:10:57.160 --> 02:11:04.389 Sheva Carr: Sometimes the heart doesn't respond right away, but if you leave a message it calls you back later. So no problem. If you didn't hear something. 1106 02:11:07.030 --> 02:11:13.840 Sheva Carr: I want you to look at your first response and pick a word that summarizes that reaction and circle it. 1107 02:11:14.940 --> 02:11:18.099 Sheva Carr: The response before asking your heart, mentor. 1108 02:11:35.550 --> 02:11:41.529 Sheva Carr: and pick a word or a phrase that summarizes your heart's response 1109 02:11:43.160 --> 02:11:44.580 Sheva Carr: and circle, that 1110 02:11:46.000 --> 02:11:47.340 Sheva Carr: if you heard one. 1111 02:11:53.290 --> 02:11:56.130 Sheva Carr: and what I would have you do 1112 02:11:56.960 --> 02:12:05.509 Sheva Carr: is put those words side by side in the chat. So my first word was conflict, and then my heart's response was explore 1113 02:12:07.530 --> 02:12:09.360 Sheva Carr: one of my core values. Actually. 1114 02:12:11.000 --> 02:12:15.959 Sheva Carr: So you're putting your before and after words in the chat. 1115 02:12:16.500 --> 02:12:18.650 Sheva Carr: Avoidance to reach out. 1116 02:12:25.280 --> 02:12:30.780 Sheva Carr: strategize, to feel through. Don't think through urgency to patience. 1117 02:12:36.710 --> 02:12:38.190 Sheva Carr: love these. 1118 02:12:43.580 --> 02:12:45.700 Sheva Carr: I am an N. Of one 1119 02:12:46.570 --> 02:12:50.949 Sheva Carr: juggling to believe. Thank you, Carolyn. I am an N. Of one 1120 02:12:51.490 --> 02:12:53.389 Sheva Carr: to how this 1121 02:12:53.760 --> 02:12:58.960 Sheva Carr: emotionally intelligent physiological transformation sustains a business. 1122 02:13:00.480 --> 02:13:03.350 Sheva Carr: But I'm just going to share with you. 1123 02:13:03.830 --> 02:13:05.250 Sheva Carr: Briefly. 1124 02:13:05.470 --> 02:13:07.790 Sheva Carr: what happens when you have an N 1125 02:13:07.890 --> 02:13:13.590 Sheva Carr: of almost 12,000 people in 5 large corporations around the world. 1126 02:13:13.930 --> 02:13:18.739 Sheva Carr: they get 50% less tired, 50% less exhausted. 1127 02:13:19.020 --> 02:13:27.229 Sheva Carr: 50% less depressed, less anxious, less annoyed, less angry, and that equals reductions in turnover. 1128 02:13:27.320 --> 02:13:32.070 Sheva Carr: increased employee satisfaction and client satisfaction 1129 02:13:33.200 --> 02:13:36.049 Sheva Carr: holding above 90% 1130 02:13:36.320 --> 02:13:37.909 Sheva Carr: 6 years later. 1131 02:13:38.950 --> 02:13:42.709 Sheva Carr: increase in safety in high reliability. Industries 1132 02:13:42.760 --> 02:13:52.019 Sheva Carr: reduce reductions in employee healthcare costs, reductions in absenteeism and a more common problem. Now presenteeism 1133 02:13:52.620 --> 02:13:54.569 Sheva Carr: where they're there, but not there. 1134 02:13:55.790 --> 02:14:01.850 Sheva Carr: There is so much more that we could share about this. But I am going to honor our time. 1135 02:14:02.350 --> 02:14:08.780 Sheva Carr: Nancy put personally to me in the chat, is it? Okay, Nancy? If I share what you wrote with everyone? 1136 02:14:09.520 --> 02:14:14.070 Sheva Carr: Yes, judgment down, slant to stay the course and use the tools. 1137 02:14:14.760 --> 02:14:21.569 Sheva Carr: Nancy's heart guidance may be the final word for all of us. Stay the course and use the tools. 1138 02:14:22.961 --> 02:14:26.260 Sheva Carr: I have a quotation here for you. 1139 02:14:27.120 --> 02:14:35.640 Sheva Carr: because, as someone who loves to be mentored by others and my own heart and loves to mentor, it's my life's work. 1140 02:14:36.770 --> 02:14:40.670 Sheva Carr: I love this quotation from Steven Spielberg. 1141 02:14:42.020 --> 02:14:47.440 Sheva Carr: The delicate balance of mentoring someone is not creating them in your own image. 1142 02:14:47.790 --> 02:14:51.310 Sheva Carr: but giving them the opportunity to create themselves. 1143 02:14:52.660 --> 02:15:00.509 Sheva Carr: And I want to honor all of the women on this panel who have done that with your lives. And now do that 1144 02:15:00.730 --> 02:15:01.959 Sheva Carr: for others. 1145 02:15:02.360 --> 02:15:08.920 Sheva Carr: And this is what I know the power of the heart to do for us all is to empower us. 1146 02:15:09.040 --> 02:15:11.920 Sheva Carr: to create ourselves. 1147 02:15:12.740 --> 02:15:18.300 Sheva Carr: You've seen some beautiful examples of it today. Perhaps this will be for you. 1148 02:15:19.010 --> 02:15:23.860 Sheva Carr: not something new, but remembering something true. 1149 02:15:24.460 --> 02:15:27.260 Sheva Carr: And, Carolyn, I'm gonna hand it back to you. 1150 02:15:30.010 --> 02:15:33.070 Dr. Carolyn: Thank you so much. Thank you, Sheila. Thank you. 1151 02:15:33.500 --> 02:15:39.380 Dr. Carolyn: Thank you for this beautiful gift and for the scientifically based 1152 02:15:40.470 --> 02:15:41.870 Dr. Carolyn: heart coherence. 1153 02:15:43.670 --> 02:15:45.730 Dr. Carolyn: I appreciate 1154 02:15:46.070 --> 02:15:51.010 Dr. Carolyn: how that brings all of it together, and how it thoroughfares through everything 1155 02:15:51.040 --> 02:15:52.800 Dr. Carolyn: that we've learned today 1156 02:15:53.010 --> 02:15:55.069 Dr. Carolyn: and our our mission 1157 02:15:55.330 --> 02:15:58.309 Dr. Carolyn: and being here today. Thank you. Thank you. Thank you. 1158 02:16:00.430 --> 02:16:01.789 Dr. Carolyn: As we close. 1159 02:16:02.110 --> 02:16:04.169 Dr. Carolyn: Thank you. Everyone for being here. 1160 02:16:04.560 --> 02:16:31.289 Dr. Carolyn: In the chat, we placed our our link to be able to gather all of the tools that we shared today, along with all of the links. We put them all in a nice, tidy one spot for you, so that you can go and download those, and it's at accelerate Jennifer equality.com. It's one place where you can see our information, and you can download all the tools from today. And as we come to a close and 1161 02:16:31.930 --> 02:16:33.250 Dr. Carolyn: and circle back 1162 02:16:33.420 --> 02:17:01.320 Dr. Carolyn: as our objectives from today, recapping, cultivating a network of support and confidence facilitating member men, women, and mentorship programs ex and connect experienced women with inspiring entrepreneurs and 2 breaking down barriers and championing equal opportunities for women, advocating for gender equality by dismantling stereotypes and unconscious bias within the entrepreneurial ecosystem. 1163 02:17:01.389 --> 02:17:07.679 Dr. Carolyn: And, third, we want to leave you with the overall holistic approach 1164 02:17:07.730 --> 02:17:12.009 Dr. Carolyn: to success being able to lean in. 1165 02:17:12.270 --> 02:17:15.899 Dr. Carolyn: And I'm into emotional wellness, intelligence. 1166 02:17:16.100 --> 02:17:25.299 Dr. Carolyn: using entrepreneur, entrepreneurship, training such as leadership, financial inclusion, emotional well-being and heart intelligence combined 1167 02:17:25.400 --> 02:17:29.459 Dr. Carolyn: in which to empower women worldwide 1168 02:17:29.670 --> 02:17:37.210 Dr. Carolyn: to step into intra and entrepreneurialism with mentorship. Thank you. Everyone. 1169 02:17:37.670 --> 02:17:48.570 Sheva Carr: And Carolyn. I just wanted to add that we do provide free mentoring at heart ambassadors and I put a link in the chat. Maybe we could even add it to the 1170 02:17:48.590 --> 02:17:50.170 Sheva Carr: QR. Code. Link. 1171 02:17:51.020 --> 02:17:58.549 Sheva Carr: If anyone would like a complimentary mentoring session with one of our licensed heart math professionals. 1172 02:17:58.740 --> 02:18:04.490 Sheva Carr: It is our great joy to give that to you as a gift, and the link for that is in the chat. 1173 02:18:06.446 --> 02:18:12.559 Sheva Carr: I can certainly stay. I don't know if Carolyn and Asma and Arlette and 1174 02:18:13.120 --> 02:18:17.959 Sheva Carr: Jessica, if you're able to stay, if there are any questions for us. 1175 02:18:18.969 --> 02:18:23.530 Sheva Carr: and lots of gratitude is coming in in the chat for all of you. 1176 02:18:24.070 --> 02:18:31.860 Sheva Carr: Does anyone have anything you'd like to share or ask as we complete our time together here. 1177 02:18:42.200 --> 02:18:48.550 Sheva Carr: maybe we can close with the same song we began with, just to allow 1178 02:18:48.920 --> 02:18:50.690 Sheva Carr: some digestion. 1179 02:18:51.860 --> 02:18:52.910 Sheva Carr: Yeah. 1180 02:18:54.160 --> 02:18:57.180 Sheva Carr: I'm seeing some yeses to that. 1181 02:19:02.760 --> 02:19:05.620 Sheva Carr: Here we go. Here we grow. 1182 02:19:22.250 --> 02:19:23.049 Sheva Carr: A 1183 02:19:23.540 --> 02:19:24.629 Sheva Carr: yeah. 1184 02:19:25.440 --> 02:19:27.990 Sheva Carr: there's a secret remedy 1185 02:19:28.690 --> 02:19:31.160 Sheva Carr: hiding underneath the tree 1186 02:19:31.570 --> 02:19:35.120 Sheva Carr: in the sea from which we came together. 1187 02:19:36.680 --> 02:19:40.130 Sheva Carr: cast aside for a century. 1188 02:19:40.430 --> 02:19:43.059 Sheva Carr: found in chains of slavery. 1189 02:19:43.420 --> 02:19:47.030 Sheva Carr: waiting for the roots to come together 1190 02:19:48.590 --> 02:19:53.980 Sheva Carr: for the sake of humanity in the name of 1191 02:19:54.010 --> 02:19:57.660 Sheva Carr: retrieve. 1192 02:19:59.130 --> 02:20:02.650 Sheva Carr: use your gift with 1193 02:20:02.720 --> 02:20:07.089 Sheva Carr: for the future. I'm a 1194 02:20:07.140 --> 02:20:08.400 Sheva Carr: protect our planet. 1195 02:20:09.070 --> 02:20:12.840 Sheva Carr: If you wish to live in bees, you. 1196 02:20:13.350 --> 02:20:14.100 Sheva Carr: Shannon. 1197 02:20:34.850 --> 02:20:41.269 Sheva Carr: Now this is begin to sprout. Women of the world. We shall 1198 02:20:41.440 --> 02:20:44.740 Sheva Carr: races and religions bound together. 1199 02:20:45.960 --> 02:20:56.279 Sheva Carr: Tree of life, Huck, the darkness with our light. We can heal our pain when we're together. 1200 02:20:57.170 --> 02:21:02.000 Sheva Carr: women of the love united, calling all our sisters 1201 02:21:02.580 --> 02:21:03.550 Sheva Carr: defence and bride 1202 02:21:05.440 --> 02:21:06.440 Sheva Carr: every 1203 02:21:08.610 --> 02:21:09.340 Sheva Carr: sky. 1204 02:21:10.710 --> 02:21:12.190 Sheva Carr: my darkest 1205 02:21:12.590 --> 02:21:13.850 Sheva Carr: words, let me 1206 02:21:13.970 --> 02:21:15.009 Sheva Carr: train your back. 1207 02:21:15.420 --> 02:21:22.140 Sheva Carr: Sanity 1208 02:21:26.110 --> 02:21:26.800 Sheva Carr: me! 1209 02:21:45.360 --> 02:21:47.750 Sheva Carr: Ya! 1210 02:21:48.230 --> 02:21:53.680 Sheva Carr: A. 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